Chapter 34 Section 2 The FBI's praise is always appropriate and appropriate

An FBI agent is a technical expert. The knowledge they learn and use involves dozens of disciplines, including law, philosophy, politics, architecture, meteorology, psychology, and physiology.Moreover, they must also have rich life experience and communication skills. This kind of communication can be summed up as: sharp mouth, brains, kind heart, and gentle face. For example, when interacting with people, they pay great attention to skills, and even when they praise others, they pay great attention to degree.They believe that praise should be appropriate and not excessive, and only when it is just right can it please people's hearts and achieve their goals.

FBI agent Trish has a problem with a case - he can't get close to the target.On this day, he got news that his target person was drinking afternoon tea in his coffee shop.He hurried over, only to see a young man sitting by the window seat reading a book called "The Secret of Wealth", which was exactly what he wanted to approach.So, he naturally walked over and said, "You are also reading this best-selling popular book on the market today! I also love reading this book." "This book is so well written, it's like a college textbook, a college textbook for a social university."

"Yes, you are right. This is exactly the concept advocated in this book. What kind of mentality and wisdom a person possesses determines the level of understanding he has. From what you said just now, I can judge that , you are not just reading this book, you should have studied it thoroughly, right?" "Haha! I don't like going to school by nature, I just like reading extracurricular books." "However, you have the talent for reading. It's just that there may be some elders around you, such as your teachers or parents, who may not be able to keep up with your ideas for a while and may not agree with you. I feel that you are very good at using knowledge. Look, you are so young You have just opened such an exquisite coffee shop, and your store will continue to expand in the future, and if you can combine your field and integrate the concepts of this book to do things, you will be amazing."

After listening to Trish's positive and extended praises for his views and understandings, the young man's enthusiasm for talking increased greatly, and he couldn't help talking and elated, so that Trish completed his goal of getting close to the target person. When talking with others, if you want to gain the approval of the other party, you should be good at grasping the key points of everything and expressing your own feelings, so that the other party can feel that you can directly approve of his core things, you must know how to get rid of the other party's loose sand. In the language, "scouring" out the compliment points that hide the intention of the other party, and then expand and extend it.

The effect of praise is to play it by ear, stop when enough is enough, and truly achieve "when you are slightly drunk with fine wine, and when you see a good flower half-bloomed." An ordinary FBI agent was hospitalized. Director Hoover said something like this when he visited in person: "Usually when you are here, you can't feel how much contribution you have made. Now without you in the post, I feel that the work has no clue." , Panicked. You must rest assured to recover from your illness!" Director Hoover's words moved this subordinate very much, he thought it was the director's concern for him and his affirmation of his work.

You treat your subordinates as right-hand men and make him think that he is very important, so how can you not win people's hearts? Given the right opportunity to praise, we should speak up.Anyway, everyone likes a well-timed compliment. When you praise the other party just right, it will make the other party feel very comfortable; but if you praise too much, it will go too far, making the compliment not fresh and making the other party feel disgusted.A real master of praise knows how to control the heat when praising, relax and retract freely.