Chapter 3 Chapter Two Hesitation and Decisiveness Hesitation and Decisiveness

For men, having sex with a woman in love is an important topic that is worth exploring regardless of age.Specifically, there must be no man who has not experienced the pain of the following situation: Although he has developed to the point where he can date with a woman he loves, he is always worried: When and how will he be able to progress to sexual relations in the future What about this stage?Also, what methods will be adopted to enable women to be sexually satisfied? In fact, the degree of this trouble is much more serious than women imagine.From the day of the first date, many men will be tortured by the entanglement and mental pressure of this desire.And this kind of mental pain is often not experienced by women, nor is it understood by women.

However, as long as the man has no chance to cross this line of defense, the relationship between men and women will always be on a parallel line, and will not deepen. Of course, there may be very few women who will actively pursue men. The author will discuss such issues below, that is, let us examine how troubled and overwhelmed a man is when he meets a certain woman, and how he painstakingly plans a specific action plan, and finally meets the woman. Women develop to have sex. Once a man hopes to have a close relationship with a certain woman, he generally adopts the following method: first, he will invite her to dinner or watch a movie to facilitate the realization of the date.It is not difficult to achieve this step. As long as you are not a man who is timid or has too high self-esteem, you should be able to achieve it in a relatively relaxed state of mind.When a woman is invited to an appointment for two or three meals together, the man will have the desire to touch and touch the woman's body.

The first step of which is kissing.Especially when it comes to dating, men are always thinking about when to kiss.It seems that there are also concerns among women, do men get sexually aroused when they kiss?But during a walk or meal in the street, this possibility does not arise, so there is no need to worry. Generally speaking, when men have such desires and intentions, they first hope to understand the other party's thoughts, and at the same time try their best to convey his own good feelings to the other party. It goes without saying that the prerequisite for physical contact must be mutual goodwill, mutual trust, and mutual reassurance.On the basis of being convinced of this premise, how to implement actions?Generally speaking, it is to extend the appointment time.For example, suggest another restaurant to eat, or go to a secluded place in the park to rest, and so on.Once such an invitation is made, it can be concluded that the man has ulterior motives.

In addition, while drinking, check the other person's reaction by lightly touching the other person's hand, or making light physical contact such as bringing your knee close to the other person's knee.This is also a common acting skill.In a bar, sitting side by side facing the bar is the same, because you can test each other's reaction through shoulder-to-shoulder contact.If the woman withdraws her hand or knee reflexively, it is reasonable to judge that the woman is not sincere. This kind of identification of "promising" and "unpromising" is difficult without a certain degree of experience accumulation.Once you misunderstand the other party's intentions or miss the opportunity, you will fail; if you act too hastily, you will be severely rejected.Even so, if you can continue to work carefully and carefully, you may still be able to succeed.This kind of identification and judgment is very difficult to grasp.In particular, many men often have misunderstandings. For example, if you ask a female employee out for dinner as a boss, she will happily go, but this does not necessarily mean that she has a good impression of you to go to the appointment, just because you are the boss and it is difficult to refuse.

All in all, men are using various "chemical litmus papers" to identify and judge each other's sincerity: Can they accept kissing?Can they finally agree with each other?It is generally common that before the action is implemented, the man is already simulating the action plan from the night's date to the final ending, deliberating about when and where to kiss the action plan.During a date, men have to rack their brains to think about the next step in their behavior, so men often talk absent-mindedly and chew food without knowing what it tastes like.Sometimes it is rare that a woman has entered a good state of heart-to-heart talk, but the unlucky man himself is absent-minded, which greatly disappoints the woman.

Putting these aside, let's talk about the smooth progress to the "promising" situation.Although it has finally progressed to the stage where you can kiss, you should not rush to ask for it in public, so you should go to a secluded place away from bystanders.The easiest and most successful way to deal with this situation is to invite the other party to drive for an outing.In any case, the interior of the car is also a secret room, a space for only two people.Moreover, you can also drive to a place with a beautiful night scenery or a place with a suitable surrounding environment such as the seaside at will.In addition, you can also create an atmosphere through CD players and tape recorders.In this way, men can more easily grasp the initiative and thus control the situation.

In the absence of a car, you should seize the opportunity to go for a walk in the park or escort the woman home.In this case, most men want to drink, because if they are rejected by the woman, they can also use "I'm sorry, it's because I was drunk..." to prevaricate themselves, and most people who prepare for their escape are cowardly. intellectual class. The term "stalking pervert" has existed since ancient times.It's about a man escorting a woman home with other intentions in mind.Especially when women are alone, men expect women to invite him to "come in for some tea".If the woman does not invite, the man will take the initiative to say "Can I have a glass of water?", or say "I would like to admire your room."It is difficult for a man with a serious character to speak to this level, so if a woman wants to, she can take the initiative to ask the man to say "Come and sit for a while", and the man will be very happy.On the contrary, it is not uncommon for women to be invited to men's rooms (in the case of single men).At this time, the common method used by men is to use "I have something for you...", "I want you to see something, can you come in and sit for a while?" and so on as excuses.

Even if the two can finally stay alone together, it may not be possible to achieve the purpose of kissing.For example, once two people sit across the table, it is difficult to get closer across the table.However, if you are a smart man, you can often go to the refrigerator to get food, or go to the bathroom, etc. Once you leave the seat and return, you will sit side by side with the woman, or sit at a right angle. Come to women.Men who are dull and not good at interacting with women often don't adapt to the situation when they are in extreme tension, and they always sit opposite women in a daze. In this way, they are likely to miss the opportunity and disappoint the woman.In this case, if the woman wants to, she can change the seat seemingly nonchalantly, so as to reduce the psychological pressure of the man. This may be the embodiment of women's gentle character.

So and so, finally pass the first level, you can kiss, but how to progress to the stage of sexual relations?This has to wait for a more severe test. All in all, from the moment a man has a good impression of a woman, he will look forward to and brew in his heart to have sex with a woman.However, it is not easy for men to achieve their goals.It can be said that this is a struggle between self-confidence and fear. To achieve the goal of combining men and women, women first need to have this sincerity.It is more necessary for the man to understand the state of mind of the woman and seize the opportunity just right. This intuitive judgment comes from the innate sensory awareness and the accumulation of experience, which is difficult to explain clearly.

Generally speaking, after a man and a woman meet, if there is no progress in the relationship for a long time, it is a missed opportunity and it is difficult to re-launch the offensive.It is impossible to simply say how far this period has developed, but if there is no obvious progress within half a year, then it will be difficult to make further achievements in action.There will even be such a tragicomedy, during which the woman will come to the conclusion that probably this man will not ask for it.Therefore, the man will be in a dilemma. Although he wakes up, he will find that the relationship between the two has evolved into a friendship.

If the two really have a good impression of each other, and they also feel that the woman seems to have the intention to accept themselves, then how to progress to the next stage?Generally speaking, when having sex for the first time, it is the man who takes the initiative.Men also painstakingly brew a specific plan of action. The ideal situation is to invite the woman to "go on a trip together", and the woman is willing to go.In this case, the two parties can usually combine smoothly without any problems.But men cannot expect unrelated women to accept such invitations lightly.Perhaps it would be more natural to invite the woman to the party.In this case, after dinner, in the hotel bar, while drinking, touch the woman's knee or touch her shoulder and arm casually to test her reaction.Wait until the stage of "seems to be all right" can be concluded, and then go to the bathroom as an excuse to check in for accommodation. However, there are many cases where things seem to have progressed to that stage, and the woman is willing to come to the room, but the result is still not as expected.The reason for the failure in this case is that it failed to create a suitable atmosphere.When there were only two people left in the room, the man immediately went to hug the woman, but the woman said "hate" at the head, and then the woman walked away.This in turn worsened the relationship between the two.Perhaps this situation should be explained like this: since the woman can come to the room, it means that she has no dislike for the man.But the man didn't create a good atmosphere, but suddenly hugged the woman when she was unprepared, of course, he could only disappoint the woman in the end.In this case, the brightness and darkness of the room lighting is also a problem that should be paid attention to. If the light is too strong, it may be difficult for women to adapt.But you can't simply turn off the lights because of this, because the result will make the woman feel guarded.From this point of view, even if there are only two people left, how the behavior will progress is still quite problematic.There are many men who are self-defeating because they are too nervous, causing the two to break up unhappy. The following is a story a friend told me.At that time, the woman had already arrived in her room, but the light was too harsh, and the two were still sitting opposite each other across the table.The man is always worried about what to do next.As a result, time passed unknowingly, and the woman finally said "the last tram is gone, I should go back", so he became flustered. Not tactful, the last words on the lips turned out to be "Really, then I will take you down".The result is naturally unhappy. My friend asked me, "What should I do to make my wish come true?" I replied: You can say something like "The night is so beautiful", and then stand in front of the window together.After I said this, my friend said with a regretful face: "There is such a trick!" But this method cannot be used to solve all problems.It is a man's responsibility to bring a woman into the best condition, and if he doesn't handle it well, he may lose a rare woman.In order to prevent this from happening, men are required to have the awareness to create an atmosphere.And this is the cause of trouble for men.The sensory awareness of this occasion refers to the setting of the light and shade of the room, the choice of music, and the arrangement of the speech content, etc., and on this premise, seize the opportunity to embrace the woman in a timely manner. Among the men who are good at contacting women, there are also many people who are too cautious when they first contact women, but they are self-defeating.What's more, what about men who are inexperienced with women?It is not easy for them to pass through the various stages smoothly. Of course, when men have sex with women for the first time, they perform countless simulation experiments in their heads beforehand.First where to meet, where to eat, and then how to implement the next step, so repeatedly revising the plan; and constantly imagining whether it will be successful, the result will be more and more nervous and restless. That's why the "Dating Guide" section of a magazine for young men is so popular.In order to increase the success rate as much as possible, many men are very eager to collect intelligence in this regard. However, no matter what kind of psychological preparation you have, and no matter what kind of simulation exercises you do, the result may not be as expected.Because even if the woman is interested, once the opportunity is missed, it will not be easy to succeed.In this case, if the woman fails to satisfy herself, how will the man treat it?Sadly, almost all men don't pursue it again, but give it up.Of course, there may also be men with persistent beliefs who refuse to give up and try to get each other, waiting for an opportunity to make a comeback.However, more often than not, men have been exhausted by their spiritual efforts, and their self-esteem has been hit by rejection, and they would rather give up in order not to be hurt more.The reason for saying this is also that male sexual behavior is directly dominated by the brain.The fear of being rejected again creates a fear of being rejected, which can even lead to impotence in special cases.Therefore, it takes a lot of courage for a man to pursue a woman who once rejected him again. The formation of tragedies between men and women is often due to missed opportunities. Even if women have the intention to accept each other, there will be situations such as "not now", "hope for a while" and so on.If women do not make these situations clear, men will not understand, but will only be convinced that they have been rejected once, and they will never recover. Therefore, if the woman also has the willingness to get along with this man, then, even if she was not fully mentally prepared at the time, she should try her best to make it clear to avoid misunderstanding.This is also for the sake of both parties.Especially women, there are also cases where menstruation cannot accept men.At this time, if the other party is a man who has had sexual relations before, it is still easy to say.For men who have never had sexual relations, even if they say frankly: "Today is my menstrual period." Men may think that it is just an excuse for rejection.There are also such situations: the two parties had no malicious intentions at first, but lost their fate just because they didn't understand the other party's original intention.Blindly believe that the other party is insincere and give up the relationship, or each is too worried about failure in order not to hurt the self-esteem, and misses the opportunity before understanding the other party's original intention. In short, as long as you show yourself a little, everything will come true.Regrettably, some men and women who had a good impression of each other failed to form a good relationship in the end because they fell short, which is a pity. Therefore, if the woman has the sincerity to accept the man, she should send a message accordingly, but if the woman cannot take the initiative and does not create favorable conditions for the other party to act, perhaps the relationship between the two will not progress in the end.Because especially in modern times, there are more pampered men who are too naive and not good at dealing with women. These men expect women to take the initiative. As mentioned earlier about the lightness and darkness of the room.In that case, women can take the initiative to send out hints: "It's a bit dazzling..." When a man is at a loss because of nervousness, women can sit beside him calmly and say to him, "Let me see your palmistry." Touch the man's hand.Through this kind of help, the psychological burden on men can be quickly reduced. Especially recently, there seems to be an increasing number of men who are not good at communicating. If the woman does not take the initiative to help, these men may be at a loss.Regrettably, this trend is sometimes exacerbated.They cannot be in contact with women of the same age, and may even develop "Lolita-style" sexual desires (that is, abnormal sexual desires only for young girls).In this sense, perhaps men have lost their true masculinity.