Chapter 4 problems and pain

Life is full of hardships. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths in the world.Its greatness lies in the fact that once we figure it out, we can achieve the transcendence of life.If only we knew that life was hard—if only we could truly understand and accept it, then we would never dwell on the hardships of life. However, most people don't want to face it.From their point of view, it seems that life should be comfortable and smooth.They either blame others or complain that they were born unlucky. They always lament the countless troubles, pressures, and difficulties that accompany them. They think that they are the most unfortunate people in the world. Their social class, their country and nation, and even their race suffer, while others are safe, free and happy--I am familiar with similar complaints and curses, because I have had the same feel.

Life is a series of problems. Faced with it, do you cry or stand up bravely?Do you lament helplessly, or actively seek ways to solve the problem and generously pass the method on to posterity? The first solution to life's problems is self-discipline. Without this link, you can't solve any troubles and difficulties.Partial self-discipline can only solve partial problems, and complete self-discipline can solve all problems. Encountering problems in life is itself a kind of pain, and solving them will bring new pain.Problems come in droves that keep us on the run, constantly battered by depression, sadness, sadness, loneliness, guilt, frustration, anger, fear, anxiety, pain, and despair, so that we don't know what freedom and comfort are.The pain of the heart is often as severe as the pain of the body, or even more unbearable.It is because our contradictions and conflicts are so painful that we call them problems;

Life is a process of facing and solving problems.Problems can inspire our wisdom and inspire our courage; problems are the watershed between our success and failure.Putting effort into solving problems can make the mind and mind continue to mature.It is probably based on this consideration that the school designs various problems for the children to encourage them to use their brains and find solutions.Our mind is hungry for growth, for success rather than failure, so it unleashes its highest potential and solves every problem it can.We learn best from the pain of facing problems and solving them.Benjamin Franklin, the founding father of the United States, said: "Only pain can bring lessons." Faced with problems, wise people do not choose to escape because of fear of pain, but go forward until they overcome them.

Sadly, most people don't seem to be very smart.To some extent, everyone is afraid of suffering, and when encountering problems, they panic and run away.Some people procrastinate, waiting for problems to go away; others turn a blind eye to problems or try to forget they exist; Some people live with narcotics and drugs in an attempt to keep the problem out of their awareness and get a moment of relief.We always avoid problems instead of fighting them head-on; we just want to stay away from problems, but we don't want to suffer the pain of solving them. The tendency to avoid problems and avoid pain is at the root of human mental illness.Everyone has a tendency to avoid problems, so most people's mental health is defective, and there are very few people who are really healthy.Some people who avoid problems prefer to hide in the illusory world created by their minds, or even completely lose touch with reality, which is tantamount to cocooning themselves.The psychology master Carl Jung even clearly pointed out: "Neurosis is a common substitute for suffering in life."

The pain of the substitute is even more intense than the pain of the escape, making neuroses a more difficult problem.Many people continue to use neurosis as a substitute in order to avoid new problems and pains, leading to various mental diseases.Fortunately, there are also people who can calmly face neurosis, seek help from a psychologist in time, and face normal pain in life with a correct attitude.In fact, if you avoid problems and pain recklessly, you will lose the opportunity to promote spiritual growth by solving problems, which will lead to more and more serious mental illnesses, and long-term and chronic mental illnesses will stop people's minds. grow.Without timely treatment, the mind will shrink and degenerate, and the mind will never mature.

The right thing to do is to teach ourselves, and our children, the extraordinary value of life's problems and pains. The courage to take responsibility and face difficulties can make the mind healthy.Self-discipline is the primary tool to solve life problems and an important means to eliminate life pain.Through self-discipline, we know how to benefit from learning and growth with perseverance and courage in the face of problems.When we teach ourselves and our children to be self-disciplined, we are also teaching both of us how to endure pain and grow. What are the skills of self-discipline?How to eliminate the pain in life through self-discipline?Simply put, the so-called self-discipline is an important principle to solve the pain in life with a positive and proactive attitude. It mainly includes four aspects: delaying satisfaction, taking responsibility, respecting facts, and maintaining balance.They are not complicated, but to use them correctly, you need to know carefully and practice extensively.They are actually so simple that even a ten-year-old can eventually master them.But sometimes, even the king of a country, for ignoring and disregarding them, will face revenge and kill himself.The key to practicing these principles lies in your attitude. You have to dare to face pain instead of avoiding it.For people who are constantly trying to avoid pain, these principles will not work, and they will never benefit from self-discipline.Next, I will elaborate on these principles in depth, and then discuss the driving force behind them-love.