Chapter 7 Chapter 6 Why Men Go "Merry" Why Men Go "Merry"

For women, it is an incomprehensible and unforgivable sin for men to spend money to seek sexual pleasure, which is called "buying sex" or "buying laughter". However, it is said that the oldest commercial practice in the world is prostitution, and considering that it has been seen in every era of history, it can be seen that it must have a reason for its existence. In this chapter we want to do some research around why men pay for sex. Many women feel disgusted by men who visit brothels.What puzzles them most is why men have no repulsion to have sex with a woman they don't know, and why there is no shame in spending money on it.If you want men to answer this question that makes women feel incomprehensible, I am afraid there is only one answer, and that is "because we are men".

Of course, there are people who have never set foot in a sex scene in their lives, or people who hate such things. However, even among such men, many of them have always been separated from this way by a barrier only because of other reasons.For example, if no one is invited, or lacks the courage to go to the meeting alone, or thinks that they are very attractive and waits for someone to throw themselves into their arms, etc., they are not uninterested in this way.In other words, people who have never been there are not necessarily because they are more rational, and those who have been there are not necessarily vulgar.In short, it is difficult to sum it up in one or two sentences.It can be said that as long as they are men, they are more or less interested in such things.

So why is there such a huge difference between men and women?Before answering this question, let us examine the biological differences between men and women. It can be said that in terms of sex, men are in the position of giving, while women are in the position of receiving.This difference between giving and receiving is so striking that they play different roles in actual physical sensations. If we examine the desire to eat and drink, which is one of the instincts of human beings, we will find that when people ingest food, they are very careful and sensitive to issues such as whether it is poisonous or useful to the human body, and use this as a benchmark to judge Choose food.Although sex and diet cannot be completely equated, it cannot be said that there is no similarity between the two in terms of the human body's natural vigilance and defensive measures when faced with something harmful to the human body and of unknown origin.

Corresponding to this behavior pattern is the male sexual behavior. During the sexual behavior, the male enters the other party's body and emits sperm.Men's sexual patterns, by contrast, appear straightforward and place no particular constraints on their choice of sexual partners. As male animals, men are sexually passionate and have a strong sexual drive towards the opposite sex.Especially men aged 15 to 30 have a very strong sexual desire, and they want to let it out as soon as they have the right opportunity.It doesn't matter what kind of woman the other party is, because the man's own sexual turmoil makes him have little choice.It is difficult for women to understand or realize the intensity of men's sexual curiosity and desire, which has gone far beyond women's imagination.

Simply put, when it comes to sexual forays, men are explorers.Driven by curiosity and desire, explorers set foot on an unknown world full of hardships.Men have a similar attitude towards sex. They always have a strong curiosity about unknown women and their bodies, and are willing to challenge them even if they have to take certain risks.On the contrary, for women who are already familiar and have no sense of novelty, they cannot have the urge to explore.After a man has several relationships with the same woman, he will gradually feel bored, and then he will turn his attention to the strange opposite sex.

Male animals are like explorers, who have a strong desire for the body of a woman in an unknown world, hoping to find out its inner mysteries.This desire drives him to see what he doesn't know, to touch women he has never met.If there is a clothed woman standing before him, he is stimulated by the thought of taking off her clothes and enjoying her flesh.But if a naked woman is replaced at the beginning, I am afraid it will not arouse the desire of men who are male animals.This is the same as going to an accessible place so that you don't feel the joy of adventure. So for a man, even if he is surrounded by a young and beautiful wife, sometimes he can't help but want to meet other women. The innate strong sexual impulse of a man is not simply influenced by the woman's appearance. .Most of the time, the most important thing for men is the sense of novelty. Men are driven by this desire for novelty. Sometimes, although the newly met women are far inferior to their wives, just because she has unknown sex, they are greatly affected. caught their attention.Although it may not necessarily develop into a physical relationship in the end, it is also common for good men in real life to use this as the subject of imagination and have some daydreams.

In strip clubs, men's curiosity about sex is even more evident.When the stripper spread her thighs on the stage, the male audience exclaimed in unison and leaned out to see the dancer's private parts.The scrambling looks of the seemingly serious staff at this time are really ridiculous, and this is also the real side of a man. This situation is somewhat similar to women flocking to the sale place of brand-name goods.The women at the auction site didn't even bother to choose the goods carefully, they just rushed to buy them blindly, for fear of falling behind. The behavior of the men gathered in the strip club was similar.Some people may say that men vying to see naked women and women vying to buy designer handbags are two different things.From a man's point of view, however, the rush of women rushing to the auction floor to buy brand-name goods is equally puzzling.

All in all, the so-called male is an animal with strong sexual curiosity that is difficult for women to imagine and understand.For the opposite sex, he always wants to satisfy his sexual curiosity by watching, touching or even entering the other party's body.This strong sexual curiosity and love belong to two fields, and there is no necessary connection between the two. Seeing this, people may be disappointed by this vulgar, animal-like character of men.In fact, it is by virtue of this endless pursuit of sex that the reproduction of human beings can be guaranteed. It can be said that this desire of men is arranged by the Creator.

All male animals have the instinct to spread their seeds widely to continue their genetics.On the other hand, in order to ensure that offspring with good genetics can be produced, female animals also strictly select their mating partners.It is through this sexual division of labor that the species is perpetuated.As a member of nature, human beings also have this characteristic as a matter of course. If men, like women, were picky about their sexual partners and would rather not have one if they were not satisfied, the human race would have died out long ago.The two sides examine and calculate each other, peep and look at each other. With this mentality, it is difficult to succeed.In contrast, one side is forced to sell, and the other side chooses carefully. Perhaps this combination can achieve a better balance and be more effective.

The Creator endows the male sexual organs with strong sexual desire, so that he does not make any choice on the partner of sexual intercourse, as long as the sexual desire can be satisfied.In this way, the combination of yin and yang will be more frequent and the process will be smoother. This is also evident in the combination of sperm and egg.Observing the moment of egg fertilization through a microscope, we can find that the egg is sitting quietly in one place, while hundreds of millions of sperm are scrambling to swim to it.Among them, the fastest-swimming sperm is the first to break through the cell membrane of the egg and complete fertilization.

We can see that the sperm has the instinct to unconditionally rush to the egg and enter the egg, and the egg has the instinct to choose a candidate from countless suitors, which is the principle of sex. As mentioned earlier, men's strong sexual requirements have long been stored in their genes as an instinct.But in fact, due to various restrictions and norms in human society, human beings cannot do whatever they want like animals.But men's sexual curiosity and sexual impulse are all derived from instinct, which is worthy of our attention. As a digression, someone recently pointed out that the reason why the marriage rate began to decline was mainly because women began to enter society, their values ​​changed, and society's prejudice against single men and women also declined.I personally think that, apart from these points, the innate weakness of males as male animals to actively attack females can also be counted as one of the factors? The difference in sexual requirements between men and women is also a prerequisite for the existence of the prostitution industry. Through this method, the contradictions between men and women caused by inconsistent sexual requirements can be more or less alleviated. But because of the money involved, it is despised by women.They accused the practice of using women as sex commodities. However, from a man's point of view, just because money is involved, in other words, men exchange money for sexual satisfaction, so they will not cause unnecessary trouble.In this way, not only can men's sexual desires and desires for fresh women be satisfied, but at the same time they will not cause social conflicts. In short, for men, sex and love are two different things.Men have already had sexual impulses before love has occurred, and they are eager to have sexual exchanges with strange women.However, if you plan to have a relationship with ordinary women because of this, you must first get to know each other, then invite the other party to eat together, and then go on dates again and again. After going through so many procedures, the other party may not easily agree to each other.Therefore, it is necessary to further try to win the favor of the other party and do something to make her happy. Even so, she may not necessarily agree to go to Yuntai together.In a word, this is indeed a laborious and laborious work with half the effort. In this case, if the other party is a woman whose career is sex, there is no need for such cumbersome foreshadowing, and the sexual requirements of the men can be met.Many women don't understand why a man pays 30,000 to 40,000 yen to a prostitute all at once.For men, 30,000 to 40,000 yen is not a small amount, but compared with the money spent on that occasion, the latter is much more cost-effective than the money spent on such occasions after dating ordinary women several times.Women will undoubtedly be furious and find it difficult to accept this naked money relationship, but for men suffering from sexual desire, women in prostitution are undoubtedly the goddesses who soothe their bodies and minds.If a man's request is limited to sexual services, I'm afraid there is nothing more suitable than "buying sex". In addition, this kind of sexual relationship involving money is actually a contractual relationship, which will not bring any trouble to men and make them worry about it.If the other party is a girl from an ordinary family, after the two parties have a relationship, the woman often asks the man to take responsibility. If the man behaves badly, he will be criticized by the people around him.All in all, the aftermath of things is very tricky.So from a man's point of view, if he has a sexual relationship with a woman just to meet his physical needs but not out of love, it is easier to spend some money to find a prostitute than to find an ordinary woman on his shoulders. Many wives were outraged, and some even felt a deep sense of humiliation, that their husbands ignored their presence and frequented brothels.But husbands think that they have paid for professional-level services and have no worries, so why not do it?The wife needn't have cared so much about it. Compared with the wife who stays with her, the body of a prostitute is more fresh and easy to satisfy a man.Since the nature of men is to yearn for unknown women, it is also more convenient for women to have fun with women like prostitutes. Just as there are always wives who are dissatisfied with the sex between the couple, there are husbands who are dissatisfied with the sex of their wives.Husbands always have various demands on their wives. For example, they hope that their wives will be more unrestrained and enthusiastic in sex, not as if they are fulfilling their obligations; Hold back a little bit and so on.If these requests are repeatedly rejected, husbands will naturally think of prostitutes and hope to obtain sexual satisfaction from them. There are many such men who have families but are not sexually satisfied. When their sexual desire is high, they naturally go to places that can provide such services. Of course, these reasons for men, in the eyes of women, are just an excuse to justify themselves.But in fact this is indeed due to the physiological characteristics of men. Others feel aggrieved that men buying sex with money is a violation of women's human rights.In fact, the surprising fact is that most of the women who engage in this kind of sexual services live a relaxed and peaceful life. For those men who exchange their bodies with money, they often have sympathy instead of resistance, and feel that such men are pitiful and embarrassing. sad.Most prostitutes have this idea: "If my body can satisfy you, then just enjoy it. As long as you are willing to pay, it doesn't matter if I lend you my body." Perhaps there are many of them Deep down in their hearts, they are looking forward to getting rid of this kind of occupation as soon as possible, but at least on the surface, they all show the former attitude. The prostitute is acutely aware of her sexual value as a woman, a commodity value that can be exchanged for money.It may sound unnatural to make such an assertion, but that is the nature of sex between a man and a woman. For these women engaged in sex services, there are voices of sympathy, claiming that their human rights have been violated;Ordinary women are more likely to hold the latter view.But in fact, there are not only many men who have solved their sexual troubles with them, but also many women who have unknowingly benefited from these women and can enjoy a comfortable life. For example, we contemptuously call a man who depends on a woman a "soft food", and those women who depend on a man for a living, we call him a "wife".For this phenomenon that has been accepted by society, if we think about it seriously, we will find its incredible side.Of course, the wife will emphasize the housework she usually undertakes, but isn't the so-called "soft food" usually submissive to the mistress and careful in every way to please her?Especially in terms of sex, always put yourself in a state of readiness for the occasional needs of the hostess. Simply put, the difference between a "wife" and a "soft eater" lies in the prevailing notion in society that women take for granted the financial protection they receive from men.Even the women themselves think so.In fact, this reveals the sexual nature of women from one side, that is, women's sex, which has a value that can be exchanged with money.Most women feel this way, if not explicitly, at least subconsciously.Here we don't care whether it is good or bad, but what is certain is that prostitutes have a very clear understanding of this sexual nature of women and put it into practice. Men not only take the initiative to go to places that provide sexual services, but also accept women provided by their counterparts as work entertainment. We can see from various exposed corruption incidents that the so-called "reception" has been nothing more than three points: treating guests to dinner, giving cash, and providing women since ancient times. For many women, offering women as a "reception" at work is outrageous.Such receptions have been reduced recently due to the threat of AIDS.However, when traveling overseas, it is still common for the host party to provide women. The reason for engaging in "reception" is nothing more than hoping to please the other party, adjust the relationship between the two parties, and obtain a certain return.Just like no matter who faces delicious food, no one will be indifferent if a man finds out that the other party has provided a woman.In particular, high-level bureaucrats and leaders of first-class companies usually dare not act rashly due to their respective positions. Once they receive sexual services during overseas business trips, they will all be overjoyed. Many men who live a dull life in China yearn to embrace strange beauties without any scruples in a foreign country and have fun to their heart's content.This kind of thinking sometimes far outweighs the desire to enjoy a good meal in a high-end restaurant.At this time, if the other party is responsible for "reception" by women, men will feel dissatisfied because they cannot enjoy this special service.From this point of view, this may also be one of the reasons for restricting women's participation in work. That aside.All in all, the fundamental reason why prostitution has been able to continue as a business since ancient times is that the sexual characteristics of men are completely different from those of women. On the other hand, it is worth noting that the women who provide sexual services are too professional, and the men who receive the services have no sense of fulfillment in other aspects except pure sexual pleasure.During intercourse, the woman will moan loudly and respond with unusual enthusiasm, complimenting the attractiveness of the man.But when a man realizes that all this is just part of the sexual service, he can't help but feel disheartened.After rushing to the brothel with high spirits, many men feel an indescribable sense of emptiness when they walk out of the room after finishing their work.In this state of mind, men want to pursue spiritual love—the kind of pure and noble love that is essentially different from the services provided by the former. To use a metaphor, this is more or less similar to the point that people are only greedy for food when they are hungry, and start to pay attention to delicious food when they are not worried about food and drink.In the advertising columns of entertainment newspapers, there are often advertisements about "married women" and "female college students". The advertisements emphasize that these women are not professional prostitution girls.Men are often attracted by this, longing for the pure and shy demeanor of this ordinary non-professional woman, and flock to them one after another. Although in the end this kind of relationship is still inseparable from money, but for men, after all, there is still a touch of sentimentality and a feeling similar to love, and that is all that men ask for. Recently, a new product called "assistant communication" (that is, pornographic communication after the gift of material money - Translator's Note) has become popular in the sex industry. The men are exceptionally welcome.Some of them are female high school students, with a pure charm that married women do not have. Most of the men who participate in "aid communication" hope to share the joy of fish and water with each other.In order to appreciate and enjoy the bodies of young strange women, men don't hesitate to present them with brand-name leather bags or jewelry, and invite them to restaurants. Although men who carry out this kind of "assistant communication" have desires in their hearts and look forward to having a relationship with each other, in fact, they do not always get what they want. But for men, even if this purpose is not achieved, just dating young women with full expectations and feeling the youthful breath of them is very emotional. This intercourse indirectly satisfies the desire of men who are beginning to enter middle age to return to youth. Men are ashamed to admit that they have a crush on a girl about their own daughter's age, and pay a lot of money for it.But on the other hand, as long as they don't know, they always want to foul once.This is a kind of innate sexual impulse that a man as a male animal has.Women are often baffled by this urge. There was once such a middle-aged woman who had a lot of friends and many boyfriends when she was young.Later she started a relationship with a man younger than herself.One day, she suddenly realized that every time she ate in a restaurant, she actually paid for it herself. When she saw suitable clothes in the store, she also paid for them and bought them for him. She even offered to give him pocket money.In this way, isn't he using money to win the favor of this young man?Upon realizing this, an indescribable emptiness and sadness overwhelmed her, and she soon broke up with this boyfriend. In the eyes of men, the same thing is not so boring. For example, using one's own money and social status to pursue women is worth doing.For them, it is only natural that the man pays when dining with young women.And, women generally take it for granted.But if the roles of the two are reversed and the girl is allowed to pay the bill, the man may feel very ashamed and lose face.This gap in feeling and consciousness is the difference between men and women.Of course, in big cities nowadays, you can sometimes see women who buy brand-name goods as gifts for their boyfriends, but there are very few of them, and they themselves don't feel very honorable about it. The reason why the popular "assistant communication" is attractive to men is of course that the women who participate in the communication are very young.Women are also very aware of this, and accept gifts and money from men with peace of mind.Especially female high school students, you can often hear them say nonchalantly: "Women can only do such good things when they are young." "If a woman is over twenty-five years old, it will be useless. Gotta get married soon." It could be said that they instinctively realized that the main reason why men would spend money to flock to them was because they were still high school girls. In this regard, at first glance, these women are not much different from professional prostitutes, but their college uniforms and pure atmosphere make them look like innocent girls.This is exactly the allure of "assistant communication". We have said before that a man who lives off a woman is called a "soft eater," and a woman who lives off a man is called a "wife."In the final analysis, this difference stems from the difference in sex between men and women.The marriage system so far has stipulated that men must bear financial responsibility to their wives, which is actually the same as prostitution and "aided communication", that is, men pay to buy sexual services provided by specific women. Having said that, some women may refute loudly, claiming that women do not exist only to satisfy men's sexual requirements.It is true that there is more than sex between men and women, but for men, sex is indeed a very precious thing, and it is worth spending money on it. Regardless of whether it is right or wrong, at least one thing is certain, that is, women's body and sex are the eternal pursuit goals of men, and this pursuit is almost instinctive. So far, we have briefly discussed the nature of men, and I am afraid that not many women can understand it. The greatest complaint of women is: "Even if man's nature is so, can't his reason control or prevent it?" In their view, men succumb to their instincts and spend money to buy sex, which is a sign of weakness of will.But on the other hand, if men rigidly suppress their own sexual desires, they may become a well-behaved and gentle man on the surface, but at the same time, his unique color as a male animal will gradually disappear. The wives will retort: ​​"There is no such thing. Men can get happiness from their wives without paying for sex." But in fact, most husbands who are bored with their wives are not interested in getting happiness from their wives. Satisfied, and in fact can't get it.So they don't hesitate to spend a lot of money in pursuit of sexual freshness and hearty sex, which are exactly what their wives cannot provide. Some wives may suggest after knowing this: "If I knew this was the case, wouldn't it be better to simply bring it up in person?" Having said that, in real life, men generally don't ask their wives for overly provocative and intense sex.The reason is mainly that men hope that their wives must first be qualified mothers of their children and their life partners. It sounds like this is somewhat contradictory to the saying that men expect their wives to be beautiful.But digging deeper into their hearts reveals that men often secretly fear that if their wives become interested in hard sex, they may not be able to satisfy her in the future. There are also many mothers who ask their single sons to associate with the daughters of decent families instead of spending money on sex.In fact, men who spend money to buy sex often suffer from having no partner and being unable to restrain their desires, so they do it as a last resort. It has also been suggested that it is best to remain abstinent until you meet the ideal match.But in this way, the inner impulse may change, and it is unknown to evolve into abnormal psychology such as raping women or attacking young girls. As mentioned above, the male sexual impulse is extremely normal. Instead of suppressing it, it is better to try to let it exist unfettered and naturally.In order to make this sexual impulse develop normally, and be controlled and induced, many men will naturally go to prostitutes who provide sexual services to solve the problem. However, if the sexual impulse is further suppressed, it may lead to the decline of the sexual impulse and make the man lose his due demeanor as a male animal. From the mother's point of view, boys who obey adults' orders are soft-tempered, good grades, and very attractive.However, these boys who are as gentle as little sheep may not be favored by girls, because they lack the aggressiveness and roughness that male animals should have, and they are just mothers' little pets. It often happens that a grand and lively wedding has just been held, but the man cannot fulfill his obligations as a husband, so the two parties have to divorce.Part of the reason for this lies in mothers, who blindly expect boys to be obedient and well-behaved. Women like men with good conduct and gentlemanly demeanor, but when she learns that this man has sexual obstacles, she may not be obsessed with him again.Regarding this point, not only ordinary women know it well, even virgins are full of desire for men with masculine charm in their subconscious. For a man who wants to hone himself sexually, or distorts his ego by suppressing his urges, there is an option worth considering: paying for sex. After discussing this point, everyone will have a more or less tolerant attitude towards men who go to "those" places, right?