Chapter 5 Chapter 2 Those who are strong in heart

Go masters have "Duan", and mental strength also has levels. I divide it into five levels.Next, we first invite the famous performing artist "Sister Feng" to appear on the stage. Character: Sister Feng (real name: Luo Yufeng) Occupation: Supermarket cashier, internet celebrity Psychologically powerful deeds: pretending to be crazy Psychological strength index: ★ I don’t need to introduce how Sister Feng performed so hard, and reaped the victory of “overnight popularity” amidst the monstrous abuse of netizens, right? You may want to ask, so many people scold Sister Feng, but she still works hard to perform as before, is her mentality so strong?It is conceivable that most people have already collapsed and stopped playing.Didn't there once be a senior who committed suicide in "Terrible Words".

Don't worry, there is a kind of psychological magic that can make Sister Feng dissolve the monstrous abuse of netizens one by one, making her lose her power in an instant. Just imagine, in movies and TV, why do actors who play bad guys never feel that they have any moral pressure?The reason is simple, they know that they are just actors, the role of the "bad guy" is not his ego, and no matter how many bad things the "bad guy" does, it has nothing to do with him.No matter how much you hate that "bad guy", you still can't figure out the difference between an actor and a character. Do you hate the actor?

Of course, in the 1940s, there was an accident in which the actor who played Huang Shiren was shot and killed because the revolutionary fighters could not suppress the class hatred of the bully landlord.But being unable to distinguish between acting and reality is only a small probability event. Therefore, the psychological magic of the mighty Sister Feng is: treat yourself as a role, and when you perform by yourself, you are not only an actor, but also an audience! What does it mean?Any master speaker knows that if you don't pay attention to the audience's reaction during the speech, you can't play the game of inciting emotions and controlling the audience's psychology.This is not a speech, just reading a manuscript!

Sister Feng made a move like this: she knew that she was only acting, and while acting, she watched herself act.In this way, the ego and the role played by the ego are psychologically separated and not confused.What psychological effect does this have?As we mentioned above, she will feel that the idiot presented to everyone is not herself at all, it is just a role she plays.That being the case, you can scold me, anyway, you are not scolding me! What is this, there are two tricks. The first trick is: when she is performing, she has already anticipated your possible reaction-swearing.In this way, she was mentally prepared for the monstrous abuse.Everything is under her control, and there is a thrill of playing a prank on everyone.

Another trick is even more awesome, hiding the big secret of an Internet celebrity becoming popular. This trick is: Sister Feng is not only her own audience, she is also the audience's audience.That is to say, when she was performing, the audience who scolded her also became actors, and she turned herself into an audience, staying in a hidden corner to enjoy their abusive performance! This is a bit like a tongue twister.But imagine a situation like this: when a person scolds you, he is an actor, performing his scolding skills and cultivation to you, the audience; but if you scold him back, the roles of your actor and the audience will be exchanged instantly Now, he becomes the audience admiring your swearing skills and anger, and you become the actor who demonstrates these things to him.

Why is one of the first criteria of mental strength to remain calm and control one's expressions and emotions?One of the reasons is that when you can't calm down, you become an actor and expose yourself to the other party's guns. The success of Sister Feng and a group of Internet celebrities lies precisely in the fact that they set up a game with their own performances, a game to control the psychology of netizens, and stimulate everyone to come in and scold them severely, and show their intellectual superiority in front of Sister Feng to their heart's content , Mental health, moral lofty.

Once this happened, Sister Feng became an audience enjoying the performance of netizens. How could the abuse of netizens be harmful to her? Seeing a woman like Sister Feng who has no education, no looks, no background, and no talent, she thinks that only a man with a master's degree from Tsinghua University is worthy of marrying her. Are you unable to maintain emotional stability and can't help but scold her fiercely? She, think she deserves it too?Very good, you are hooked, your psychological reaction is exactly what she needs! Without an audience, a play cannot go on.What is the biggest psychological blow to Sister Feng?It is completely ignored!Because the more difficult it is for a person to have a situation to perform, the more he is aware of his own humbleness.

So I want to say: When it comes to making a person famous, the majority of netizens are really humanitarian.It is necessary for Sister Feng to thank them solemnly for their cooperation. Does Sister Feng have a strong mind for playing like this?You've seen it, no, it's not a reflection of a person's normal state of mind.As long as the acting situation disappears, "psychological strength" will no longer exist. Like Sister Feng, relying on creating a situation and playing with psychological spells to gain psychological strength is only at the elementary level.There is one person who is stronger psychologically than her, and that is Mr. Fan Paopao, chairman of the "China Running Federation".

Character: Fan Paopao (real name: Fan Meizhong) Occupation: Secondary school teacher Psychologically strong deeds: Abandoning students to flee for their lives during the Wenchuan earthquake, posting advocating correct behavior, and then debating with others on Phoenix Satellite TV, defeating opponents morally and logically. Psychological strength index: ★★ In the replay of the camera, take a look at the classic debate scene between Fan Paopao and Comrade Guo Songmin, a famous moralist and an outstanding representative in the "jumping" circle, on Phoenix Satellite TV.Previously, no matter how Fan Paopao argued that "Paopao is reasonable", he was a moral loser, but after this battle, the world turned upside down.

With Fan Paopao's logic, in fact, anyone with a rough knowledge of logic and philosophy can beat him (frankly, if you think his words make sense, you should really learn the basics of logic and philosophy to improve yourself knowledge and analytical skills). "Mr. Jump" is good at writing current commentaries, so the level of debate should not be too bad.However, during the debate with "Mr. Run", strong moral indignation killed him.So it's tragic to see that he can do almost nothing on the court except swearing. In an occasion where shamelessness is not allowed, fouling is tantamount to raising hands and surrendering.If a person forgets to control his mind when attacking, there will be only one result: he will expose himself to the enemy's gunpoint and lose the ability to fight back.Guo Tiaotiao completely forgot that on-site debates are not about writing articles. If you want to play with your opponent, it is not only a contest of intelligence, but also a psychological battle!

Fan Paopao, with his calm counterattack, successfully defended his title as the mentally strong champion of the Chinese Championship in the "Paoppao" Games. How did Fan Paopao do it?Pay attention to his lines!He repeatedly mentioned key words such as "freedom", "Peking University", "it doesn't matter what is noble", "just pretend it" and so on. Here lies the secret. Here I will teach you a trick: To see through a person's mind and judge who he is, pay special attention to some words that come out of his mouth. Information.When lying, a man's eyes and gestures betray him; when dealing with people, his words also betray him. Fan Paopao has repeatedly emphasized that he loves "freedom".Whether it was so or not, he did believe in his heart that he really believed in this. "Freedom" occupies the highest moral point in contemporary China because it is too scarce.If a person occupies this moral high ground psychologically, it will be transformed into his psychological advantage. How mighty the golden signboard of "Peking University" is in China.How powerful is it?So powerful that a small white-collar worker who graduated from Peking University can have a psychological advantage in front of his boss who graduated from elementary school: Isn't he just a nouveau riche?I am from Peking University! So we have to admit this reality: as long as a society evaluates heroes based on money, power, appearance, diploma, occupation, status, etc., sitting in rows and eating fruit, then unless you graduated from a school such as Peking University or Tsinghua University, you will , No matter what you say in your mouth, you will feel in your heart that the students of Peking University and Tsinghua University are better than you.Of course, it's not that he is superior to you in terms of ability, but in terms of "value". He has the capital of "Peking University".Based on this, Fan Paopao can scold many people who have never been to Peking University: You are nothing in my eyes! Saying "Nothing is noble", the next sentence is "I am a hooligan and I am afraid of whom".This is another tactic of Paopao classmates: canceling moral judgments. Guo Tiaotiao and many others sentenced Fan Paopao to death based on the moral rules of the game, deprived of his moral rights for life, and planned to execute him by shooting on Phoenix Satellite TV.But who is Fan Paopao? How could he be arrested across provinces so easily?He has to break the rules of your game, he doesn't even play with you! If he doesn't play the same game as you, there's no way you can beat him with the rules of the game in your favour. Fan Paopao tried to convince himself that those who scolded him were just pretending. Without authenticity there is a lack of power.Paper tigers can scare only the blinded by fear, not the calm observer.Since these people are pretending in Fan Paopao's view, it means that their hearts are actually very empty. Fan Paopao adopts this kind of psychological strategy, and he can also successfully counterattack.Since others are pretending, they are even worse than themselves.After all, in this society that is extremely lacking in integrity, I am a "true villain" at any rate, while Guo Tiaotiao and others are just "hypocrites". I would like to add that there is another big secret behind Fan Paopao's mental strength. We saw in the movie that as long as an officer shouted, "The country and the people are watching you!" a group of soldiers would charge forward on the battlefield and die generously.Why? The reason is simple: this sentence turns the battlefield into a stage, and the corpses and gunfire are the scenery of the stage.On this stage, they sincerely believe that the identity of a soldier is their true self, and under the watchful eyes of audiences such as the country and the people, they must perform this role well according to the requirements of the script. Similarly, for Fan Paopao, the background of the Wenchuan earthquake also constituted a stage.When all eyes are on him, he is no longer Fan Meizhong, a middle school teacher, but a man who fights against "false morality" with his own actions, and preaches to the audience with the banner of "sincerity" and "freedom". fighter.The more he is scolded, the more those "hypocritical" people look like a devil who slaughtered "sincerity" and "freedom", and the more he can radiate the courage to fight. The more genuinely one is psychologically convinced that the character one is playing is one's true self, the more courage one has to do everything.Mother Teresa of India can spend her whole life helping the poor because she never doubted that as a nun, she must deliver the gospel to the poor under the watchful eye of God. Fan Paopao used some psychological protection mechanisms. While "running naked", he also brought in rescuers such as "Peking University" to make himself psychologically strong.However, compared with the real estate tycoon Ren Zhiqiang, they are not on the same level at all. Character: Ren Zhiqiang Occupation: President of Beijing Huayuan Group, Chinese real estate boss Psychologically powerful deeds: He often shoots guns to defend high housing prices, and dares to become a public enemy. Psychological strength index: ★★★ It doesn't take much courage to run naked, sometimes you just need to be shameless.Therefore, from ancient times to the present, "streaking" has not been technically difficult.Not to mention a self-proclaimed "freedom fighter" like Fan Paopao, even a shrew or a gangster can easily be competent. But to dare to become a "public enemy of the whole people", it is not enough to be shameless, it also needs the support of strength. Comrade Ren Zhiqiang, a member of the Communist Party, made a series of bold words of revolutionary heroism and revolutionary romanticism on the glorious road of becoming a public enemy of the whole people.For example, "The poor should not be able to afford a house", "Why don't you go back to the countryside if you can't afford a house", "House prices are the threshold, if you can't afford a house, don't live in Beijing", etc. These social Darwinist idiot words come from a real estate agent. It is conceivable that in a society where the disparity between rich and poor is huge, many people don’t even have the opportunity to be “house slaves” , What a sensation it will cause.Comrade Zhiqiang, isn't this due to draw? Therefore, every time Comrade Ren makes a bold statement, there will be a lot of scolding on the Internet.At a forum in Dalian, there were "house slaves" who threw shoes at him in a classic gesture to express a solemn protest, staged a Chinese version of former US President Bush being attacked by a "shoe bomb" in Iraq.And student Ren is also very self-aware, admitting that he is "the person most people in the country want to beat up". Then why does his psychology seem so powerful, he is not afraid of anything, even his interest partner - the government dares to criticize? I have paid attention to observe the process of the debate between Comrade Zhiqiang and others on Phoenix Satellite TV's "One Tiger One Talk".At that moment, I admitted that he had enough reasons to look down on everything.When he demonstrated his "bastard" point of view, he did not panic, was well-founded, had data and analysis, and was almost impeccable.Moreover, he is also good at seizing the opponent's loopholes and defeating them with one move. Such a person already has an important characteristic of psychological strength: to maintain mental concentration on the basis of sufficient knowledge reserves and rational analysis capabilities, and never let the opponent steal a trace of his emotions during the game; the opponent sends any information to himself , you can use your own brain to interpret and respond instantly. Of course, Comrade Zhiqiang also has a prominent identity and family background, which has also become his potential strength psychologically. In addition, Comrade Zhiqiang's psychological strength has the same secret as Papao's classmates: he has devoted himself to acting.He also resorted to a kind of psychological magic: he interpreted his bastard words as "truth" and imagined that he was spreading the "truth" of the real estate industry to the audience. A person who thinks he is spreading the truth, if he does not have a psychological advantage, who has? If value judgments are stripped away, Ren Zhiqiang's psychological strength can be regarded as an advanced version of "successful people".However, such a psychological advantage is not at the same level in front of an expert like Zhuge Liang. Character: Zhuge Liang Occupation: Prime Minister of the State Council and Chairman of the Central Military Commission of Shu during the Three Kingdoms Period Psychologically powerful deeds: Deceived Sima Yi by playing an empty city trick. Psychological strength index: ★★★★ The ignorant are fearless, but the knowledgeable are even more fearless.This is what Mr. Zhuge Liang, a famous statesman, strategist, strategist, writer, diplomat, and inventor of the patent of Mu Niu Liu Ma, told us in his doctoral dissertation "On the Relationship and Transformation Mechanism between Intelligence and Mental Strength". In this world, there are people who are not smart but think they are smart, and there is no end in sight.According to Socrates' "All I know is that I know nothing", "I think I'm smart" actually means "to be stupid enough not to know that I'm stupid" and "to be stupid enough to think that others are stupid". In interpersonal relationships, you can play a few dirty tricks, bad tricks, and gag, which is just petty cleverness, which is extremely low-grade; medium cleverness is to understand the laws of human heart, familiar with the rules of social games, and save yourself from disaster; great wisdom is to follow the way of heaven and think about the universe Life. There is a strange phenomenon. Some people are also very smart and knowledgeable, but they are at a loss in the face of sudden blows, trembling in the face of danger, and accidentally "killed" by accident.They know so much, are they still afraid? of course!The reason is simple, they are hijacked by profit and survival instinct.In the face of danger, they did not use intelligence to resist and help themselves to save themselves from danger.The outside world controls their hearts—whether it is profit or survival, the rope is held by the outside world, and their intelligence no longer works.In such a state, it is naturally weak psychologically. Zhuge Liang is by no means such an intellectual giant or a psychological coward.He articulated it perfectly: one can be intellectually strong and psychologically strong at the same time. The principle is not profound: if a person is really very powerful in intelligence and has been recognized by the outside world and himself, this "confidence" will be brought into his psychological structure, so that the psychological structure will be filled and let He is also mentally strong.Some intelligent people are psychological cowards because they fail to do this. The most classic case of Zhuge Liang's psychological strength is not a verbal battle against Confucianism, but a game of empty castles. Where did Zhuge Liang get the courage to play empty city tricks?There are two reasons. First, it is helpless.There are no generals around, and only 2,500 people are in the city.With such a small number of people, they could only serve as meals for Sima Yi's army.There is only one dead end to escape, and the conventional defense cannot be defended.Therefore, it is better to take a gamble. Second, his opponent is Sima Yi.What kind of character is Sima Yi?A person who is equally intelligent and of the same kind as Zhuge Liang is exactly the same kind of opponent. Homogeneous opponents are sometimes extremely difficult to deal with, and sometimes they are just the best to deal with, because the rules of the game are the same for both sides.However, opponents of different qualities are sometimes extremely difficult to deal with, because he plays different game rules from you, and does not play cards according to your rules at all. Putting it into the empty city plan, the reason is this: Sima Yi saw Zhuge Liang posing with the city gate wide open and still sitting on the tower and playing the piano freely, his first reaction was that there was an ambush.In this way, he played the cards according to Zhuge Liang's expectation, and Zhuge Liang was saved.If a brave and reckless man came, seeing this posture, regardless of whether you ambush or not, the first reaction would be to rush into the city, and Zhuge Liang would be finished.Zhuge Liang would never use this posture to deal with a reckless man. Zhuge Liang knew what he was, and he also knew that Sima Yi knew what he was.This enters into a game. Let's take a look at the simple operation process of "Zhuge Liang", a highly intelligent brain, in this game. (1) I can neither fight nor run, so if I want to protect myself, I must let Sima Yi retreat. (2) How to make Sima Yi retreat?It's simple, let him think I have an ambush. (3) How to make Sima Yi think that I have an ambush?Play the empty city strategy to create a cognitive contrast effect: just as the more dangerous the place is, the safer it is, the seemingly empty city may have countless troops ambushing inside and around it!And Sima Yi knew that I was cautious all my life and would not take risks lightly. (4) Sima Yi is not a fool. He knows me, Zhuge Liang, and knows that I will not take risks easily, so my taking risks may be a trick. (5) So, how can I convince Sima Yi that I really have an ambush instead of playing an empty city plan?Pack!Pretend to be calm and unflappable, because the less flustered, the more it shows that there is strength behind it! For Sima Yi, the first four links were just trivial skills, but he could only lose in the decisive last link.This is a cruel psychological contest. If Zhuge Liang is not mentally strong, he will not be able to pretend at all, let alone restrain Sima Yi! You see, pretending is still very useful at critical times.Regarding camouflage and psychological games, I will analyze and reveal them in more detail in later chapters. The strong are more powerful.Zhuge Liang's psychological strength is not at the same level as Socrates. Character: Socrates Occupation: Ancient Greek philosopher Psychologically strong deeds: Sentenced to death by the Athens Citizens Assembly, did not escape, died peacefully by drinking poisoned wine Psychological strength index: ★★★★★ In 399 BC, Socrates was accused of impiety and poisoning the youth, and was sentenced to death by the Athenian Citizens' Assembly.He defended himself, but only a "not guilty" plea.He is not afraid of death. The trial was of course unfair.His friend Crito once went to the cell to persuade him to escape and arranged everything properly.But he refused and persuaded Crito.At the end of his life, he was still discussing serious philosophical issues with people who came to see him. When the poisoned wine was brought, Socrates drank it calmly and without fear.The friends were all in tears, and Socrates in turn comforted them to be brave.He paced the room slowly, then lay down with his legs heavy, and closed his eyes peacefully at last.His calmness in the face of death is shocking, and he is absolutely worthy of the title of "the bravest, wisest, and most upright" person of that era. Why was Socrates so strong psychologically that he was so calm in the face of death?The reason is that his philosophizing, his rational faculties far outweighed death in power.His existence constitutes a transcendence of life and death, not to mention the worldly honor and disgrace that we mortals value. The reason why reason has such a powerful force is that it constitutes a real persuasion to people.I will talk about this in detail later. Let's first look at what kind of picture death looks like in Socrates' eyes.Plato recorded it in the Apology, which I faithfully reproduce below. Does this philosophical thinking about death make you feel that death is not terrible?Perhaps, this is just a view of philosophers.A view of the world is an interpretation of the world that makes the world appear one way rather than another. The world picture in a person's brain will have an impact on his psychology, that is, "moving" from the intellectual structure to the psychological structure; conversely, the picture in the psychological world will also "move" to his intellectual structure, that is, the subconscious mind in the heart What the earth thinks, the brain thinks.If a person thinks that people in the society are friendly and sincere, then he will not feel psychologically that others are always thinking of harming and deceiving others; if he always feels in his heart that someone is trying to harm him, then in his eyes, many people are Not a nice guy. But, as you can see, Socrates didn't argue, but just "posited" that death was like this, without strictly speaking, appealing to reason. But Socrates' brilliance was there, and he didn't stop there. Not being afraid of death was not because of obscenity, but by forcing himself to believe that death is actually a wonderful thing.In Plato's "Phaedo", he also made a very wonderful argument. The arguments are long and complex, taking up a good deal of the Phaedo.Here, I cannot transcribe one by one, but can only sort out his logic as follows: (1) Our desires cloud our judgment.Therefore, for one to attain the truth, one must be free from the temptations of bodily desires. (2) The true philosopher is able to get rid of bodily desires, transcending the visible body and concentrating on the invisible soul. (3) Man has a body and a soul, and after death is nothing but the separated state in which the body and soul are separated, and the separated state in which the soul is separated from the body. (4) For a philosopher who transcends bodily desires and approaches the invisible world of ideas, at death the soul is pure when it is freed from the body and enters the world of ideas because in his present life the soul never Did not close oneself in the flesh.But the soul of ordinary people is combined with the body or closed by the body, so they cannot leave the body uncontaminated when they die, they cannot enter the invisible world of pure ideas, but will be pulled back to the real world, only in the grave And linger in the cemetery: those shadowy phantoms are these souls that have not yet vanished. (5) Since a philosopher focuses on the world of ideas connected with the soul during life, and tries his best to get rid of or has got rid of the desires of the body, and death is only a process in which the soul leaves the body completely and enters a real world of ideas, then life There is only this difference between death and death: when alive, the soul still exists in the body; after death, the soul completely leaves the body and enters the pure world of ideas. (6) In this way, death is nothing but the continuation and transcendence of life, and it is the natural destination after a person has undergone arduous philosophical training.This means that those who devote themselves to philosophy in the right way are actually preparing themselves for death, that they actually look forward to death all their lives. (7) Then how can they be afraid when this long-prepared and long-awaited event finally comes? Do you see it?What an awesome reasoning!