Chapter 10 Chapter 9 Continuation of "Seed" Continuation of "Seed"

In addition, because it is not easy for men to guide women to experience orgasm, there are also many men who are passive and sabotage.For example, couples who are married in love do not experience real orgasm before marriage. Although they can enjoy sex without restriction after marriage, if the husband is tired of sex before the wife gets orgasm, the couple will have May be in a sexual relationship without orgasm for life. Many wives who have been married for several years complain about their husbands: "The so-called husband is actually a very selfish animal. When he wants to, he enters without any foreplay, and immediately falls asleep on his own after ejaculation." No matter the level of education or income, there are such men who are very selfish and poor in sex at any level.In fact, sex has nothing to do with my education and status.Compared with external things such as education and status, people's performance in sex can more truly reflect themselves.

There is a kind of men who are called "soft eaters". Simply put, their means of survival is to lead women to orgasm during sex.Some people may think that this kind of work is easy and comfortable, but it is not.Because in order to achieve this, in addition to hard sexual training, you must also work hard on weekdays. You cannot get this talent by being born in a famous university or possessing a certain social status. In addition to this kind of "soft food", if ordinary couples can also achieve real orgasms, then it is conceivable that the love between them must be very deep, and others can feel this.There are also couples who stop having sex as they get older, but continue to love each other as long as they have had good sex in the past.Even those couples who do eventually break up can still become friends years later, as long as the two have shared the pinnacle of sex.Because they have revealed their true selves to each other without reservation, this will become the basis of their friendship in the future.

All in all, sex is extremely important between men and women. It is unrealistic to directly build a good relationship between men and women if you want to go beyond this level. As mentioned above, mental factors play a big role in women's process of achieving sexual orgasm.Many women suppress themselves subconsciously, so that they cannot achieve orgasm. Regarding this aspect, there are many reasons specifically, one of which is that mature women have such a wrong understanding: they feel that if they behave too actively, they may make the other party think that they are lascivious by nature, and the average man has such a wrong understanding. women are repelled.This wrong understanding caused her to have great anxiety in her heart, which formed a strong resistance and blocked her on the road to sexual orgasm.

From a male point of view, however, this is purely groundless worry.For women who can indulge in sex to achieve bliss, men will sincerely welcome it, and there is no disgust at all.Because when women reach orgasm, they can also bring unparalleled pleasure to men physiologically.Especially women who are rich in sexual experience and can easily reach multiple climaxes are the ideal goals pursued by men. Once they are combined, they are unwilling to separate. Many times, people are puzzled: how can such a wonderful man live with this ugly woman; why such a talented man would choose this uneducated woman, and so on.It may be confusing to look at things on the surface, but in fact this is actually the erotic bond mentioned above at work.

Sexual behavior between ordinary men and women does not only mean pleasure for the man, but also a heavy mental and physical burden, requiring men to make great efforts for this.Especially when it comes to satisfying a woman every time is no easy feat.So the man actively provokes this burden and enters the field of sex with his girlfriend. Seriously speaking, this is not just for a momentary ejaculation.If it's just for this purpose, men might as well take means such as spending money to buy sex.The former was chosen, in a sense, because men want their women to enjoy real sex.And the women who give back, the ones who can orgasm easily, will further deepen the love of men and make them fall in love with each other.

Conversely, women who don't reciprocate and feel insensitive are left out by men.No matter how beautiful or educated they are, if they are slow to respond sexually, they are doomed to be unattractive to men. If you observe all women, you will find that the closer to the intellectual type of women in general, the more serious the self-repression, and it is difficult to achieve orgasm.Of course, it cannot be generalized.But generally speaking, this tendency is quite obvious.It is a pity that there are not many women who can abandon all kinds of external things and expose their hearts to each other.It can be seen that women have a stubborn self-protection instinct.However, at the same time, there are gradually fewer real men who can break out of the self-enclosed shell and dare to give women a great sense of trust. These are the root causes of women's misfortune.

From a man's point of view, a woman's body, especially her response to orgasm, is unbelievable and admirable.Women who have been nourished by orgasm become more beautiful and feminine. In this regard, the enjoyment of orgasm is almost a privilege for women. It often happens that although there is a physical relationship between a man and a woman, they are always in a state of stalemate, and there is a certain sense of distance from each other.At this time, if there is an orgasm for the first time in sex, the relationship between the two will change dramatically.Women will immediately show a gentle and charming expression, express their love to the other party without reservation, and are even willing to sacrifice everything for the other party.Moreover, after a woman has an orgasm, her self-confidence will increase day by day. Not only will she treat her boyfriend more tenderly, but she will also behave more decently and calmly when dealing with people around her.

Whenever I notice these changes in women, I am again moved by the depth and mystery of female sexuality.In contrast, a man's sex is really a simple thing. It is not easy to get married after completing these procedures. At this time, if a man knows that his wife is pregnant, he will feel a kind of uneasiness about becoming a father, and at the same time feel extremely happy. If we analyze this kind of joy in detail, we will see that first of all, there is an element of man's ecstasy at being able to conceive his wife, and secondly, the feeling of shyness when he learns that he is about to become a father. of pride.Men derive a tremendous sense of self-confidence and security from the fact that they, as men, are already capable of normal reproduction.

On the contrary, if a man learns that he does not have the ability to impregnate his wife, he will feel that this is a defect as a man, and even produce a sense of inferiority from this, which distorts his mental state. Tsunakichi, the fifth general of the Tokugawa family, is a typical example. Due to his infertility, his psychology was deformed, which led to the enactment of decrees that made people laugh. Going back to the previous topic, if the husband finds out that his wife is pregnant soon after marriage, he will take good care of his wife's body.No matter how bloated and unattractive the wife's body becomes, the husband doesn't care.

Not only that, but the husband will also watch his wife's belly bulge day by day with great interest, sometimes begging him to stick on his wife's belly to listen to the child's movements, and sometimes even counting the days when the child will come into the world with his fingers .Husbands truly have deep love and respect for their wives who are carrying their children. However, the reason is that it is not so much that the husband behaves like this because he feels that the wife is very hard during pregnancy, etc., it is better to say that it is because they think that the wife is pregnant with their own child, so they take good care of the wife's body.After all, what the husband cares about is not the wife's body, but the child in the wife's body.

Of course, the husband will not say this kind of meaning.At the same time, because the wife is pregnant with her own child, the pregnant wife looks even cuter. Finally, when it was time to give birth, the man was as full of expectations and anxiety as his wife, and they couldn't calm down.When they learn that the baby is healthy, the men can't help but cry out, "That's great!" In recent years, it is said that the number of women wishing to have children has increased more than before, but as far as men are concerned, the overwhelming preference is for sons, especially in the first childbirth.This is because the man's desire to reproduce is always based on the instinct to desire his own eternal existence.The reason why I chose my son is because my son is closer to me, and I can more clearly feel the flesh-and-blood relationship between the two generations. There's something about men that confuses women.That is, when the child was born, the tenderness and consideration that the husband showed during her pregnancy also quickly disappeared.Of course, the husband is very grateful to his wife for completing the arduous task of giving birth, but at the same time, his focus has shifted to how to make the child grow up healthily and safely in the future. Perhaps this is the selfishness of a man: while he wants his wife to be perfect as a mother, it is hard for a husband to bear if his wife loses her feminine side in order to raise children. For example, the wife usually changes the baby's diaper in a disheveled state, or falls asleep after feeding the baby. When a husband sees such "disorderly" living conditions, he will easily feel disgusted with his wife.At the same time, if the wife ignores her husband intentionally or unintentionally in the process of taking care of the children, her dissatisfaction will be intensified. As we have already mentioned in the previous article, as far as male sexual behavior is concerned, the indispensable erection phenomenon depends to a large extent on his mental state. If the other party does not have romantic emotions and desires, it will be difficult to achieve. Therefore, it is really difficult for a man to have a sexual desire for a wife who is around all day unkempt and unkempt to take care of the children. Therefore, when the wife is so busy taking care of the children that she ignores the mystery of the relationship between men and women, the man may turn his attention to the outside world and start "hunting wild food (hunting beauty)".After the wife finds out, she often feels very indignant. She will say: "It's unbelievable that I like children so much but do such a thing..." So a family war broke out. Indeed, from a wife's point of view, it is really difficult for a wife to insist on dressing up glamorously and being obedient to her husband every day when the children are very young, just like when they were newlyweds. In fact, it can be said that it is a rather selfish request from men to ask mothers to take care of their children seriously and at the same time maintain their feminine demeanor as much as possible.There are probably not many women who can meet both requirements at the same time. However, because it is so difficult, every woman responds differently to it.There are not only those who have taken care of the two aspects at the same time, but also those who have worked hard for it, and some who have done a poor job, and some people have rejected them on the grounds of "impossibility" from the very beginning.In short, how to meet this challenge depends entirely on the parties' respective abilities and sensitivity to the outside world. In real life, men feel sincere respect and gratitude for women who are able to maintain the unique charm of women while coping with heavy family burdens such as raising children, and continue to work hard to achieve this.How women find a model that suits them at this time can also reflect their inner qualities to a certain extent. Here, there is a question that I hope future mothers will seriously consider, that is, whether it is necessary for the husband to be present when the mother gives birth. In recent years, the "Ramaz childbirth method" has been greatly popularized, and more and more husbands have begun to appear beside wives when they give birth.This painless childbirth method proposed by the French obstetrician and gynecologist Ramaz aims to provide spiritual encouragement to the wife by the husband, so as to further reduce the pain of the wife during childbirth.Although many men are unwilling to enter the delivery room, they are often forced to do so because of their wives' stubbornness. The delivery scene is a solemn holy place for men, and most men are willing to wait quietly for this.However, in real life, because wives insist that their husbands be present when they give birth, many husbands are reluctant to speak out, and can only obey their wives' orders. But if I had to comment, I would definitely be against the practice of having the husband present during labor. There are many reasons for this, the most important of which is that the presence of the husband during the birth of the wife has the potential to destroy all the sexual fantasies the husband has had of his wife up to that point. Men have a romantic vision of female sex organs since puberty when their sexual consciousness begins to awaken.For men, the female sex organ is not only a place to accommodate the male sex organ and give him pleasure, but also an eternal mystery; it is a garden, an oasis. However, once the scene of childbirth is witnessed, the romantic feelings that men have had so far for female genitals will be completely shattered and replaced by a deep disgust that female genitals are ugly and dirty. It is likely to affect the sex life of both husband and wife for a long time. Like other animals, when humans give birth, they moan loudly and give birth to offspring with blood flowing from their thighs. This process has no sense of beauty. In the face of this animal behavior, the only ones who can hold his wife's hand indifferently are those men who are insensitive.Any man who has any sense of it will be shocked by it and cannot bear to see it. From the man's point of view, the female sex organ that was so attractive and mysterious when he was young suddenly opened strangely in front of his eyes, and a large piece of bloody flesh was squeezed out of it with bursts of groans. Once such a scene is witnessed, the man's romantic feelings for his wife will immediately disappear and be replaced by a sense of resistance to entering such an ugly part again. From the doctor's point of view, based on repeated clinical experience, they generally believe that although the husband's presence when the wife gives birth can strengthen the emotional bond between the two parties for a while, in the long run, it destroys the husband's sense of mystery and respect for his wife. Longing feeling.From then on, no matter how coquettish the wife is, it is difficult to make the husband as enthusiastic and selfless as before. Of course, it is understandable that wives hope to let their husbands realize the importance of childbirth through this form. However, although the husband holding his wife's hand during childbirth can relieve some of the wife's pain, it is generally only a short-term sense of security.Therefore, ignoring the husband's sensitive feelings may destroy the husband's sexual fantasies about his wife as a result, thus casting a subtle shadow on the relationship between husband and wife in the future. Many women may be optimistic about this and think "it's okay", but men are often reluctant to tell their wives the emotional stimulation of such an occasion openly.On the contrary, it will be difficult for them to have sexual interest in their wives in the future.If their stimulation becomes a taboo that has been lurking deep down, it may drive the husband to find a new love. After the "Ramaz childbirth method" was proposed, its advantages were widely disseminated, and thus gained the recognition of many women.Of course, it is also because of its unique advantages that it is so popular.However, at the same time it is undeniable that it also hides the possibility of the problems just mentioned. No matter how close a couple is, it is necessary to maintain a certain sense of mystery between them.Once the two parties have no secrets at all, they may start to feel bored with each other, and the relationship between husband and wife will enter a period of burnout. The relationship between husband and wife is not a one-year or two-year relationship.Since the two parties want to live together for decades and spend most of their lives, it is very necessary to maintain a certain sense of tension and mystery in order to maintain mutual sexual charm.