Chapter 9 Chapter 8 The Interpretation of the Orgasm The Interpretation of the Orgasm

So far, we have discussed male sexuality from various angles.When it comes to women's sexuality, there is one thing that cannot be ignored, and that is orgasm.Because whether women can achieve orgasm is not only a personal issue, but also of great significance to men. First let's look at what exactly is an orgasm.For orgasm, we usually use words such as "close to the critical point" or "peak of sexual pleasure" to describe it, but once we want to express its true inner meaning, we will find that it is not easy to give it a clear definition thing. Among women who can only judge whether they have reached an orgasm based on their own subjective feelings, many of them have not actually reached an orgasm, and some just feel good for a while, and they are overjoyed to think that it is an orgasm.

Here, if we must give a definition of orgasm, it may be more appropriate to say that: a sexually mature woman reaches the peak of sexual excitement through sexual behavior, and with the emergence of strong sexual pleasure is accompanied by a feeling like floating on a cloud. The sense of lightness on top of this sexual pleasure is so intense that sometimes the body experiences a momentary sense of nothingness that resembles unconsciousness.At the same time, along with the hyperemia of the tissues around the vagina, women experience a series of physiological reactions such as rising internal temperature of the vagina and spasms of the vaginal mucous membrane.The above-mentioned series of physiological changes are the orgasm.

To achieve orgasm, the following conditions must be met: First of all, women must be quite mature sexually.When having sex with a man for the first time, most women feel nothing but pain and tend to think that sex is "just what it is."When there is no accumulation of sexual experience, it is difficult for women to feel orgasm.In the process of continuously accumulating sexual experience, women's sexual feelings are developed, their emotions tend to be stable, and they gradually begin to have the ability to achieve orgasm. Women's innate sexual feelings are not complete. At this point, women are different from men who can feel sexual pleasure strongly when they ejaculate for the first time. This is also the complexity of women's physiology.Compared with men's sexual pleasure, which does not fluctuate much throughout their lives, women's sexual experience develops from initial pain to pleasure, which can be described as mysterious and full of changes.

Why are women's sexual feelings different from men's, and will they develop gradually?The most important factor is that when a woman is still a virgin, her vagina is closed by the hymen. In order to have sexual intercourse, this layer of hymen must be destroyed. At this time, in addition to a small amount of bleeding, there is also pain and strange feeling , with the increase in the number of sexual intercourse, this pain and strange feeling gradually weakened, and women began to become receptive to men entering their bodies. While these series of changes are taking place in the body, women still have many obstacles to overcome mentally.

First of all, women are in the position of accepting male sexual organs during sexual intercourse. Women tend to have a certain resistance and fear of pregnancy.In addition, many people's guilt about having sex outside of marriage and having sex without telling their parents can also become a restraining force to suppress their inner impulses. In addition, a gloomy and painful experience in her childhood or teenage years often left her with mental trauma, causing her to have a strong sense of disgust and fear about sex, making it difficult for her to get in touch with sex normally.For women, being raped or tortured, living in an environment with too strict family education since childhood, or being indoctrinated with religious teachings against sex all the time, and seeing their parents having sex scenes when they were young made them disgusted with sex. All may hinder women from achieving orgasm. In order to obtain real sexual pleasure, they have to embark on a long and arduous search.

In this regard, the first thing to do is to free yourself from all kinds of sexual repression and break free from the spiritual shackles.Then, try to open up to the man you love.If there are reservations in mind, it will hinder women from achieving orgasm.In the process of obtaining an orgasm, in addition to physical factors, women must also fully trust each other in the spiritual field and truly promise each other with their hearts. Only in this way can they get what they want. Recently, women have begun to be active in various fields of society, and their level can be described as unmatched by men.However, at the same time, men are gradually going downhill, losing their confidence and aura as men.In the eyes of energetic women, such a man is really worthless, and it is difficult to make people feel trustworthy.If this social trend continues, it is likely to become a huge barrier to communication between men and women. It not only weakens women's trust in men, but also prevents women from achieving orgasm.

In addition, because it is not easy for men to guide women to experience orgasm, there are also many men who are passive and sabotage.For example, couples who are married in love do not experience real orgasm before marriage. Although they can enjoy sex without restriction after marriage, if the husband is tired of sex before the wife gets orgasm, the couple will have May be in a sexual relationship without orgasm for life. Many wives who have been married for several years complain about their husbands: "The so-called husband is actually a very selfish animal. When he wants to, he enters without any foreplay, and immediately falls asleep on his own after ejaculation." No matter the level of education or income, there are such men who are very selfish and poor in sex at any level.In fact, sex has nothing to do with my education and status.Compared with external things such as education and status, people's performance in sex can more truly reflect themselves.

There is a kind of men who are called "soft eaters". Simply put, their means of survival is to lead women to orgasm during sex.Some people may think that this kind of work is easy and comfortable, but it is not.Because in order to achieve this, in addition to hard sexual training, you must also work hard on weekdays. You cannot get this talent by being born in a famous university or possessing a certain social status. In addition to this kind of "soft food", if ordinary couples can also achieve real orgasms, then it is conceivable that the love between them must be very deep, and others can feel this.There are also couples who stop having sex as they get older, but continue to love each other as long as they have had good sex in the past.Even those couples who do eventually break up can still become friends years later, as long as the two have shared the pinnacle of sex.Because they have revealed their true selves to each other without reservation, this will become the basis of their friendship in the future.

All in all, sex is extremely important between men and women. It is unrealistic to directly build a good relationship between men and women if you want to go beyond this level. As mentioned above, mental factors play a big role in women's process of achieving sexual orgasm.Many women suppress themselves subconsciously, so that they cannot achieve orgasm. Regarding this aspect, there are many reasons specifically, one of which is that mature women have such a wrong understanding: they feel that if they behave too actively, they may make the other party think that they are lascivious by nature, and the average man has such a wrong understanding. women are repelled.This wrong understanding caused her to have great anxiety in her heart, which formed a strong resistance and blocked her on the road to sexual orgasm.

From a male point of view, however, this is purely groundless worry.For women who can indulge in sex to achieve bliss, men will sincerely welcome it, and there is no disgust at all.Because when women reach orgasm, they can also bring unparalleled pleasure to men physiologically.Especially women who are rich in sexual experience and can easily reach multiple climaxes are the ideal goals pursued by men. Once they are combined, they are unwilling to separate. Many times, people are puzzled: how can such a wonderful man live with this ugly woman; why such a talented man would choose this uneducated woman, and so on.It may be confusing to look at things on the surface, but in fact this is actually the erotic bond mentioned above at work.

Sexual behavior between ordinary men and women does not only mean pleasure for the man, but also a heavy mental and physical burden, requiring men to make great efforts for this.Especially when it comes to satisfying a woman every time is no easy feat.So the man actively provokes this burden and enters the field of sex with his girlfriend. Seriously speaking, this is not just for a momentary ejaculation.If it's just for this purpose, men might as well take means such as spending money to buy sex.The former was chosen, in a sense, because men want their women to enjoy real sex.And the women who give back, the ones who can orgasm easily, will further deepen the love of men and make them fall in love with each other. Conversely, women who don't reciprocate and feel insensitive are left out by men.No matter how beautiful or educated they are, if they are slow to respond sexually, they are doomed to be unattractive to men. If you observe all women, you will find that the closer to the intellectual type of women in general, the more serious the self-repression, and it is difficult to achieve orgasm.Of course, it cannot be generalized.But generally speaking, this tendency is quite obvious.It is a pity that there are not many women who can abandon all kinds of external things and expose their hearts to each other.It can be seen that women have a stubborn self-protection instinct.However, at the same time, there are gradually fewer real men who can break out of the self-enclosed shell and dare to give women a great sense of trust. These are the root causes of women's misfortune. From a man's point of view, a woman's body, especially her response to orgasm, is unbelievable and admirable.Women who have been nourished by orgasm become more beautiful and feminine. In this regard, the enjoyment of orgasm is almost a privilege for women. It often happens that although there is a physical relationship between a man and a woman, they are always in a state of stalemate, and there is a certain sense of distance from each other.At this time, if there is an orgasm for the first time in sex, the relationship between the two will change dramatically.Women will immediately show a gentle and charming expression, express their love to the other party without reservation, and are even willing to sacrifice everything for the other party.Moreover, after a woman has an orgasm, her self-confidence will increase day by day. Not only will she treat her boyfriend more tenderly, but she will also behave more decently and calmly when dealing with people around her. Whenever I notice these changes in women, I am again moved by the depth and mystery of female sexuality.In contrast, a man's sex is really a simple thing.