Chapter 4 3.The "maturity" of many people is only in terms of mixed society, psychologically he has never grown up

If you are already a parent, if your child likes to tear and smash things, let him tear and smash; when he grows up, he may stop smashing things and start tearing down some toys, if so , then buy more toys and let him dismantle them more; when he grows up a bit, he will stop smashing and dismantling them, and he will create! The destructive power of a cold-blooded killer is astonishing. Cho Seung-hee shot wildly with a gun on the campus of Virginia Tech University in the United States, and 32 people immediately became his ghosts; the killer Kato Zhidai hacked all the way with a knife on the streets of downtown Tokyo, Japan. Although the knife is only a small-scale weapon of destruction, It also caused heavy casualties including 7 deaths and 10 injuries.

Economists look at everyone as a person who can sell themselves as commodities at any time, while psychiatrists look at everyone as a psychopath.Therefore, in the eyes of economists, migrant workers are not human beings, they are just cheap labor machines.The psychiatrist Sun Dongdong said that 99% of the petitioners are mentally ill. Do you see it?The reason why they become "bricks" and "beasts" is not only that they have no conscience, but also that their brains have been destroyed by modern academic disciplines, and they can no longer think normally like ordinary people.They are also hijacked by their own psychological interests: If I admit that economics and psychiatry are not awesome, and can only be played in certain fields, but can’t speak at all in other fields, how many people will think that I am an authority and will Worship me, so where does my high appearance fee come from?

But Cho Seung Hee and Kato Tomoda are not mentally ill.One of them imagined himself as a devil, and the other imagined himself as a hero, so that they dared to kill. In China, Cho Seung-hee and Kato Tomodai have many comrades.Students like Ma Jiajue, Qiu Xinghua, Shi Yuejun, and Zheng Mingsheng are all loyal soldiers of the iron-blooded army of cold-blooded killers. Does Yang Jia "Hero Yang" count?Although he is also mentally strong, he does not belong to the series of cold-blooded killers, at least not the version we are talking about.After his accident, I discovered his psychological advantages as a Beijinger over Shanghainese (Shanghai police).And, he has enough anger.Those who are not supported by anger dare not kill.

Although Freud, known as the "Jewish Big Three" together with Marx and Einstein, has suffered various infamy, at least he is a man who fundamentally changed the world. His words are absolutely true: often The past made us what we are. Notice, if one thing strikes you strongly, and you become aware of it, it will never go away. It seems that it is no longer there, but in fact it is just suppressed by you to the dark depths of your heart. It will also disguise itself and secretly influence and manipulate you through circuitous channels. Cold-blooded killers have at least one of the following characteristics, or have experienced any of the following events during their growth (including childhood and adulthood).

(1) Cannot go beyond the destructiveness of early childhood. (2) experienced some kind of psychological trauma. (3) The reverence for life is eliminated in the process of growing up. Let me talk about the first type first, which cannot go beyond the destructiveness of early childhood. Although a person has grown up, he may still be a toddler psychologically. We don't think that a person is "mature" when he is an adult. He may be mature in the sense of mixed society, but psychologically, he is still "fixed" at a certain stage in childhood.Some people even live their whole lives as a baby in the deepest psychological traits.

For example, some people seem to think that everyone owes them, and whoever gives them everything is due, and if they don’t give them, they will be angry, which means that they haven’t grown up psychologically.This world is still the same as the world where he was under the protection of his parents back then, where he got what he wanted and got angry if he didn't give it. Some people will never fall in love with someone from the bottom of their hearts in their entire lives, and experience what love is, but they have not grown up because they still lack the ability to love as they did when they were young.

Freud once referred to those who are insatiable for money as those who are psychologically still in the "anal stage" of infants, because during that period infants like to touch stool most, and stool is a bit like gold, all of which are golden yellow. I don't know how persuasive Freud's conclusion is because gold and poop are somewhat similar in color.But believe me, if a person can't surpass his childhood mentally, then, whatever he did when he was a child, he will definitely try to do it when he grows up, even in a disguised way, he will do it.Of course he didn't live for this, but if he didn't do it, he would suffer as hell.

Ask yourself, what is your favorite thing to eat?Often it’s something you ate as a kid, loved it, but didn’t get the chance to feast on it!For example, a kind of fruit or a kind of snack, if you eat it once when you were a child because you didn’t have enough money, and you are psychologically hungry, then you will be hungry for it all your life! We all know that young children like to destroy, tear apart toys, tear paper, throw things and so on.Why do they like it?It's actually like this: if creating something makes people feel powerful, then destroying a thing can also achieve the same effect.Can a toddler build something?

For human psychology, the most terrifying thing is not creation and destruction, but the inability to create and destroy, which means the paralysis of power. "Rich second generation" also robbed, do you believe it?If you don't believe it, it shows how ignorant you are of human psychology.There is a "rich second generation" in Panjin, Liaoning. He drove a luxury car to imitate the plot of Hollywood police and gangster movies. He robbed five consecutive times in less than 20 days, and robbed a total of 4,600 yuan.When the media reported, he said that he robbed in order to "seek excitement".

There are too many rich people who want to "seek excitement" today. If you pay attention to the social news around the world, you will find that these people seem to have developed a habit of robbing, raping, killing, and setting fire. But I'm here to expose the shallowness of the media.The phrase "seeking excitement" dismissed the reason for the "rich second generation" to rob.What these "rich second generations" grab is not money, but boredom and emptiness.A man is boring and empty precisely because he can neither create nor destroy.He wants to show that he has an endless fire burning, and if he doesn't want to be burned to death, there must be an exit.

Creation is hard, but destruction is very easy. The robbery result of 4,600 yuan is not a matter of money for the "rich second generation", but a proof of strength.Although he doesn't need the money, he will still be frustrated if he gets nothing from the robbery, because by the definition of "robbery", it is perfect to have something to gain. A person who is empty, bored, and feeling powerless is actually the most likely to become a thug, and hit harder than anyone else! Take it easy, most of us get through the destructive phase of early childhood.However, due to family background, growth environment and other reasons, there are still a few people who are psychologically stranded. So, I suggest that if you are already a parent, if your child likes to tear things and smash things, let him tear and smash things; when he grows up, he may stop smashing things and start tearing down some toys again, if That's the case, then buy more toys for him to dismantle; when he grows up a bit, he won't smash or dismantle anymore, he will create! You are not married yet?Then remember the above words now, and you will have more "knowledge reserves" in educating children in the future. In the second case, some kind of psychological trauma has been experienced. Many people may have been beaten by others when they were young, even if they have not been beaten, they may have been ridiculed, insulted, and rejected.The impact of this kind of injury on a person's future is often beyond our imagination. Therefore, I would like to strongly advise parents not to underestimate these things. If you don’t want your child to become a cowardly person with low self-esteem, or a cold-blooded killer, you must pay attention to his mental health. The correct approach is: Once you know your child is being bullied, don't scold him, don't say he is weak, but stand firmly by his side.Encourage him not to be afraid. Once someone bullies him, he must fight back fiercely. Never let fear and insecurity take root in his heart.Of course, don't take the initiative to bully others.People who take the initiative to bully others are often not good people when they grow up. Some cold-blooded killers are trained in this way - if he is bullied by others, which has a greater psychological impact, he will experience a sense of powerlessness brought about by others' destruction of him, and have a sense of powerlessness that can only be felt by destroying others. psychological response to strength. If he can't go beyond that, then this psychological reaction can develop into a dangerous psychological mechanism: I will double the pain of those bastards who made me suffer; and, because they are "others" and "others" Make me miserable, so I'm going to make anyone who belongs to "others" miserable too.The way to make them suffer the most is to destroy them! Looking at the third case, the reverence for life is eliminated in the process of growing up. When the soldiers of Nazi Germany massacred Jews, many people suffered from neurosis; while the Japanese stabbed countless Chinese with bayonets, they were completely able to do so.Is it because the German Nazis were more civilized than the Japanese devils? Nothing to do with civilization.The real reason is: the German Nazis only regarded the Jews as "inferior people", but no matter how "inferior", the Jews were still regarded as human beings; while the Japanese devils regarded the Chinese as pigs and dogs.Killing people has psychological barriers, but killing pigs and dogs does not. To kill means that one must first kill oneself on a human level and suffer human revenge.Because of this difference, the German Nazis suffered from neurosis or mental illness, while the Japanese devils were more perverted. There are also differences in the way they evade conscience condemnation.The German Nazis relied on "I was just obeying orders" to convince themselves that they should not take this responsibility and that they were not guilty; while the Japanese devils relied on contempt and fanatical beliefs. In addition to their feeling that killing "pigs and dogs" is not worth making a fuss about, they also There is an "emperor" over them. Of course, there were many scumbags among the German Nazis and Japanese devils, and they would kill people even if there was no war.For these people, their killing is not influenced by fascist propaganda (ideology only makes them more reasonable and risk-free to kill), but in their own thinking and character, they do not regard human beings as life at all. why?Have you ever heard the saying that some men don't want to marry women who study medicine because they know too much about the physiological structure of the human body and have no sense of mystery.Prejudice or not, think about it, if sex is only scientifically regarded as a healthy exercise of human organs meshing, is there any point? Although "making love" and "organ rubbing" mean the same thing, they do not mean the same thing psychologically! So, if a person grows up and learns to regard others as just a bunch of flesh tissues, will he feel that life has a sense of mystery and will he be in awe of life? American psychologist Skinner used his daughter as an experimental rat, and tortured her for two years.There are also some people who study medicine who are very calm when killing people, as if performing an operation. This is not a very strange thing.