Chapter 34 6.Performer types need to construct self-identity through vanity

Personality Type: Acting Comprehensive psychological strength index: ★★★ Typical Character: Socrates Personality Traits: Possesses a strong vanity. If many people in the low self-esteem type want to disappear from the crowd and make themselves invisible to others, then the performance type is just the opposite. He must stand out in the crowd and let everyone see himself. They were born in this world to attract people's attention.Just being a spectator would be a failure in life for them.Vanity is the eternal desire of performers. They are lions, they are foxes, they may be peacocks.

Like the low self-esteem type, although there are roughly only two types of performer types, they are also severely differentiated.It is hard for you to imagine that Socrates and Mao Zedong can be put together.And if you compare Socrates with those shallow office white-collar workers, you will be even more surprised. But don't be surprised. The performer never leaves his ego alone to face the world.For them, either his ego is a generalization of a type of man, or he has no ego at all.His "self" is just a reflection of a certain class, a certain way of life, he is empty.The former tends to incorporate a certain type of person into his ego structure, while the latter tends to incorporate himself into a class.

It is very difficult for you to defeat the former type of performer, because their ego has surpassed the limitations of the flesh and society, and has become the embodiment of something awesome.The premise of defeating Socrates is that you have to defeat reason.The prerequisite for defeating Mao Zedong is that you have to wipe out the black crowd.can you do it The latter type of acting is easy to defeat, but the premise is that your role is better than the role he plays.Let a performance-type female white-collar bow down under your jeans and bow down to you, provided that your external packaging is more upscale than the class and lifestyle she belongs to, or , Your acting talent in other areas dwarfs the so-called taste of that class.

Among all personality types, performers are the thickest-skinned, but this is not the kind of thick-skinned, but they have the ability to dare to expose themselves in the public that other personality types do not have. .On average, they are psychologically stronger than other personality types. In this world, the most unneglectable people are inferiority-type people and performance-type people. The world has become like this, mainly because of them.And it is easier for them to destroy the world than anyone else, and they are more ruthless. Hitler almost sent mankind to hell, Socrates could make a great democratic system precarious with just a three-inch tongue, Lincoln could make a slave race see the dawn of liberation from now on, and Mao Zedong could restore self-confidence to a huge country .Just looking at one of the most outstanding nations in the world - the Jewish nation, it can be found that most of its personality types are inferiority complex, performance and possession.How strange.

It is no exaggeration to say that only when the low self-esteem type and the acting type provide a condition, the possessive type can succeed; only when the inferiority type and the acting type provide a situation, the aggressive type can have a chance Vent crazily; without the conditions provided by the inferior, showy, possessive type, the show-off type has nothing to show off at all. Of course, if you don't belong to the three personality types of low self-esteem, performance, and possession, don't panic.Just as they have produced and are producing excellent thinkers, statesmen, and business tycoons, so they have produced and are producing countless parasites, perverts, and neuroses.For the acting type, most of them are self-satisfied and hypocritical, false, and split personality abounds.

According to the different grades, performers are divided into two extremes. ① Play the role of a "spokesperson" for ideas, cultures, systems, and ideas Most of these people are good teachers, extremely confident, and have strong debate skills.They are good at performing, good at capturing the psychology of the audience, they can always stir up waves of enthusiasm, and there is no lack of followers. Here I want to teach studious readers a trick. Many thinkers are both inferior and performative, so how to distinguish which one they are?One of the easiest ways is to look at their language. Those who can speak in a popular and sensational way are mostly performative people; while those who speak in an obscure and abstract way are mostly inferior.The psychological motivation here is that people with inferiority complex focus not on the reaction of the audience, but on the strength of what they say, while people with performance type do the opposite.

②Play the role of a class with grades, taste, and higher value in society Both are performers, this type of person is quite different from the former type, and generally pays more attention to secular decoration. The former type of people don't pay much attention to image design such as clothing, because they have a self that they think is very powerful, and this self has absorbed infinite power from ideas; It is obtained from a class with high class and taste, so it is necessary to play the external image of a class. For this kind of performers, whatever is popular and considered to be tasteful, they have to participate in the performance and make themselves the protagonists.They cannot be the first to buy a certain fashionable dress because they lack the ability to think independently and cannot judge whether it will be popular or not.But once there are signs of epidemics, they will start immediately.

Such performers, if they belong to a class with a higher value ranking, such as the wealthy class, then they will not show off wearing a thick gold ring, or drive a BMW rampage, but will choose a relative Talk about performing in a tasteful fashion, such as doing environmental protection, doing charity, playing competitions, holding salons, and so on. They actually looked down upon rich men who ostentatiously wore big gold rings, and refused to admit that they were their kind. From the perspective of the psychological motivation of performers, why? As I said above, what this type of performer wants to show off is not direct power, money, etc., but an identity packaged with taste.To show off with a big gold ring is not taste, it's vulgarity.

If performers themselves do not belong to a class with a higher value ranking, for example, they are just small white-collar workers. In other words, they tend to imitate the lifestyle and tastes of a higher class than them, and make themselves more upscale. "Fashion" is the word they use most often and that best defines their behaviour.When speaking, they must appear to be following the most popular social phenomena, such as new buzzwords on the Internet, and they will immediately show them at the party.A sentence of Chinese mixed with an English word is a classic technique of their performance.

Combination: Theatrical personality + eager to possess = social player or vain actor Power, money, beauty and other things are scarce resources in any society. They are in a higher position in the ranking of social value and are a symbol of a person's success and excellence.So it's no surprise that the vast majority of performers are pretty good.Who among them would want to play a cheap guy? There are three types of people with strong vanity: one is the low self-esteem type, the other is the performance type, and the third is the show-off type.Inferiority-type people have vanity because they want to find their value in front of others and save their weak self; performance-type people have vanity because the things they use for vanity can just constitute their self Identification; the showy type has vanity because he relies on it to survive psychologically, and if his vanity is not satisfied, he is finished.

Performers are excellent actors, but whether they become excellent social players or just a vain actor depends on the ambition to possess scarce resources such as money, power, and beauty, and whether they have a calm psychological quality, etc. . From the perspective of psychological strength, for a vain actor, you only need to suppress him in dressing, and he will be defeated, not to mention stripping away their "taste" decorated with money and consumption. Because they have been hiding the real self, but only face the world with a false self who plays a certain class, a certain identity, and has a certain taste.Unfortunately, they mistake this false self for their real self.That is, they act out their false selves without knowing that they are acting. In this way, when they are suppressed, their real self has been expelled from the psychological structure and cannot protect them, and the false self has no ability to resist, so it is almost collapsed at the touch of a finger. This principle can be extended to any person who is not a showman, but likes to show off his intelligence, his beauty, his image, and his temperament.Some veterans in the field of love are well versed in this way, and it is easier to succeed in dealing with beautiful women by suppressing them rather than flattering them. For social players, they appear to be strong on the surface, but their inner fragility is no less than that of vain actors. I want to correct a popular erroneous view. This view holds that social players are good at dancing, familiar with the world, understand the various rules of society, and are good at understanding people's hearts. The city is very deep. Therefore, they often have a strong will and a strong mind. On the surface, this makes sense.Because social players face the world as actors and play games with others, they know they are acting.The vain actor gets hit with his false "self," because that's his ego, and he's finished; but the social player gets hit with his false self, since he knows he's acting, and it doesn't do him any harm. However, for social players, their psychological strength is only reflected in this aspect, and the aspect of being able to play with others.As long as any one of the following two things is defeated, their psychological defense will be destroyed. ①The scarce resources they possessed, such as power and money, were stripped away overnight.This means, they can no longer play the role of the player.They were kicked off the stage and could only watch people perform and let people play themselves.This is unbearable for many social players, and some people even have a nervous breakdown and commit suicide. ②When playing games with others, being played by someone, especially someone they look down on, for them, this is the biggest blow to their acting skills.A blow to acting skills is a blow to their intelligence and ambition, which is also a fatal blow to their psychological weakness! Combination: performative personality + devotion to a certain idea = ideal person (philosopher, priest, revolutionist, saint) Performers tend to give people a superficial and superficial impression, that's because most performers are like this.But there is another kind of performer, and it would be an absolute mistake to say they are flashy and shallow. As I said before, this kind of performer does not play the identity and taste of a class with a higher value ranking, but plays a certain type of intelligent and moral person, and strives to be perfect.This is the fundamental difference between them and social players and vain actors. If we apply Plato's statement mechanically, then the so-called wisdom and morality are an abstract "idea", and those who play such roles are the "fundamentals" of this "idea". For this kind of performers, they have a natural anxiety and mental tension, and they are afraid that they will fail when they play this kind of role.Therefore, different from social players and vain actors, they often transcend the world in thought, and transcend social value ranking psychologically.In a word, their psychology is very strong. The role they play contains a concept in itself.And if they want to play this kind of role well, they need to have the persistence to "dedicate" to a certain idea. It's hard to imagine such people being easily overwhelmed psychologically.It is often foolish to try to be an enemy of such people instead of befriending them.Playing a philosopher, a priest, or a revolutionist is the value basis for this kind of people to exist in this world. Their whole life seems to exist for this matter.Their persistent ideas are enough to make them despise any difficulties, even death. In this world, it seems that not only "idea people" are dedicated to a certain idea.Yes, we see too many deaths for ideas.For example, if a person firmly believes in the supremacy of the nation-state, he is willing to die generously even when he is invading other countries, not to mention resisting aggression. Socrates also died for philosophical rational convictions. However, it would be a big mistake to confuse the two.For the former type of people, they are essentially slaves of ideas, those who create ideas, or puppets controlled by social values ​​and political ideologies. They have no independent self, and they must parasitize on an abstract For the latter kind of person, the concept is selected through his rationality, he has an independent self and subjectivity, but his self is based on the ideal of the kind of person he plays. Image to design. Another difference between them is: if the former do not have the audience to affirm themselves, they will be depressed and will not be able to survive psychologically; while for the latter, whether there is audience affirmation is basically irrelevant. We have come to a word - parasitism.Everyone in biology knows what it means.For idea people, they don't need to be parasitic.However, for social players and vain actors, without exception, they are psychological parasites. Combination: acting character + identification with fate = clown The proportion of performance-type people who identify with fate is not high, but there are still people.They are often people who are insulated from the success standards of this society. According to the popular opinion of the society, they are relatively unsuccessful and useless. You must have seen some people playing clowns to entertain the public in movies and TV shows. For example, in some movies and TV shows in Hong Kong, someone must play a fool while someone is playing a hero.This kind of idiots have demented expressions and talk like idiots, but they are also funny.Artistically, they are successful supporting actors. The entertainment industry is full of such people.Of course they are the darlings of the system and the market, but their stage image is a typical clown. Of course, a clown is not a fool, but a person who is ridiculed, cunning, clever, looked down upon by others but can make people happy.They performed this image for the purpose of satisfying the condescending psychology of the public and making them happy. This is of great significance to clowns in real life. Performance-type people can't stop their performances, because either they think they have not yet achieved such a perfect image, or they will always face suspicious eyes. But what if the performer has no ability to play such a perfect image, to play a member of a higher social value ranking, unable to show a certain kind of elegant taste? Then retreat psychologically and change roles yourself in order to retain the audience.If one cannot play a philosopher, a priest, or a white-collar worker, then play a clown. The person who plays the clown has either gone through a series of failures, or knows that he is not capable, or has no self-confidence, and suppresses his urge to squeeze into the upper class.In short, they resigned to their fate.In order to survive psychologically and find pleasure in the attention of the audience, they have to have fun while suffering, use the audience's laughter to set off their own existence value, use the audience's recognition of themselves to recognize themselves, and use their seemingly humorous and witty language and actions. To confirm self-worth and avoid facing your own real situation. Therefore, behind the clown's vigorous and funny performance is often the bitterness in his heart. But they can't stop. Once they stop, they will meet the "self" they have been avoiding in the dark.This is really terrible for them.