Chapter 2 Chapter 1 Infancy

Whether male or female, it is extremely difficult to grow into a famous person.Here, by "sound people" we mean men and women who are healthy and mature, both physically and mentally. Before becoming an adult, people, without exception, have to overcome all kinds of obstacles and barriers.For example, women, they first have to experience menarche, and after overcoming the shock caused by it, they begin to have sexual relations with men for the first time, and soon she becomes pregnant and gives birth... After going through the above process, she is considered mature. The hardships of this journey are self-evident to women, and even men understand it to some extent.It is a complex, difficult and long road.

However, the same is true for men.In order to become mature men, they have to walk a tortuous road.To this end, they have to experience all kinds of frustration, anxiety and frustration. But the author feels that women seem to be surprisingly lacking in understanding these situations.They simply assume: "Men are simple and easy guys!" As a result, they tend to inadvertently hurt men, or keep having silly misunderstandings with them. Generally speaking, women's bodies are generally considered to be sophisticated and complex, but men's bodies are not far behind, and in some cases, the latter even contains a more complex and naive side than the former.

How do men mature while interacting and fighting with their troubled bodies?Regarding this point, let us start from early childhood according to the trajectory of the times. First of all, boys experience "sex" or "sexiness" early on from the age of 4 to 5.In this way, many people must be shocked.However, men's sexual awakening occurs much earlier than women think. It seems that some mothers think that the "little sparrow" of their children is very cute, so they fiddle with their fingers or kiss them with their faces. However, at this time, boys can already perceive their mothers or other women. The penis holds an almost obsessive love for it.

This feeling will become a sweet memory and take root in the deepest part of their consciousness, so that they secretly wait for the moment when it will be recalled.The resulting penis-like conceit is gratified by deliberately exposing the penis in front of the girl, or showing the mother a show of a small tit that is swollen from wanting to urinate.A man's penis is protruding from the moment he is born, so it is impossible not to be aware of it. From here, we take another step forward and enter the primary school age, during which boys have been able to clearly and unmistakably realize the existence of women as the opposite sex.In the bath, they become interested in their mother's casually naked body, gazing at her breasts or buttocks.As soon as boys go to kindergarten, they become interested in girls of the same age; slightly precocious children even have the desire to spy on women's secrets, and they start to pay attention to the affairs of the opposite sex.Boys who sometimes pull girls' hair and bully them are nothing more than inappropriate manifestations of this strong desire.

Of course, at this stage, it is only a physical impulse, which has not yet been sublimated into a spiritual thing.However, in the lower grades of elementary school, boys have feelings of longing or attachment to women.Some precocious children begin to be ashamed to bathe with their mothers, and the concern for the opposite sex adds to the spiritual affection, which will be expressed in the form of envying the older sister of the neighbor's family, or becoming a fanatical admirer of big-name stars. . Furthermore, in the upper grades of elementary school, boys' attention to the opposite sex becomes bolder.They began to stand alone in the field of sex, and began to be interested in all kinds of things related to sex.

By the first and second grades of junior high school, sex has become an indispensable theme in the survival process of boys.From this point on, boys usher in turbulent times, and they will have various entanglements with the sexual desire that sprouts within them. One day during this period, the boy will suddenly feel that the sexual desire hidden in his body is stirring up in an indescribable manner. I have also experienced a strange, inexplicable pain between my thighs that I have never experienced before.Once, when I was sitting and looking through the dictionary, when the word "sexual organ" came into view, there was a stream of heat between my thighs as if I had been flicked.I collected myself and found that my penis was erect.At that moment, I felt that I seemed to have done something wrong, so I hurriedly used my hands to comfort it, but when my hand touched it, it caused another burst of almost numb pleasure.I still have that panicky memory in my mind.

At that time, I thought: "Don't touch it!" I squeezed the straight thing with my legs, but this caused the pleasure again, and it was more violent than before.At this point, I seem to have an untamable horse inside me, and I don't know what to do.When I regained my strength, I found that the penis had already been rubbed in the palm of my hand. That's it, men's masturbation behavior is not so much natural as it is a matter of course. This first experience was indeed thrilling, so powerful, violent, and alive, that I felt no more exhilarating pleasure in a man's life.

This once experienced the pleasure generated by masturbation, and I couldn't stop it later.Men in this period sometimes even when they are studying hard, their penis will suddenly erect, followed by a feeling like a burning flame. How can they study in this situation? In short, the most sensitive genitals are obviously protruding from the outside and can be touched at will, so masturbation is also natural.However, men's confusion in these aspects may not be understood by women who hide their genitals deep in their bodies. As long as you masturbate, you will ejaculate naturally.After ejaculation, you will feel tired and have no energy for a while.But due to my young age, I will get an erection again soon.It can be said that the boys do this kind of thing repeatedly every day.

Of course the boys also feel guilty about their masturbation.Sometimes I feel that my head is empty all of a sudden, and I no longer have the mind to study, but in fact it is really impossible to study for a long time.And they feel that they have committed a crime that is regrettable, and at the same time they feel as if they have betrayed their parents and cannot forgive them.Also, they will worry: Will touching that place every day pollute it and cause some disease?Or, will it deform? ...and so on. They harbor the various insecurities mentioned above, but at the same time they feel rather proud that, through the habit of masturbation, they have finally become men.

That's it, masturbation needs to bear all kinds of mental pressure.Even so, it is still unstoppable.And once you taste the taste of masturbation, then no matter what you encounter in the future will become an incentive to stimulate sexual desire. For example, when you see the word "woman" while reading, your body will immediately burst into heat; look up words in the dictionary that are related to women or sex, such as "uterus", "pubic area", and "vulva". , the blood will rush straight to the head, and the penis will stand on end. Of course, the shirts, shoes, or underwear that the mother or sisters have taken off and left somewhere inadvertently can also be an inciting factor.

If children take these things to hide, but then show their feet, they will be reprimanded as "nasty".However, I think that before scolding their children, women should put those "dangerous items" in a stricter place, otherwise they will be the ones who should be scolded. Likewise, mothers' inadvertent behavior can be thought-provoking for children.For example, holding your sons close to your chest or kissing them on the cheek because you are too fond of them can also create a stimulus for the children to turn on, and sometimes the penis will also stand up. Some mothers seem to be very troubled. They often complain, "My child was obedient when he was in elementary school, but he became taciturn when he entered middle school...", "Is it because the child has reached the stage of rebellion and is about to sever the mother-child relationship with me?" Already?" So very sad.In fact, when boys reach middle school, it is natural for them not to want to talk more with their mothers. Why do you say this way?Because the children already instinctively feel that there are dangerous female organs hidden in the mother's body, they don't want their mother to get close to them.If mother got too close, maybe I couldn't be sure that "that guy" wouldn't jump up.How shameful for my biological mother to see that kind of place!It can be seen that children also have the distress and timidity of children. What many mothers don't understand, however, is that the more their children hide, the more they cling to it, desperately trying to get back the way they used to feel.Especially recently, the number of only children has increased, and mothers work too hard on their children. In fact, there is nothing more annoying to children than this. Children are also very sensitive to their father's sex life during this period. I sleep alone, why do my father and mother sleep together?Are the grown-ups doing the kind of shameful things that they heard from hearsay?Because of this curiosity, children sometimes can't help but prick up their ears to listen to the sound at night, or tiptoe to the door of their parents to spy on the secrets of the room... Of course, once children see the privacy of their parents, they will be shocked accordingly, but they still can't restrain their curiosity to peek. In addition, if there is a very good female teacher in the school, the child will also feel disturbed by her femininity, and sometimes use her as a sex object when masturbating. At such times, women will often scold: "It's so despicable!" However, the reason why a woman becomes a man's imaginary sexual object during masturbation is because the image of the woman has been engraved in his mind and often makes him intoxicated.In other words, she became his ideal Virgin Mary.Therefore, women don't have to worry about it. In short, a female teacher is different from her classmates or other women around her, and she is unattainable.Because of this, she will be great in the boy's mind.When boys can't express this love and respect well, they do stupid things that give the teacher a headache. This kind of teasing of the teacher is not all malicious, because they want to show themselves to the teacher and prove their existence, so they have to take inappropriate methods as a last resort.As a replica of love, the teenager often wants to make the teacher cry and make her feel at a loss.Once this trick is successful, the children will have the idea of ​​going up to help her. To be honest, teenagers can't handle such complicated emotional issues well. From this time on, the boys began to exchange "information" with their friends. First, because they are attracted by sexual intercourse, female genitalia, etc., they will collect all kinds of sexual objects. Of course they generally know that sexual intercourse is to insert their penis into "that place" of a woman, so what does "that place" look like?So they became very interested in "that place". So I get pornographic books or nude photos of women to circulate among my partners, and start hiding books with sexual information, pornographic videos, etc. in drawers.I remember, at this age, I also dabbled in all kinds of books about sex. In this way, during this period, boys retain a certain sense of mystery about their mothers.First of all, due to multiple ejaculation or nocturnal emissions, my underwear has yellow stains.However, they do not want their mothers, who are women, to know that they are masturbating.At this time, if his mother inadvertently said something like "your panties are dirty like this", then he would feel as if his genitals had been peeped by her, and he would fall into an embarrassing situation, and he would secretly be so dissatisfied with his mother. Disciplinary words and deeds express abhorrence. Boys' drawers will be filled with so-called "confidential information" such as nude photos, nude albums, and pornographic videos.These things are unsightly and dirty things for mothers, but for children they are treasures to comfort themselves and enjoy pleasure. Therefore, such negotiations often occur between them and their mothers: "Why did you come into my room when I was going to school?" "Clean the room for you, because you never know how to sweep the floor." "Don't worry about it! Didn't I always tell you not to come into my room?" Because there are too many secrets, the boys are extremely dissatisfied with their mother entering their rooms.In this case, the adults should wait until the son tells them to "come and do the cleaning" before going in, and leave him alone for the rest of the time, even if the room is already filthy.And once you break in without authorization, your son will not forgive you. On the other hand, mothers probably don't enter their son's room just for hygiene, do they?Mothers must be thinking, "What's been on my son's mind lately?" It would be a lie to deny that he has any intention of hunting for something.Moreover, once you go in and search rashly, you will find all kinds of obscene items, and you will sigh in surprise. The mothers were either dizzy with anger: "I thought he was studying, but I didn't expect to see this kind of thing!" Or they were frightened and fainted from grief. However, looking at that kind of thing is an indispensable part of the normal development of boys. If a mother denounces this behavior as vulgar, it means that there is something wrong with her own thinking, or that she still lacks understanding of the child. Fortunately my mother didn't interfere with my personal affairs very much, so I didn't go through so much trouble.Of course, I also take good care of my own things and never let my mother find them.Drawers are no safe place to be, so I just tuck them either between the hardcover books on the shelf, or hide them behind a plaque...   However, the most worrying thing is: what should I do if my mother finds out that I am masturbating?Pretend to be studying, but in fact the hand is under the table and caressing that place.In this way, he was vigilant about his mother's movements while masturbating.However, if the mother sneaked in suddenly, it would be a big problem.I hurriedly covered it with books and the like, but still couldn't hide the strange atmosphere.If you are asked "what are you doing?" and finally added "you see your face is on fire", then you will feel even more ashamed. After repeating this kind of thing two or three times, the children will finally lock their rooms, and they will say unceremoniously to their mothers: "Don't come in when I finally calm down to study", or "If I want something to drink, I can get it myself, and you don't have to worry about it." However, there are also many mothers who say that they feel sorry for their sons who are studying for the exam, so they "take care" of their sons too much. In fact, they have ulterior motives.In this case, the son will be more anxious. If a mother has the misfortune to witness her son watching a pornographic video, or masturbating...then they will be taken aback, will automatically blurt out "that's a bit of a scum", and maybe immediately order their husbands: "Go and discipline your son well!" However, as a man's husband, 100% would not say anything about his son.Even if he said it, he just muttered vaguely: "Be careful." Why?Because the husband must have had the same "criminal record" from adolescence to adolescence. As long as the various behaviors about sex are at home, parents must never know about them. In other words, this is a shameful thing.Once at school, however, it became something to be proud of and something to boast about. In male groups such as schools, the more you know about sex, the more respected you are, and you can play the role of "leader".On the contrary, if someone said to you: "Boy, you don't understand anything?" Then, that would be a great insult to you.Boys who mature late have always been bullied as fools at will. Boys who can complacently say, "Woman's place is like this" will be highly regarded by their peers.And then in high school, the number of boys who actually had sex with women increased correspondingly.This kind of boy is not only looked at highly by others, they are even regarded as objects of respect and admiration. On the contrary, boys who know nothing about sex, lack courage and can't stand on stage will be left out in the cold.All kinds of anxiety often pass through their minds: Will they not be regarded as opponents by women because they are too childish?Are your genitals too small?In this way, they will easily lose their self-confidence as a man. In general, in boys' schools, academic performance is not the main thing, and boys who are mischievous or advanced in sex are more respected by their peers.Therefore, delinquent teenagers are arrogant despite their poor academic performance, and high-achieving students have to give them three points. These aspects are quite different from the situation in girls' schools.In girls' schools, girls with precocious puberty are often viewed as "key targets" and monitored. Mothers often reprimand their sons: "Why do you associate with that kind of bad person?" However, this is entirely a difference in perception. People who are considered "bad people" to mothers are mostly "great people" to sons.Maybe women are puzzled by this, but for men, being stronger, fiercer, and more daring is also a condition for subduing others. This kind of serial awareness is only applicable to men, and it has been deeply rooted in men and will remain unchanged throughout life.Therefore, a man who is nervous about women and can't take it or let it go will always drag a kind of timid complex to go on.Although it is said that "men's career comes first", if they think about women's affairs all the time, work hard for them, and seek promotion for them, then they will eventually be dismissed by women. In this way, we understand that human beings are, at best, animals.If human beings are really rational or intellectual, then the tactics they adopt when dealing with the relationship with the opposite sex should not have anything to do with serial consciousness.In the animal world, the Beastmaster has absolute power, and at the same time it is also at an advantage in terms of sex.For example, in a group of monkeys, the monkey king obeys several female monkeys and dominates the crowd.Although human society is said to be rational and educated, I think that some principles similar to animal society are hidden in its deep structure for a long time. Nevertheless, while men are fighting hand-to-hand with the savage and violent sexual impulses, girls of the same age are pinning their dreams on the love stories depicted in shoujo manga.Men and women perceive sex so differently. In their teens, most girls have extremely romantic fantasies about love, and this period can be described as the season of dreams for girls.However, in contrast, boys in this period have not yet raised their understanding of love to the spiritual level.If they show their innocence, it is because they lack expressiveness that they appear immature and clumsy.But their actual situation is more realistic-that is, they often think hard about problems such as "how to tame the fierce horse between the thighs", but they can't figure it out. Therefore, in Boys and Girls' Generation, by comparison, girls are far more romantic than boys. Let's look at this situation in detail.Suppose now a boy finds a girl among his classmates that he can fall in love with, and suppose he is lucky enough to start dating the girl, then on this occasion, the boy must hope that he can hug the girl Make out with it.More specifically, he wished to kiss her, strip her naked, and, if possible, have sex with her. Of course, in this kind of situation, the boy also has a lot of uneasiness. "What should I do if I am rejected by her?" "What's worse, if you are disgusted by her, it will be over." "Also, can you let her enjoy the pleasure?" They will be timid and distressed. With regard to sex, boys feel uneasy because they cannot restrain themselves; at the same time, they have a desire to try sex.Therefore, their reality is: placed in the cracks between these two conflicting emotions, brooding and moping. When it comes to ideals, perhaps the most ideal is to have a lover in high school when the sexual desire is the most vigorous, with whom you can enjoy sex to the fullest, and then concentrate on studying. It may be healthier to do so.It's natural, at least in terms of sexuality.In fact, this is the approach taken in the animal world. However, only in human society, especially in a place like Japan where reviewing and preparing for exams is fierce, the cruel reality faced by boys who are in the period of peak sexual desire is that they have to study hard at their desks day after day.In this state, once they have tasted the "forbidden fruit" of love, they will never get tired of it, and maybe their academic performance will not be the same. However, if you blindly ask children to "don't get involved in sex" and "don't masturbate", this is not allowed and that is not allowed, so how can children soothe their inner restlessness?As we have written many times before, teenage boys are often accompanied by irrepressible sexual urges. While recognizing this, what should we do in order to balance learning?Perhaps it can be concluded that the best course of action for boys who are studying for exams is to be lenient about their masturbation behavior, even if they know that they are masturbating, adults should pretend not to know.As long as you are a man, you will naturally have a sexual drive. Only this is indelible, and it is also essential for reproduction.Therefore, it must not be denied.In short, the best education method is to allow them to masturbate, but also to urge them to study hard, so as to cultivate strong and masculine men. Nevertheless, if one looks only at learning, then teenage boys and girls can be considered to be in a more favorable position by comparison. Today's intense, relentless revision method is quite a cruel test for boys.It is undoubtedly a good thing if you can enter the sports department or somewhere to practice hard for a while and exercise your muscles and bones.But when boys are stuck in classrooms at school and forced to study in their rooms at home, sitting all day, boys have a hard time coping with the agitation in their bodies.Since boys have to learn in this state, girls who don't have to worry about such sexual desires at the same time take it for granted that they do better academically. In view of this, it can be said that whether a boy can successfully pass the review and take the exam is a key issue: how to restrain his sexual desire. Except for very few people with genius minds, there are only two kinds of people who can win the battle in reviewing and preparing for the exam: one is people with strong will and can restrain their sexual desire; the other is people with weak sexual desire.In other words, only boys who have been accustomed to controlling their passions since childhood and have developed abstinence can pass the exam. I have heard people say that a certain woman married a high-achieving student who graduated from a prestigious university, and soon discovered that he was an impotence patient.Thinking about it carefully, it is not surprising that this situation occurs.why?If a man completely suppresses his sexual desire and just concentrates on studying, his desire will gradually shrink, so that he can only learn but shows childishness about sex, and finally he is likely to become a "Fuyuhiko type" (only A boy who studies but has no common sense about sex——translator's note) man. The fundamental difference between men and women is that even if men don't have sex with women, they have generally felt "pleasure" since the first and second grades of middle school. The pleasure obtained by masturbating at this age is not inferior to the pleasure obtained when having sex with women at the age of thirty or forty.To put it more extreme, the pleasure of rubbing your pussy with your fingers in front of a boring pornographic pictorial is much greater than the pleasure you get from having sex with a woman later. In contrast to the sexuality of women, which is developed through unhurried intercourse with men they like, the sexuality of men is self-reliant with a strong urge from adolescence.How to get along with it is a realistic problem. It seems that it can be said that the place where the above-mentioned problems are hidden is already the place of "sex" that is difficult to grasp.