Chapter 36 Chapter 10 Seeing Women from a Man's Point of View

There are two points that need to be said first. In the eyes of French writer Simone de Beauvoir, the status of women in a patriarchal society can be described as humiliating.She angrily charged that women are men's playthings, accessories, and "second sex". Beauvoir is the mistress of feminism, and can be called the "extinct master" of feminism.But when feminism spread to China, things changed.In the eyes of some so-called "feminists" (mainly writers and white-collar leftover women) in China today, feminism has become advocating that women should not resist rape (because the inequality with men should be eliminated in terms of sex), control men, free.

Regardless of these views, the argument has an implicit presupposition that it erases the differences in social roles and psychological characteristics of men and women. From the perspective of women's psychological protection, unless a person is like Beauvoir, who can be the lover of the philosopher Sartre for a lifetime without getting married, can have enough money to play with personality and fashion without being afraid of loneliness, and can completely ignore traditional Chinese culture and The constraints of the family, otherwise, it is better not to become a feminist psychologically, because it means suffering.You are not the same kind of people as those strong "feminists", you can't afford it.

There have been many prejudices against women in human history, and we must strongly condemn them, and hope that such prejudices will disappear in our psychology today. The presupposition of this kind of prejudice is exactly the opposite of the presupposition of "feminism", that is, women and men are not regarded as the same kind of people.In its eyes, women are psychologically naive animals, like children or "savages."For example, in modern times, two philosophers, Nietzsche and Schopenhauer, hated women very much.The famous saying of the former is: "Want to find a woman? Please bring your whip!" Why does a poor man feel so useless in front of the rich, so uncomfortable, so unable to hold his head up?The real reason is not that he is poor, but that he agrees with the distinction between the poor and the rich and looks down on the poor from the bottom of his heart.Similarly, if a woman is affected by such prejudices, she looks down on women in her bones and wants to become a man.Being strong in social life is an important way for them to try to forget that they are a woman.

Prejudice is prejudice because it is only the product of emotion.The reason why a person holds such prejudice is that he only defines women from the situation of women in ancient society, and then deduces it that the difference between men and women is purely biological.It's like crippling a person and then saying he was born crippled. A woman who has the misfortune to be influenced by both types of prejudice can lose her sense of who she really is.The inability to position ourselves accurately has always been our worst enemy.This is especially true for women.