Chapter 20 If you don’t buy a house and your girlfriend doesn’t get married, “anxiety” will remind you

Emotions are subconscious reminders to us. Different emotions are like different signals, telling us what happened and what to do next. If we can understand what emotions are telling us, and follow the guidance of emotions, the role of emotions is complete. Let's take the emotion of "anxiety" as an example. "Anxiety" is your subconscious mind reminding you that if you don't make some preparations and efforts now, a bad thing may happen in the future, or you may not be able to break through the current situation. The existence of anxiety reminds us to make some efforts to break through the status quo .

For example: you are an unmarried man who has not yet bought a house, and the current house price is unaffordable, and your girlfriend is unwilling to "naked marriage" with you, you may have the emotion of "anxiety"! This is your subconscious mind reminding you that with your financial ability and earning ability, if you don’t think of other ways now, you may not be able to afford a house in the future. If you can’t afford a house, your girlfriend may be " Fly" because you can't give her a sense of security. At this time, "anxiety" reminds you to think of some ways now, such as earning another salary, earning some extra money, borrowing some from relatives and friends, or buying a house as soon as possible when the house price has dropped, or buying a house in other places. Place to give your girlfriend a sense of security, that is to say, the emotion of "anxiety" reminds you to take some actions against your girlfriend's reluctance to "naked marriage".

If you don't understand what "anxiety" is prompting you.You will be "anxious" all the time, getting worse and worse, and you can't get rid of this emotion because you don't understand what your subconscious is prompting you. People who are aware of what anxiety is prompting may actively think of ways to earn more money, or find ways to improve their girlfriend’s sense of security in the future. After these things are done, the anxiety will disappear. Emotions are cues from our subconscious mind, and if we understand what our subconscious mind is cuing, they will do their job and disappear.However, if we don't understand what our emotions are telling us, our emotions will keep telling us because we haven't let them do their job.

This is like the "Stop" sign held by a traffic policeman standing on the road to check drunk drivers. The function of this sign is to remind you to stop. When the traffic policeman sees your car coming from a distance, he will hold up this sign It signals you to pull over and stop. When you see this sign, you will slow down and pull over slowly. In the process, the function of the "Stop" sign is to remind you to stop. So, when you slow down and pull over, its mission is completed, and the traffic police will put it down. When did you see the traffic police holding a sign at you after you stopped?

When emotions remind you, if you don’t realize it, it will continue to increase the intensity of reminding you. This is its working mechanism, just like the “Stop” sign in the hand of a traffic policeman reminding you to pull over. Stop, and the traffic police will swing it harder, and even put it across in front of your car. If you feel hurt in a relationship that you just lost, this sad feeling is also a reminder. On the one hand, it reminds you that you have lost a precious person. On the other hand, it also warns you that love can hurt. Yes, if you can understand its hints, and make up your mind to cherish the person you love when you meet again, and at the same time, make up your mind not to start a relationship lightly, your pain will gradually weaken, because its mission has already been fulfilled. To finish.

A person's emotional management ability, emotional intelligence, and even happiness index are all related to whether he can understand the reminders of emotions. The more he can understand what emotions are reminding himself, the more those emotional management People with high ability and emotional intelligence are more likely to be happy.