Chapter 30 How to Cultivate Children with Five Elements Personality

The greatest expectations of parents are nothing more than two things: one is that the child can be healthy and healthy, and the other is that the child can live a happy life. When the child is sick, the parents are most worried, and when the child is disobedient, the parents are the most sad.How to solve these two problems at the same time in one step?We have to turn to the knowledge left by our ancestors. People are always envious of someone who teaches their children well. There are many books on educating children on the market, and some people really follow them, but why is the effect not obvious?It turns out that different children need to be taught in different ways, and there is no fixed model that can be copied mechanically.Children are different from birth: gender is different, this is the difference of yin and yang; personality is different, this is the difference of personality, or the difference of the five elements.

People's five-element personality is innate, and everyone's disposition is biased when they are born.Therefore, to plan a child's health and temperament, we must first determine which personality the child belongs to. It is actually very simple to judge which personality a child belongs to: a child with a wooden personality is weak and thin, like a small tree, very assertive, sometimes stubborn, and cries loudly and softly. A child with a fire personality has a red face, even a ruddy body, is full of energy, has an irritable temper, and cries impatiently. Children with an earthy personality are short and thick, with a thick body, relatively honest, sometimes even a little dull, and stop crying when they cry.

The child with the golden personality has fair skin, lively personality, cleverness, and a clear voice when crying. Children with a water personality are quiet and cry slowly. Knowing what kind of personality a child is born with, we know how to teach him from an early age.Which line the child belongs to is most likely to have the advantages and disadvantages of this line.When a child is very young, nature is the main factor, and his personality is basically Yang, so it is said that "at the beginning of human beings, nature is good".But the transition from yang to yin is also very fast. When the child grows up a little bit and is influenced by the environment, the complexity of his unique personality begins to be revealed. There are yang and yin, good sides and bad sides. .Which kind of character the child belongs to, we must first awaken the positive side of this character and resolve the negative side: for a child with a wood character, we must maintain or arouse his self-reliance and benevolent nature (yang wood), prevent or resolve his arrogance and Stubborn (Yin wood).

For a fire-type child, it is necessary to maintain or arouse his rational nature (yang fire), and prevent or resolve his impatience and greed (yin fire). For earthy children, it is necessary to maintain or arouse his honesty and down-to-earth nature (yang earth), and prevent or resolve his suspicion and rigidity (yin earth). For a golden child, it is necessary to maintain or arouse his lively, enthusiastic, and righteous nature (Yang Jin), and prevent or resolve his jealousy and frivolity (Yin Jin). For water-based children, it is necessary to maintain or arouse their gentle and quiet nature (yang water) to prevent or resolve their laziness and stupidity (yin water).

This is the first step. If you can do this step, the child is already very good.But we still want to add to the icing on the cake, so we have the second step: we know that the five elements of yang are interdependent, and men are born along the way: yang wood generates yang fire, yang fire generates yang earth, yang earth generates yang metal, yang metal generates yang water, yang water generates yang Wood; female inverse: Yang wood produces yang water, yang water produces yang metal, yang metal produces yang earth, yang earth produces yang fire, yang fire produces yang wood.We teach children through the mutual generation of the five elements and follow the principles of the five elements, teach him to do what is easy to do, and not let him do what is difficult to do, and make use of strengths and avoid weaknesses, it will inevitably be like a broken bamboo.

I might as well summarize it into a table first, and then explain it in detail. In this way of cultivation, not only the line to which the child belongs is established, but also more beautiful characters are born. There are many children in the community where I live. There is a very cute little girl in one family. At one time, several children were playing in the yard. There was a little boy who was too small and was still drooling. The little girl immediately ran to him with great enthusiasm. Go and wipe it for him.I usually don't know some of the grandparents in the yard, but she also greets them politely by shouting "Hello, grandpa and grandma".It made those old people praise the little girl for being sensible and cute.

This little girl is a typical golden character child.Most of the children with the golden personality are fair-skinned, lively, intelligent, and they cry with clear voices.Moreover, children with a golden personality also have the characteristics of loyalty and thoughtfulness.Who doesn't like a beautiful and sensible child? Children with a Yang-jin personality are likable, while those with a Yin-jin personality will show frivolity, self-righteousness, snobbery, and like to treat people around them differently.Yin Jin's personality is like a sharp knife, with strong jealousy and barbed speech.Sometimes when we get along with people, we will meet people who speak sharply. They speak with barbs. Although they don't feel it themselves, they often offend many people.After a long time, everyone knows that the person's words are not pleasant, so they don't answer them very much.Such a person is a typical Yinjin character.

If a girl has a Yin-jin personality, she will be narrow-minded and sharp-tongued. Such a child will find it difficult to live in harmony with others when they grow up, and will always have a lot of right and wrong.And boys with yin and gold characters are even more important.If there are still people who can understand the narrow-mindedness of girls, then a boy who has a small belly every day is very offensive. Golden boy, because he is already very lively, so he should cultivate his quiet side.The boy is born with Shun, and Jin is born with water. We want to cultivate his quiet and elegant Yangshui character.Such a boy has concentrated the character traits of Yang Jin and Yang Shui, lively but not frivolous, righteous but calm in dealing with things.

But you can't develop on the soil, because this is a rebellion, and it is easy to generate a cloudy soil, which is suspicious and dishonest.A smart golden child, if you keep emphasizing honesty and not lying in front of him, he will have a rebellious mentality and prefer to lie.Because the golden child is very self-conscious, if you teach him not to lie, he will think that you think he is dishonest, so he is simply dishonest and wants to tell you a lie.Moreover, he can tell lies at a very high level, and everyone will believe them, because he is smart and lively, can deceive people, and is likable.In this way, the cunning, hypocrisy, and frivolous Yin soil and Yin gold all come out.

A golden girl, quick and lively, well-mannered and eloquent.Cultivating a faithful and stable earthy nature is a good guide for her character.I used to have a good friend who had a tomboy personality since he was a child, very cheerful, and he and boys are usually called brothers.But when you grow up, because you are studying clinical practice, you must be more careful.After five years of graduation, she is still very cheerful compared to before, but she is very careful and cautious in life and work.This is the influence of Yangtu's character.But for a girl with a golden personality, don't cultivate her gentle and quiet watery nature, because she can't be quiet at all. In her own words, she is "I am not a lady". If there is no other way, she will simply stay behind closed doors. , not seeing people, sleeping too much, getting lazy, getting more and more upset, this is Yin water.

Children with wooden characters are easy to distinguish.Wooden children cry loudly and sometimes softly. Most of them are weak and thin, like a small tree.But don't be fooled by the appearance of wooden children, thinking that they will be very docile.In fact, children with a wooden personality are very assertive, they will have their own ideas, but they are also very stubborn at the same time. From this we can judge whether a child has a wooden personality.If yes, then what we need to do is to cultivate their Yangmu character.People with Yangmu personality are upright, assertive, self-reliant, and full of benevolence, all of which are good qualities.If it is Yinmu character, it will be more arrogant, disobedient, self-willed, difficult to listen to other people's opinions, go its own way, and easily confront the elders. Because of their thinness, children with a wooden personality are not very conspicuous in many cases, and they may even be bullied by their classmates.Among the classmates, they are always in the position of agreeing with others, without their own ideas; there are also some parents who find their children are very obedient, and they think such children are easy to educate, but whether they are not assertive or too obedient, it is all because of their children. Independence is not strong, lack of Yang wood character. But there are also parents who complain that their children are "too assertive". In fact, this is already a manifestation of Yinmu's character.Being too assertive means that the child is too stubborn, disobedient, or too contentious.In the process of cultivating children, parents must pay attention to whether their children have these Yinmu personality traits.If there is, it must be guided to prevent the child from developing this yin wood character. If the child is a boy and a person of wood nature, we need to cultivate his yang fire. Boys are naturally born, and wood produces fire.For a boy with a wooden personality, we need to teach him to understand things all the time, so that the child can easily become very sensible.The humility, reason, and etiquette of the Yanghuo character will overcome the defects brought about by the Yinmu character.When he has this yang fire character, he will avoid the influence of yin wood character. But it is best not to cultivate his gentleness and quietness, because it is watery, and it is retrograde from wood to water, and retrograde can only produce yin water, and the child will become lazy and cowardly.We see a lot of skinny little boys who are bullied at school, that's one of them, and they often don't do well academically.Of course, not every skinny child will be bullied. Smart kids with good grades are often skinny and woody too, because wood makes fire. Girls are reversible, if the child is a girl and a person of wooden nature, we must cultivate her yang water, teach her to be gentle, quiet, and cultivate her yang water character.Girls must have a Yangshui personality, a gentle Yang level and full of wisdom, giving people the feeling of being in the spring breeze and facing a clear spring.A slender, lanky girl, if combined with a gentle and quiet temperament, will definitely be cute.But a girl with a wooden character cannot develop towards the fire position, otherwise, a yin fire will be born.Yinhuo loves vanity, likes to argue with others, and won't let others be justified.So we often see thin and tall wooden girls with violent tempers, which are all yin fires. When I was in school, there was a very quiet girl in my class. Although many years have passed, she has always left a deep impression on me.She looks very cute and quiet, she walks lightly, and her voice is always very low, so people around her have to pay special attention to hear her.Even when doing things, he always looks slow, sometimes making people look anxious.Thinking about it later, she should be a typical water personality. Water character children will be very quiet, and their cries are slow.If it is Yangshui personality, such a child will be a gentle, refined and intelligent person.Because water is what gives people the feeling of warmth, peace and tranquility.And when you pour a glass of water on the ground, it will flow to the low-lying places along the terrain, so people with a water personality will not fight with others, and will be more magnanimous and modest, all of which are Yangshui personality.When the children in the family show a water personality, we should work hard to cultivate their Yang water personality, so that they can be gentle and refined. Such children will be very attractive in society and in group life in the future. But it's not so good if it has a Yinshui personality.Yinshui personality will be very lazy, sloppy, and always worried when encountering things. When encountering difficulties, they don't think about how to face and solve them, but shrink back involuntarily.Just like the friend I know, after graduating from college, instead of looking for a job, she stayed at home and surfed the Internet all day.She wasn't in a hurry about what to do in the future, as long as she didn't deal with too many people, she just muddled through. Boys with a water personality generally appear gentler. If they are too gentle, they will give people a cowardly feeling. Why do you feel so useless as a boy? Can't a boy be more clever and mischievous?A colleague said that his son is very good, he is very obedient at school, he only plays with a few classmates and is relatively quiet.Go to the park to play on the slide. If other children come over, he will stop playing immediately and let others play.He was a little worried, whether his son was too timid, and whether it would affect the child's future development. What I want to say is that a child's character is inherent. You can't make a person with a water character into a warm and lively gold character, nor can he become a steady and down-to-earth earth character.But you can guide him and let him develop in a good direction.On the one hand, it is necessary to prevent Yinshui personality and cultivate his Yangshui personality more.On the other hand, it is necessary to use the principle of mutual generation and restraint of the five elements to cultivate other aspects of his personality.Boys are born with Shun, water is born with wood, so we also need to cultivate his Yangmu character.Yangmu is independent, upright and assertive.In this way, although a child looks weak on the outside, he will be firm in his heart, have his own ideas, and will not depend on others. Like this colleague's child, as a parent, you should analyze whether the child is very good because he is very quiet, or because he is afraid of being timid; when seeing other children let the slide, is it because he actively wants other children to play, or because be afraid of them.If this is just a child with a very gentle personality, you just need to cultivate his Yangmu personality more.But if the child is afraid, as a parent, he must prevent his negative personality.Because boys especially need to be independent and assertive, which is determined by our social nature. Girls with a water personality are very likable, they will be very quiet and peaceful, and people around them will be very comfortable when getting along with them, which is their attraction.But even girls can't just be feminine.For a child who is too well-behaved and gentle, her heart must be relatively depressed.Cheerful and outgoing children will have a lot of places to vent their inner needs, while children with a water personality will hide many inner needs under a gentle appearance.If a child always suppresses herself, it is very bad for her growth.Therefore, on the one hand, girls with a water personality should prevent their yin and water personality, and not become a gentle but dull, sloppy child; on the other hand, they should cultivate their loyal and lively Yangjin personality.Girls are rebellious, and water is golden.A gentle and well-behaved girl who is also lively and cheerful can not only bring laughter to others, but also make her life more free and less depressed, and she will be healthier and more beautiful. I often hear parents with children complaining: Our child is too picky and can’t rest for a moment. I don’t know how he has such strong energy. We adults can’t accompany him.Hearing this, I can think of that child's ruddy complexion and very lively appearance.Such children belong to the fire personality. Children with the fire personality usually have red faces, even rosy bodies, are full of energy, have an irritable temperament, and cry very anxiously. When we know that a child has a fire personality, we will find that children with a fire personality are not only lively and active, but also sensible, smart, and polite. This is because of the nature of a fire personality, and children with a fire personality are generally very reasonable .However, some children with a fire personality will be irritable, rude, and like to argue, which is a yin fire personality. In school, we will find that there are a few disobedient "little troublemakers" and "little naughty" in almost every class. They either make small moves in class, make funny faces, or like to offend other students .Such children cause headaches for parents and upset teachers. They don't know how to educate them well. In fact, this is the manifestation of Yinhuo's character.For such a child, it is necessary to cultivate his sensibility and personality, and guide this liveliness in a favorable direction.When a child understands what to do and what not to do, he will debug his behavior by himself.And liveliness is not all bad, they will also be very smart, and their brains are very lively, which is the nature of their yang fire personality. Generally, boys show more fiery personality.It’s not enough for a child to be lively and active. Although he has enthusiasm, he can’t calm down. If this continues, he can’t focus on one thing whether it’s study or work.Therefore, a boy with a fire personality needs to cultivate his yang-earth personality.Yangtu character is honest, magnanimous, steady and down-to-earth. If there is a yin-fire personality in the personality, it is especially easy to develop a yin-earth personality.Fire has a sensible personality, but Yang has a fire personality that understands etiquette, tolerance, and the principles of getting along with others.As for the Yinhuo personality, it just shows its own "reason", which will become stubborn and unreasonable.In order to argue, you will lie.Because of being smart, it is easy to weave lies.This is very similar to the child of Kim's character.Sometimes people say that smart people are scarier when they do bad things, and that's the truth.Because he is smart, he can tell lies more convincingly. Therefore, when cultivating a boy with a fire personality, we must prevent him from showing some characteristics of the yin-earth personality, but use the stability and steadiness of the yang-earth to assist and help his yang-fire personality. Girls with a fire personality are actually very common in our lives. If they are a fire personality, their development will be smoother, because they are sensible, lively and very likable.But if you have a Yinhuo personality, you will love vanity, be unreasonable, and sometimes do absurd things.There are many girls who like to reason with people and quarrel with people everywhere, but if we listen carefully, we will find that her so-called "reason" is just her own reasoning, and there are also many girls who can't resist the desire for material things and go away. On the road of no return in life. Girls are born against nature. For a girl with a fire personality, she has the characteristics of being lively and energetic, but the fire personality will also show strong greed and love for vanity.So we might as well cultivate her to be sensible, benevolent, and assertive, otherwise she will easily grow into a materialistic woman with strong dependence.At the same time, she should also cultivate her upright, assertive and independent Yangmu personality, otherwise, Yinmu personality will make her suffer and suffocate for the rest of her life. When we usually see a thin but naughty child, we think he should be very smart; when we see a weak child, we think he should be quiet; similarly, for a child who is not tall, or even short and fat , We generally think that he will be more honest, and most of the time it is true.Pudgy children generally belong to the earthy personality. Earthy children are short and puffy, with a thick body and are relatively honest. Sometimes they are even a little dull, and they stop crying when they cry. Perhaps nothing can give people a sense of security like the earth, and people with an earthy character, like the land, give people the impression of being reliable, honest and safe.Most of them have the qualities of integrity and tolerance, and they are steady and down-to-earth in doing things.This is the Yangtu character. For a person, although honesty is an advantage, he often does not behave so flexibly and smartly, and sometimes even appears clumsy and not clever enough.This is a manifestation of the shady character.The characteristics of Yintu personality are: suspicious, clumsy thinking, rigid behavior, indecisive in situations, fond of complaining about others, dishonest, often contradictory.Yang-earth is honest and prudent, while Yin-earth is false and dishonest.For the native child, it is necessary to maintain or arouse his honest and down-to-earth nature to prevent or resolve his suspicion and rigidity. There is a child in a friend's house, who belongs to this earthy personality.The chubby is very cute, and his personality is very honest, sometimes even a little too honest, and he is always bullied by others.His parents are very worried, always feel that the child's personality is too easy to be bullied.They teach children to turn back when they are hit, and to hit people too.But their method didn't seem to work at all, and the child was still beaten from time to time. Tit for tat is a solution, but it doesn't work for some people.You must know that every child has his own natural nature. You cannot ask a child with an earthy personality to be aggressive and bully other children.Therefore, when encountering such a situation, it is still necessary to analyze the specific situation before making a decision. For those parents of little boys with an earthy personality, they might as well cultivate their children's Yangjin personality.Boys are naturally born, native metal, and earthy boys can easily develop a Yang metal character.Children with Yangjin's personality are enthusiastic, lively, loyal, and considerate in human relations. A friend I knew before, thinking about it now, he should have a typical earthy personality.He is not tall and a bit fat, but he has a good personality. He is in a hurry when he walks every day. He will greet everyone with a smile when he sees him. He always likes to tell a joke to make everyone happy when he is chatting.Moreover, he has the boldness that everyone recognizes as a Shandong native.If there is anything wrong, just call out and you will be able to come to help.It is because of this kind of honest and righteous character that everyone around him is very willing to be friends with him. If you think about it carefully, you will find that he is actually the kind of person who has both Yangtu and Yangjin personalities.Yangtu's honesty and prudence, coupled with his lively and righteous Yangjin character, makes him particularly popular. For a girl with an earthy character, she is already very down-to-earth, so on the one hand, we need to prevent her yin-earth character, and on the other hand, we can develop her yang-fire character.Girls are born inversely, earth begets fire.People with a Yanghuo personality are sensible, humble, polite and generous.But be careful not to have a yin fire personality.If there are two personalities of yin earth and yin fire at the same time, then this person will be dishonest, suspicious, and always suspicious of others.If a person is dishonest, he will doubt whether others are the same. Such a character is undesirable.We see that some women are very suspicious, and she also feels that she is suspicious, but she doesn't know why.For such a person, instead of looking for external reasons, it is better to find the reasons from themselves first.