Chapter 33 Tell Your Lover What Emotional Buttons You Have

Speaking of managing emotional buttons, in fact, emotional buttons are often assumed. For example: A man who texts his girlfriend and gets emotional when his girlfriend doesn't reply in time, he assumes that his girlfriend is with other men. In many cases, the hypothesis and the emotional button both mean the same thing, but the emotional button is described from the perspective of psychological learning mechanism and conditioned reflex, while the hypothesis is described from the perspective of rational logic and cognition. Therefore, for the management of emotional buttons, first of all, you can use the management method for the emotions caused by assumptions, which has been introduced earlier and will not be repeated here.

Secondly, if you want to manage your emotional buttons well, so as not to always cause emotions because of them, you can manage them from two angles: One is to tell others what your button is, so that others don't always press it. You are like a robot, with many buttons on your body. These buttons are switches for your emotions, some of which are switches for your positive emotions. When someone touches you, you will be very happy and happy, because this may open up a memory of a happy experience in your past. Memories, and some memories may be the switches of your negative emotions, they may be sad emotional buttons, or angry emotional buttons, as long as they are touched, these negative emotions will be awakened.

The above are all things you can remember, so in life, especially when you are with your lover, it is necessary for you to let him know your buttons, lest he always touch your negative emotional buttons . More buttons, you may not remember what caused them, they are all stored in your subconscious, once someone touches them, you will have corresponding emotions, which requires you to be aware of your own emotions carefully, Find these buttons that often make you feel negative, and tell your lover not to touch them all the time. For example: Ever since I told my lover: "When I heard 'who told you what', I would feel an inexplicable annoyance. I think it was caused by the experience I had when I was a child. Can I stop it in the future? Ask me this sentence?"

Since then, she has been very attentive, and almost never asked me this sentence again. Twice she forgot my explanation and asked again, but in the middle of the conversation, she just said "who and so with you..." and then stopped . But this requires me to be aware of my emotional button before I can complete the process of telling her, so it is very important to be aware of my emotional button. After you know which are your emotional buttons through awareness, tell him where are your negative emotional buttons, and the other party will be very careful and will not easily touch these switches, so as not to arouse your negative emotions. In the middle of the game, you won't get emotional because the emotional button is always touched.

The female student who forced her husband to drink boiled water no longer forced her husband to drink boiled water after hearing that it was her husband's emotional button. If her husband knew this method and told his wife that this was his emotional button early, maybe they would not have quarreled over this a long time ago.