Chapter 15 What is the watershed between high and low ability to love?

If a person wants to live a happy life and enjoy a happy love, it is not enough to rely on reasoning and arguing about right and wrong. He also needs to have a relatively high ability to love, and the watershed of a person's ability to love depends on his main Whether to focus on what is right or what is pleasant. This is also the standard of a person's emotional intelligence. People with high emotional intelligence pay more attention to happy things when they are with others, and people with low emotional intelligence pay more attention to the right things. From whether a person focuses on doing the right thing or on doing the pleasant thing, people can be divided into four types according to their requirements for themselves and others:

Type B people are too demanding of themselves, and they are unhappy in their hearts. Therefore, they are not people with high EQ, because people with high EQ can easily become happy themselves. Type C people value rightness and wrongness to themselves and others, and do not pay attention to happiness, which is a typical low EQ. Such people seldom have happiness themselves, and others will also feel a lot of pressure living with them, but they are The so-called "nice guy". Type D people are correct and demanding to others. Although they are happy with themselves, they have inconsistent standards for others and themselves. They feel very self-conscious, which also belongs to low EQ.

Only type A people are more concerned about happiness for others and themselves, can make themselves happy, and pay more attention to the happiness of others!Such people have high emotional intelligence. Many people know the word "emotional quotient", but they are not very clear about the specific connotation of "emotional quotient", nor do they know how to improve their "emotional quotient". The simple way to distinguish a person's emotional intelligence is to see whether he pays too much attention to being right or happy, and whether his requirements for others and himself are consistent.

The ability to love is also the specific connotation of EQ. A person with the ability to love is a person with high EQ. To improve one's ability to love is to improve one's EQ.