Chapter 22 It's easy to make up our own stories to anger ourselves

As mentioned earlier, emotions are primitive and irrational. Therefore, sometimes they are not refined enough, and sometimes they are wrong. If you want to manage your emotions well, you must first learn to deal with many emotional things. Find out such emotions first, and learn to manage them, don't let them always come out to disturb your peaceful mood, and don't let them always come to affect your life. Some emotions are produced like this: One weekend afternoon, you asked a new friend of the opposite sex to meet at two o’clock. You proposed to meet at a cafe you often go to. After confirming the location, you sent the address to his mobile phone via text message.

You arrived before 1:50, ten minutes early. Seeing that there is no friend you invited in the cafe, you found a seat by the window and sat down, then you picked up a magazine and casually flipped through it. The time is coming soon, but he hasn't arrived yet, and you have an opinion about him in your heart: it turns out that this is a person who is not very punctual, and he is late. Five minutes have passed, and he hasn't arrived yet. You think to yourself, he's actually five minutes late. It seems that he doesn't think much of you, and you feel a little angry. Ten minutes later, he still hasn't arrived. You suppress some anger in your heart, pick up your phone, and prepare to call him. After dialing the number, you take a deep breath, and put the phone to your ear to listen to the dial tone.

"I'm sorry, the number you dialed has been turned off!" Such a voice came from the phone, and you became even angrier. You felt that this person simply didn't take you seriously. Twenty minutes later, he still hasn't arrived, and the phone is still unavailable. You are already very angry, and you think to yourself: How can you be like this?Since you have to come late because of something, you have to make a phone call! The more you think about it, the angrier you get, and you feel that such a person is simply unacceptable, so you pick up your phone, put down the magazine, and walk out of the cafe.

You are angry, this is the subconscious mind reminding you, so what is the subconscious mind reminding you of? Obviously, your subconscious mind is reminding you that someone actually disrespects you, and you need to teach such a person a lesson, or stay away from such a person. However, the working method of the subconscious mind is purely emotional and very primitive. The subconscious mind ignores an important issue. This person disrespecting you is just an assumption, not necessarily a fact. There are many possibilities for the fact. So far, you Still don't know what the truth is! But you're already angry, and that's where the subconscious is raw and irrational.

This person doesn't respect you, it's just a story you made up, but you believe in the story you made up, so you are very angry, and even decide to leave this place immediately, never wanting to see this person again.