Chapter 31 why some people are afraid of making out

Emotion buttons are like emotional switches on our bodies. Once touched, the corresponding emotions will be awakened immediately, and we will immediately experience the corresponding emotions. Everyone has some of these switches. There is a girl who was sexually assaulted when she was young. Now when she is in a relationship, as long as the other party wants to make out with her, she will be very nervous and afraid, and then quickly find a way to escape from the other party, and never Don't want to see this person. This is one of her emotional buttons, causing her to be afraid of making out with people, which has affected her normal search for a partner.

There is also a girl who once participated in my course. She was a student with very good academic performance when she was in school. Once in a self-study class, not long after the teacher left the classroom, everyone started talking, and the classroom was full of chaos. When the teacher came back, she was the only one who criticized her by name. She felt it was unfair, and she was very wronged for this. As a result, now she can't stand others treating her a little unfairly. Once she encounters this situation, she will immediately feel strongly wronged. Her emotional button also has a great impact on her current work and life.

In the previous section, why was the man who was forced by his wife to drink boiled water every morning so reluctant to drink it?If it were me, I would feel that this is an extremely happy thing, and I am willing to believe that many men will feel the same as me. It may be because when he was a child, he was forced to drink milk by his mother every morning. Over time, he formed an emotional button. When his wife forced him to drink plain water, it happened to touch his emotional button. Therefore, he The reaction will be particularly large. Emotional buttons are all related to past experiences, which are left to us by some past experiences. The experiences at that time left us with strong emotional experiences, so our subconscious mind firmly remembers these scenes. When encountering similar scenes, the subconscious mind will immediately prompt us with emotions.

There may be many types of such emotional buttons. For example, some people are afraid of being wronged, some are afraid of being belittled, some are afraid of being criticized, some are afraid of being left out, and some are afraid of being abandoned. In short, in the past In life, what kind of injury has been suffered, and people may be particularly sensitive to similar things. In fact, many characteristics of human personality are formed in this way. What kind of personality we have is directly related to what we have experienced in the past. To a certain extent, our past has created us today. are created by our past.

For example: Some people will be afraid when someone suddenly speaks loudly to him. The reason is that when he was a child, his mother often raised her voice suddenly and lost her temper with him. Some people send text messages to their girlfriends, as long as the other party does not reply in time, he will be worried. The reason is that one of his girlfriends used to often not reply to text messages, and later he knew that she was with other men. Different people have different experiences, and different experiences can cause us to have different emotional buttons, because people's experiences are not the same, so although everyone has emotional buttons, everyone's emotional buttons are very different sex.