Chapter 12 Chapter 11 Extramarital Affair in the Company Extramarital Affair in the Company

As mentioned earlier, after ten years of marriage, the husband and wife feel like life partners, and they seldom have the romantic feelings when they are in love.In other words, the couple has become "family" and the tension of being a man and a woman has diminished. As the ordinary life continues day after day, the man will have the desire to seek passion, and it is not surprising that extramarital affairs appear.I don't know whether it's luck or misfortune, but in their work units, there are always some young and lively women around, and it's hard for a man to remain indifferent to their provocative behavior.

Men in their forties usually have a certain status, and they usually guide young women who lack work experience as superiors.In this working relationship, which alternates between teaching and protecting, the man and woman will gradually increase their intimacy with each other, and sooner or later this overly intimate relationship will turn into a love relationship that is not difficult to imagine.If this is a natural phenomenon, it can be said to be a natural combination. These forty-year-old men are all young and energetic figures in the company.Even when they got home, they just ate, slept, and left their families early the next morning to go to work.In this way, the time they spend with their wives is not as long as that with the female clerks in the same department.Due to the long-term contact, it is reasonable for them to have a long-term relationship with the female clerk.

Moreover, most married men have lost the majesty of the head of the family. They are often treated by their wives as friends or acquaintances. However, in the company, they are deeply admired and respected by the female clerks who are subordinates.In addition, female clerks are different from wives who stay at home, do not wear makeup, and dress casually. They need to dress up for work.Therefore, it is normal for men to pay more attention to them.As long as the female clerks who are subordinates have a little bit of charm, most men will like them. In commercial advertisements, there are often scenes depicting the company’s bosses and female clerks appearing together, and they are often accompanied by keywords such as “Love is not a distant firework”. This alone can be said to have fully reflected the psychology of the above-mentioned backbone of the company. .

To sum up, in men, there are extremely sufficient reasons for improper relationship between men and women.Therefore, as long as the women involved have the same desire, then in a company unit, the love between a male boss and a female clerk can be said to be as natural as "water flows to a lower place". The opportunity to have an extramarital affair has all kinds of characteristics according to personal preferences.Since it is a superior-subordinate relationship, you can go out to eat and drink together after get off work on the grounds of consolation or relaxation.In this way, both parties have the opportunity to complain about each other's troubles.With the deepening of the conversation, the two sides will continue to deepen the degree of intimacy, and finally one day they will cross the "gap".

From this point of view, it is easier to get close between male bosses and female clerks in the same company than between ordinary single male and female colleagues in the same company.The reason for saying this is because once ordinary single men and women date, they often talk about marriage very quickly, and as men, they are often extremely cautious about this. However, once a man has a family, he will understand that he is no longer responsible for the issue of marriage, so women can approach them with ease. As mentioned many times before, the ultimate of men is sex, they are animals with strong sexual desire, so when they have a relationship with a woman they like, they will be very grateful and love each other even more.The more they love and care, the more they ignore or are unwilling to take into account the existence of family members and possible troubles in the future.

After the affair is over, the men also feel guilty about being sorry for their wives, but more often they are overjoyed at being intimate with young women.Therefore, going to work has become a very pleasant thing. However, when men have sex with a fixed woman more than once, the continuous, repeated physical contact will make them gradually worry about other things.One of them is the fear that things will be known by the company.Of course, if his wife finds out, it will be even more troublesome.However, after all, this is a conflict within the family, and it can be quelled by finding a way.

If things are publicized in the company, it will be difficult for the man to gain a foothold.Sometimes he may be demoted or reassigned.Of course, there are also situations where you are lucky enough to avoid danger and maintain a relationship. On such occasions, sometimes your feelings will increase day by day. From the perspective of love, it may not be bad, but due to excessive tension, you will feel extremely tired. What is especially problematic in this situation is that while the man is trying to hide the relationship, the woman becomes aggressive and soon afterward, consciously or unconsciously, reveals the relationship to her surroundings people.

There are also some women who are unwilling to publicize themselves, but as the love deepens, it is difficult for her to maintain a steady attitude.Among them, there are also women who deliberately show off the relationship between the two to everyone around them, and sometimes some people even turn their faces suddenly.Especially after a woman has a relationship with a boss admired by everyone, in order to contain other women, she will let the people around her know the relationship between the two of them through some small actions or slight behaviors.For example, when everyone is having dinner, she begs for food from the other party's plate, or uses overly intimate language inexplicably, so that she will not worry about gossip such as "Could it be that these two people have an ambiguous relationship" spread around.

Women should have adopted a more cautious attitude, but women who adopt the above attitude have a sense of "territory" that "this man belongs to me" deep in their hearts. At the same time, they hope to attract men's hearts to themselves. It can also be said that this is an inevitable behavior taken by women in love. If the man also wants the woman to be his own, then, in addition to treating her with extra kindness, once he finds that other men want to approach her, he will use various means to repel the other party.For example, once he realizes that a single man has a good impression of the woman, as a boss, he will treat that man coldly and try his best to slander the man in front of the woman he likes. His purpose is to do everything possible to hinder the rival.

The biggest difference between men and women's attitudes towards extramarital affairs is that men regard not endangering their status in the company as the first premise; while women sometimes forget about the relationship between superiors and subordinates in the company, they will fall deeply in love and cannot Extricate yourself. Regardless of the motives of a woman, as long as she tries to show the relationship between the man and herself to the people around her, the man will be very confused, even though he also knows that it is an expression of the woman's deep love for him.And, if the woman goes too far, he sees the relationship as a burden.

In fact, although most of the middle-aged men who date single women attach importance to romance, they pay more attention to their status and reputation in the company.If the relationship hinders their status and reputation, they will give up hard-won love.In other words, the original intention of middle-aged men is to associate with women without endangering their social status. A relationship that begins when the mood is happy and passionate will show complex variations as time goes by and the relationship deepens. For example, there are also many men who hold the following idea: Although they are reluctant to give up their current lover, if she associates with other single men and gets married, then they can end their relationship with her without any responsibility.Of course, some men hate this kind of relay race relationship, so they fall in love with the woman even more. Although the woman realized from the beginning that the other party was a family member, as the love deepened, she hoped that the other party would leave her wife and marry her.In this way, the subsequent processes can be described as "various", each with its own merits. The most difficult issue in this relationship is the woman's pregnancy.No matter for the man or the woman, this is undoubtedly a major test. It can also be said that this time is the touchstone for testing the true and false love of a man. When the woman who lives with him tells him that she is pregnant, as a man, he must first feel confused and panicked.However, if the man has no children with his wife or if the woman is infertile, the situation is slightly different. He will quickly fall in love with the pregnant woman and divorce his wife.However, if the man already has children, then the problem is more complicated. On such occasions, the man doesn't know whether he should be happy or not, and he will be very troubled.The reason for saying this is that although some women do not want to give birth, they deliberately say that they want to "delivery" in order to test the man's reaction.At this time, if the man misunderstands, it will lead to a breakup between the two parties, and sometimes even cause quite complicated problems. For this reason, as a man, he must deal with it carefully. Starting from the unilateral wish of the man, of course it is hoped that the woman will take the initiative to have an abortion and continue to maintain the original relationship.Of course he would have a deep sense of apology for her, and gratitude for her willingness to have an abortion and continue the close relationship, and in short, he would treat her better than ever. The most troublesome thing for men is that the woman insists on childbirth, because the woman has the final decision whether to give birth or not, and men cannot interfere. Therefore, at this time, men can only feel uneasy.Of course, there are some men who will say threats such as "If you insist on giving birth, you will break up", but as a man, you know how troublesome and big things will happen once the woman gives birth to the child.Therefore, on this occasion, men are panicked, completely exposing their weak nature. Having said that, letting an unmarried woman give birth to a child for herself is indeed a great thing. It cannot but be said that this is a medal bestowed on an outstanding man. If the man involved is a self-employed man with considerable financial strength, he may end up saying, "Well, it's up to you." But for working-class people, the situation is not so simple.After much thought, most men end up being indifferent to each other, or even run away from them. Most women think a man who gets away with it is mean and disgraceful.The woman wants to give birth to a child because she intends to form another family besides the man's original family.The purpose of a man pursuing a woman is only to get a beautiful lover.Once a woman becomes his wife, her charm will be reduced by half.If a man can maintain two rich families at the same time, it is considered happy, but if he organizes two poor families, then everyone can only torture each other. Married women also feel this sense of loss.He who thought he was very good eventually turned into a lazy man as he became familiar with each other emotionally, and he put on the airs of being a husband, so the relationship between the two became a husband and wife relationship without passion .For this reason, the woman was extremely depressed. Let's explore the relationship between couple age and divorce.Men around the age of 30 have a higher rate of extramarital affairs, and their probability of divorcing their wives and then marrying another woman is also very high.In addition, the divorce rate among men after the age of fifty-five is also high. Men in their forties who still have a hard life are the least likely to get divorced. Men in this age group are in a very delicate period. Although their official careers are smooth, they have a lot of troubles at home, such as repaying housing loans, children going to school, etc. Wait.Therefore, although they have lost passion for their wives, it is difficult to take the step of divorce. Men before the age of twenty-five are more likely to make up their minds to divorce, because they feel that divorce is not a big hindrance to them now, and their wives are younger, so it is easier to find another partner.After the age of fifty-five, the children have grown up and the dust has settled on one's own future in the company.In this case, it is better to use the last chance to divorce and find a new love than to spend the old age with a wife who is not emotionally compatible. Therefore, the divorce rate of men in this age group is relatively high. Different ages have different divorce rates. On this point, we will stop here for the time being.Next, let us look at the relationship between economic power and divorce.If the wife has a certain financial strength, it is easier for the man to propose a divorce, and vice versa.All in all, as the woman's ability increases, the man's sense of responsibility will fall back. Here's the irony, though: The men in their forties who were the hardest to divorce were also the ones most likely to engage in office affairs.Of course, if the woman in this situation is very reasonable, then the man will have no trouble.However, as the exchanges between the two parties become more frequent, the love between them will also deepen; at the same time, as the woman's desire to monopolize expands, the man's problems will also increase. As far as this age group is concerned, the man's wife is full of femininity and strong spirit.They are very sensitive to the indiscretions of their husbands and the presence of competitors, so if they become aware of it, they will immediately fight back. In this case, the man will appease the woman who is the other party of the extramarital affair and say: "Didn't you know that I have a family from the beginning?" However, these principles do not make sense to women who are in love. Of course, the woman never thought of marrying the other party at the beginning of the relationship.However, as time goes by, their desire for exclusiveness will become stronger and stronger.It can also be said that this is caused by the depth of love. Here, we cannot ignore the fact that men and women perceive love differently.Women not only want memory, but also concrete crystallization, that is, as a witness of love, they want to marry and have children between them. The difference with women is that men only pay attention to the fact that both sides love each other, and try to avoid the actual problems in the future.In this regard, many women are very dissatisfied, accusing men of being mean and shameless.However, doing so would seem to place the blame entirely on men.Women, too, seem to think twice before reaching a point of no return. Regardless of who is responsible for it, men in love are only satisfied with the beauty of form, or it is for this that they pursue women; while women pursue real content. Needless to say, married men have already had wives and children. This is a real existence, and this existence is far from the beauty of the form, and it even spoils the scenery. Therefore, men pursue a different life from this existence. gorgeous.Perhaps as a woman it is difficult to understand this feeling. As the relationship between a male boss and a single woman deepens, there is bound to be resentment on the part of the woman.Because the man has a family and she is alone, which is obviously unfair.This emotion can also be said to be a sense of fear.Compared with a man who has both a safe haven and an outside room, they have nowhere to escape but fight alone. This anxiety among women is understandable, and one cannot help but ask men such a serious question: If it is the duty of a husband not to separate from his wife, and his attachment to his wife is to maintain a family; then how will their love for the single female clerk who associates with them but refuses to marry them be proved by what? To compensate? I am afraid that most men are difficult to answer the above questions immediately and frankly. Obviously, wives are protected by law and social morality, but single women do not get such protection.Some men compensate single women by supporting them financially, but few do. Ordinary men are incapable of doing this.Therefore, they will definitely feel ashamed of the woman while defending themselves in their hearts: "Although I can't give you specific guarantees, I have given you a love that cannot be compared with my wife. I think about you all the time, treat you tenderly and considerately, and tolerate you more than anyone else. Even two people When making love, I spend all my enthusiasm and energy trying to make you happy and happy." It is true that such tenderness and tolerance in men are scarcely given to their wives.Simply put, they did not use sweet words such as "beautiful", "like" and "love you" to their wives, nor did they send gifts.Even when I got home, I just wanted to eat and drink, and I almost never had sex with my wife at night. Occasionally, the sex was just superficial, and I had never tried so hard and passionately like when I was with a lover outside. Besides, there are many, many things that men are not.In short, a man cannot give his lover specific guarantees, so he must give his lover dozens of times more tender, considerate, tolerant and passionate love than his wife. The understanding of this kind of love has always been that the beholder sees benevolence, and the wise sees wisdom.The love given to the wife is protected by the law, and the throne of the wife is visible; but what the lover receives in the end can only be hidden, spiritual things, which are invisible. Even so, there are still many men who complain that the spiritual and physical dedication to their lovers far exceeds the protection given to their wives.Judging from the reality, men give far more to their lovers than to their wives, but why do lovers complain? This feeling of inadequacy also exists for women, who often have a sense of injustice, and this feeling comes from the illusion that they think: a man gives his wife superficial security, while at the same time giving the only relationship between the two of them. The tenderness and warmth that can only be shown when they are together are given to her. However, this is not the case in fact. In addition to being protected by the law, wives are often neglected in terms of love, and men just treat them perfunctorily. Of course, there are also affectionate couples among them, but after all, they are only a minority, and that kind of love is only an almost peaceful warmth, far less than the fiery intensity that lovers receive. Wives are jealous and anxious because men give far more to their lovers than they give to themselves. In this way, the wives finally had to force themselves to accept the reality in front of them through self-comfort: "Don't look at that woman's air, maybe her husband will come back to me sometime." All in all, wives will not really understand the uneasiness of "lovers"; conversely, "lovers" will not really understand the hardships of wives.Furthermore, men don't really understand women's sorrows, and women don't really understand men's difficulties. Because of all the troubles that extramarital affairs can cause, working-class men other than self-employed and company owners are always worried about when and where their relationships with single women will be exposed. This worry stems from their lack of courage and energy to marry again, as well as from the mental and physical fatigue caused by extramarital affairs and their coy thoughts that they hope that their lover will always be safe for themselves.In this case, if the woman does not understand or further accuses, it will prompt the two parties to break up as soon as possible.Because immoral extramarital affairs are under enormous pressure in Japanese society. The result seems to be just as the wives predicted, the man returns to his wife, but this does not mean the wife's victory. The reason why I say this is because the returning husband has spent all his energy on the single woman he once loved deeply, and now he is just a stinky skin.To be more precise, although the man has returned to the family, he still has a deep memory of his former lover, and may keep that memory for life. It can be said that this kind of man is a "replica" of the man in "The Bridge of Madison County". As a result, it is difficult to simply say: the wife has won. Among the many forms of dating, the relationship between a married man and a single woman is the most realistic.No matter how the social situation changes in the future, I am afraid that this relationship will continue unabated. Saying this, I am afraid it will cause uneasiness to many housewives.In fact, there are still very few male bosses who can really fall in love with young clerks.As the saying goes, "There is no husband who is not afraid of his wife." In fact, there are very few husbands who engage in extramarital affairs.Therefore, it is extremely rare to get to the point of "wanting to give birth to you".Because the reality does not allow them to do that. However, this should not be taken lightly.Because older, dependable men are extremely attractive to younger women, their amorous relationship is the most natural and easy relationship between a man and a woman. How will the families of those involved react when the relationship is revealed? The wife would angrily accuse her husband: "At this age, I still go after other young girls!" This kind of mood is understandable, but at the same time, it also makes people wonder if this kind of wife has forgotten the warmth of the past, and what she will use to follow the admiration. What about her husband's female clerk? This kind of thing is also related to whether the wife respects her husband. From the standpoint of the man, should the wife also often introspect? For whatever reason, what a man seeks outside must be because of what he lacks within the home.It may be too much for an older wife who is bound by the family, but when she learns that her husband is having an affair, as a wife, you can't just be furious, maybe you need to calmly think about it: "Is there anything I can't do well? Woolen cloth?"