Chapter 32 4.Aggressive people can never tolerate the beauty of other people's world

Personality type: aggressive personality Average psychological strength index: ★ Typical character: Li Kui Personality traits: I finish my game mentally, and I hope others will do the same. In this world, some people feel uncomfortable if they don’t spit at others, plot against others, speak ill of others, or attack others.Born into the world, he seemed to come here to do these things. He hated himself all the time, but he dared not let himself know it. He's finished, but he wants others to be finished with him. Of all animals, the most aggressive is man.The farther away from nature people are, the more social they are, the more crowded the society and the fiercer the competition, the more aggressive they are.

But some people's aggression is not a reaction to stimulation by the external world, but a character.He unconsciously wants to attack others.Attacking others has become his daily way of maintaining his psychological survival. Aggressive people are the informers you usually see, vicious women, men who like to beat their wives, thieves who are addicted to stealing, scum who fight and cause trouble, bosses who like to put shoes on their subordinates, and those indifferent faces at the service window , and any sadist you can identify with. They either use their mouths, or their hands, or they act on their own, or they instigate others. In a word, they cannot stop their aggressive impulses.The world seems to have hatred against them, and they must take revenge.

For aggressive people, the beauty of the world is absolutely intolerable.It would be best for everyone but him to be unlucky, and it would be through his mouth and his hands. No matter what the aggressive person looks like, he is a coward at heart.He is terrified of the world.Being tough on the inside and weak on the inside, strong on the outside but dry in the middle are their psychological characteristics. Aggressive people are certainly not born.We have been saying that some people are born scum, but it is better understood as a rhetoric than a description of fact. Like the cynic in the low self-esteem type, the aggressive type has corrupted ego.But unlike the cynic, he refuses to admit and is unaware of his own corruption.He is even more unwilling to destroy himself mentally.He has only one purpose, which is to take revenge on the world.This world has corrupted his mental structure, so he won't make it easy for others.

On the whole, if in this world, a person spends his whole life trying to avoid pain, then attacking people is trying to make others suffer. Aggressive personality arises from several reasons. When a person grows up, if he lacks the upbringing of respecting others and his parents dote on him, but they are far from meeting the needs of the child, causing him psychological frustration, then the child may take one step from inferiority complex to thinking that the world owes him , he needs to beat others down and make up for what he thinks he deserves.Or, the parents abused him, and psychologically it expanded to seem like the whole world abused him.The hostile "little bullies" we see belong to this category, and most of them are not good things when they grow up.

In any society, especially Chinese society, when people have relationships with each other, there is always a situation of unequal power and one person bullying another.For example, a boss, a government employee, a prison guard, or a train ticket seller have the right to tease a subordinate, an ordinary person, a prisoner, or a passenger at will, and the latter has no ability to fight back.Over time, the aggressive character of certain people in a dominant position is developed. In society, the less mutual trust between people, the more likely a person will be hurt by others, which will activate people's psychological defenses and gradually change a person's personality.If A is often attacked when interacting with others, then in order to protect himself, he is forced to preemptively attack others first, and over time, he develops an aggressive personality and cannot stop.Most of these people are transformed from people with low self-esteem, and they are the type of pervert and struggler with possessive values.

Aggressive people never do great things.Those who can really do great things, whether they are destroying or constructing the world, most of them are inferior, possessive, and performative.History is written by this group of people, reality is also constructed by this group of people, and the future is drawn by this group of people. Attackers can only watch the show. Marx was an inferior person, Socrates was a performer, Mao Zedong was a performer, and Washington was a possessive.But among aggressive people, none of these people ever appear. They are basically community gossips, street thugs, institutional parasites, members of violent machines, employees large and small in commercial establishments.

The reason why they can't do great things is that they can't expand their own self-corruption into the world's self-corruption to everyone, or even just a class or a group of people, so their ideals never go beyond the scope of individuals. They can only vent their hatred for the world either explicitly or implicitly in their life and work.Moreover, whether they laugh at others, plot against others, or hurt others, they are always targeting specific people, and people who are weaker than them.They never aim at abstract things, such as value systems and institutional arrangements.

Aggressive people are easy to spot: ① look into their eyes The eyes of people with low self-esteem can be indifferent, arrogant, fearful, or confident.But there is always only one light in the eyes of the attacker, and that is hatred.When you're with him, look into his eyes, those eyes that are hostile to the world. Hate can flash in anyone's eyes.But for other types of people, it's anger-induced.The hatred of an aggressive person does not need any reason, the reason is in his character structure. ②Listen to what they say It would be naive to think that you can communicate normally with aggressive people.The inability to communicate normally with him means that you cannot discuss any issue in depth objectively and without prejudice, because the world he sees and understands is only the world in his heart.

For aggressive people, the world is not for understanding, but for attacking.Therefore, language is not a tool for him to explore the truth, not a means of interpersonal communication, but a knife.All their words have only one purpose, and that is to vent his aggressiveness. No matter talking about anything or anyone, in less than a few words, aggressive people will attack.If something doesn't give him an excuse to attack, he changes the subject.For him, just communicating normally instead of allowing him to vent his aggressiveness is tantamount to torture. ③Look at their expressions

Hatred eyes usually correspond to distorted expressions.A person with a hypocritical smile for a long time, you look at his face, he looks very hypocritical; a long-term lewd smile, he looks very shameless; a long-term sinister smile, he looks very sinister; a long-term naive smile, he looks very honest; a long-term pile of hatred , that face looks very wretched and vicious. Of all the personality types, the aggressive type is the least ideal.They are deeply embedded in the secular life like nails, and they can never escape the world he lives in spiritually.Therefore, the values ​​​​of this type of people are relatively single, and there are basically two types.

Combination: Aggressive personality + desire to possess = sadism As I said before, everyone loves money, power, and beauty (for women, beauty of course refers to handsome men).It's just that everyone's motives for possessing these things are different. A possessive person possesses money, power, and beauty. He is full of self-satisfaction and ambition in his heart, but generally he will not show it in front of others. Only when you compliment him a little, he will show it irresistibly. come out.Before he gets it, he's generally sophisticated, calm, and trying his best to promote his own values ​​of possession. After the inferior type has money, power, and beauty, he will appear to be insane, because he has finally got rid of his inferior self.He doesn't want the whole world to know that he "succeeded", but he must let the people who made him feel inferior know.And before he possesses it, he either appears to have no interest in these things (because he has no ability to protect himself psychologically), or makes himself look like a fanatical believer in money, power, and beauty fetishism. He fantasizes that he can possess these things one day. His motto is "I want to succeed! I will succeed!" After the performance-type people possess money, power, and beauty, they will immediately downplay the naked characteristics of these scarce resources, and treat them as "taste" and "grade".And when they don't own it, they put a fake smile on the world, and appear as if they belong to the group that already owns these things.This is a group of extremely camouflaged people in every word and deed, and they want to appear high-end in every way.They have no ego, and the dress, etiquette, and language style of the upper class are their ego. Therefore, they are not highlighting themselves, but which class and type of people they belong to. The aggressive type will not be self-satisfied, will not be flattered, will not go crazy, and will not pretend to be high-end, but will be sadistic after possessing money, power, and beauty.In the past, they may only abuse with words, which is so powerless; only abuse with behavior, and this is full of risks.But now, they have power and sadistic legitimacy. Therefore, if they possess power, they will immediately become a boss who tortures their subordinates endlessly. Their job content is to find a way to torture a certain subordinate or a group of subordinates. After having money, those who ask him or work for him will be unlucky, and he will belittle the "poor ghost".The most extreme action is to throw money at the "poor ghost" in the face. Possess beauty, then this woman will be unlucky.He'll turn into a sadist who can do anything.And, like possessives, they aren't content with just having one. And if aggressive people have not possessed money, power, and beauty, then, like other things in the world, money, power, and beauty will also become the targets of their attacks.As long as they want to possess money, power, and beauty but have not yet obtained it, they will feel the "harm" from money, power, and beauty more seriously, and they must destroy them psychologically. Combination: Aggressive personality + No Game No Life = Destroyer No matter what the ideal content is (whether it is to save mankind, or to live a decent life in the future), for many people, there must be an ideal to save themselves, but aggressive people are just the opposite, ideals are their enemies, They must attack any ideal. Like the indifferent and cynical people among the inferior people, the aggressive people have a strong desire to play with life. As long as it is declared that life must be taken seriously, that life and life have its meaning, that one should pursue something, they are psychologically finished, because pursuit must create something, at least not to destroy, but the aggressive type People just get pleasure from destroying things!