Chapter 19 Broken love is sad, it is the subconscious mind that reminds you

The role of emotions for us is like the role of traffic lights for drivers. They are our signal lights and reminders. All emotions remind us and imply us. They are very useful. For example: Fear is a reminder that we may be in danger! Sadness is a reminder that we have lost something precious! Regret is to remind us that we were at fault in the past! Worry is a reminder that bad things may happen in the future! All emotions are useful. There are estimated to be more than 200 kinds of emotions that people can perceive, and each has its corresponding function, all of which are to remind us.

Among the many situations that can cause us to have emotions, some emotional reactions are inherited from our ancestors and are the result of evolution. For example, we are born with a fear of snakes, bats, centipedes and other poisons. All emotional responses. But there are also some overly sensitive emotional reactions, which not everyone has, but are produced by individual people in the process of growing up. For example: If you were bitten by a dog when you were young, even if your memory ability was still very low at that time, you will not remember this incident when you grow up, and you may still be afraid of dogs. This is learned.

This is where the subconscious mind is amazing. Through this kind of learning, the subconscious mind can better protect you, making you afraid when you see a dog in the future, and avoid being bitten by a dog again. The same thing will happen in an emotional relationship. If a person once fell in love with another person deeply, trusted him 100% and paid unconditionally. As a result, one day the person he loved left him, he Lost in love, he may be very sad and desperate, and he can't even get out of this extremely painful emotion for a long time. After having such an experience, he may learn one thing, that is, he can no longer trust another person 100% in the future, and he will no longer give easily and unconditionally in a relationship. This is a subconscious reminder.

This is how emotions work. It can be said that without emotions, we cannot live in this world, because we are like many vehicles without signal lights, and we will rampage on the road in a mess. In that case, the car will not only It's just a means of transportation, but cold-blooded street killers, and people without emotions are no longer human beings, but cold-blooded walking dead.