Chapter 25 4. "When we talk about death as a part of life, it will become greater and more lovely than 'life'."

The third meeting has been two weeks since we last met. This time, Mrs. Lu brought Mr. Ye to participate. "I heard you gave her a homework assignment?" "yes." I smiled at Mr. Ye, because he was there, and the atmosphere of the consultation became much more relaxed. "I ask your mother to bring to me someone who can make her feel happy and empowered. "She called me at first and said she couldn't find this person." Mr. Ye turned back and asked his mother, "Really?" "Yes, I suddenly found that there is no such person around me."

Mrs. Lu felt a little shy in front of her son. "Then, two days later, she called me again and said she found it, and that person was you." "I'm also a little surprised." It can be seen that Mr. Ye is very happy to accompany his mother, and even a little flattered. "How did you think of him?" I continued to ask, there must be a story in it. "I'm not afraid of making fun of you if you say it." Mrs. Lu became more and more embarrassed. "A few days ago, Xiaoye took me to his house for the weekend. I had been locked up at home and ate the Buddha. It had been a long time since I had dinner with my son and wife. On that day, my wife specially cooked a lot of dishes that I liked. The whole family enjoyed themselves together, and it felt like they were back in the past.”

"how long ago?" I try to build a bridge between past and present for her. "Before my husband passed away, we often went to Xiaoye's house for weekends. Xiaoye was very good at arranging programs and always made us both very happy." My eyes naturally turned to Mr. Ye, he bowed his head and smiled, looking a little embarrassed. Speaking of the days when his father was alive, his heart would still be touched, his eyes turned red, and after a while, he met my gaze calmly, as if he would not mind any form of gaffe in front of me, that kind of The sense of trust makes me feel very warm.

Mrs. Lu continued. "After dinner, I asked me to wash the dishes, but Xiaoye refused, saying that there is a rule in their family, the daughter-in-law cooks and the husband does the dishes." "It's been more than ten years. Besides, I wash cleaner than her." Mr. Ye felt that his proud expression was childish and quite cute. "Why are you like your father, always saying that women don't wash dishes clean?" "Did Dad say that to you too?" Mrs. Lu gave her son an annoyed look, and the answer was self-evident. I watched the mother and son bickering with great interest, and a very complicated emotion was brewing in my heart, sweet and sour, and the sun was shining.

"Then, Xiaoye started to wash the dishes, and I was sorting out the leftovers in the kitchen. When I inadvertently turned around and saw his back standing in front of the sink, that feeling came to me spontaneously." Mr. Ye looked at his mother silently, as if he already knew what she would say next. I looked at Mrs. Lu again. Although she was still shrouded in a layer of sadness, the self-healing power that had been awakened inside was about to come out, silently soothing her heart that was not strong enough. That kind of peace was completely from the inside out. , revealed naturally.

"It was at that moment that I really felt for the first time that he was alive." Both Mr. Ye and I understand the deep meaning of Mrs. Lu's words. The back of the son resembled his father, and at that moment, it gave Mrs. Lu great spiritual comfort.Excessive sadness made her unable to pay attention to anyone around her. It wasn't until that moment that she suddenly realized that her husband's life was actually continuing in Mr. Ye's body with power. As long as she saw him, she would I feel very comforted. "Feeling that makes all the difference." "He gave me that new power, so I brought him."

The mother and son looked at each other and smiled, and I saw bright tears flickering on Mr. Ye's clear pupils. "Since your father passed away, it's the first time she came to your house for dinner." "Yes." Mr. Ye nodded. "I guess, Mrs. Lu may have realized the 'price' of closing her grief." Mrs. Lu smiled slightly at me, the sadness in her eyes subconsciously faded a little, and her spirit became clearer. "The price is very high. It's like suffering from amnesia. Except for those unlucky things that have happened, I almost forget all other people and things in my life."

"Diverting attention is a very effective way to relieve grief, but the term 'Keff' misleads your judgment on the accidental accident of your husband, strengthens your fear of 'death', and makes you feel overwhelmed gone." "It does feel like this. I found that when people are immersed in pain, it is best not to be alone. In any case, they must be accompanied by a companion." "Didn't expect you to be so vulnerable?" "I didn't expect that." "At times like this, what you need most is the support of your family. You are very lucky to have such a filial and considerate child by your side."

"Oh, it's fine if you don't say anything." Mr. Ye's tone suddenly changed. "At that time, I was with her all the time, and I wanted to take her to live with her at home, but she just didn't want to. She would rather shut up in the room all day and mutter, or go to worship this teacher or that teacher with her Buddhist friends. of." "Didn't I promise you to move there? Don't say any more." I smiled and gave Mr. Ye a wink, meaning, at least let the old man save some face. "But I'm afraid that your old problem will recur. When the time comes, I will be miserable."

"Well, to be honest, I'm a little worried too." The mother and son looked at me in unison. "How to face death healthily is one of the most important lessons in life." As I spoke, I drew out a death card and placed it in front of them. "Do you believe that there is another world after death?" The first thing I want to challenge is their beliefs. "I believe." Mrs. Lu replied firmly. "It's hard to say. Although there are many so-called mysterious events, it can be speculated that there may be another world after death. However, that is just a hypothesis. I still have reservations about things that cannot be verified by science."

"Then what do you think about death?" Mr. Ye's expression was extremely embarrassed, and he was caught off guard by my straightforward question. "I think it's a very natural thing. There is life and there is death. That is an inevitable existence." "When you are alone, do you feel afraid when you think of death?" "I didn't think about it before. Since my father passed away, I sometimes think about it and feel scared in my heart." Mr. Ye subconsciously held his mother's hand. "Don't think about it, I'm fine." Mrs. Lu interrupted her son's words in time. At this moment, she became particularly strong. "You were really bad the other day, and I don't think you want to live at all." "Nonsense." "Really, you just want to be with Dad and completely ignore us. "You live in that mysterious self-fantasy country all day long, focusing on researching where people go after death, what they are doing, and whether there is any way to re-establish a bridge of communication with their dead relatives. This is really terrifying!" "It's nothing scary, it's because you don't believe in those things." Mrs. Lu thinks this kind of thinking is normal. Most people will have inexplicable curiosity about supernatural events, especially those who have personally experienced life and death. "I have always felt that a person's beliefs will definitely affect a person fundamentally, and even completely change his behavior. If you always think about meeting your father, then you will do it unconsciously. It really scares me." "Is there any basis for his statement?" Mrs. Lu turned around and asked me. Mr. Ye was very emotional, which made her a little at a loss. "From a psychological point of view, there is indeed a basis for 'all wishes come true'. Now that Mr. Ye has expressed his opinion, Mrs. Lu, do you really believe that there is another world after death? ?” I made a quick decision and brought the subject back. "Yes, I believe. Moreover, you said that I can keep my beliefs, but I look at it from a different angle now. I will continue to study these knowledge, but I won't be as obsessed as before. gone." "No, you can't touch those things anymore, it won't do you any good!" Mr. Ye was very anxious. There was an obvious conflict between the mother and son on this issue. I thought, I have to stand up and say something fair. "As for what happens after death, in fact, we are all ignorant. On this point, everyone is equal. Therefore, we'd better be open and tolerant to different levels and different forms of 'death exploration'." "Could it be that it should be discussed at the dinner table as a daily topic?" Mr. Ye couldn't understand. "Why not?" I asked him firmly, and he was dumbfounded. "This... how to discuss this?" "I have a lot to talk about with you." Mrs. Lu seemed to understand what I was talking about. "Do you know that the human soul has weight? Do you know how many scientists in the world study where people go after death? I know more about this knowledge than you do." "Those are all rumors and nonsense, and no one can prove that it is true." "Most truths in this world cannot be proven by current science. Things that cannot be proved by science do not mean they do not exist. You don't need to accept your mother's point of view, but you can listen patiently to understand her deeply. A true view of death." "That's right, that's what I mean. The point is whether you are willing to listen to what I say in your heart. Don't worry about whether these words are reasonable to you, otherwise, I will relapse sooner or later!" Mrs. Lu stared at her son very seriously, her childish expression was exactly the same as that of Mr. Ye. "It's actually very difficult to really think about death as part of life. As you said, you didn't think about it before, but the sudden death of your father made you think about death, which is actually We have existed from the moment we are born, this is the truth, the main reason we fear death is that we have been avoiding the fact that 'life and death' exist at the same time. "As we grow older, we will be confronted more and more with various kinds of death, and rather than start learning all over again at that time, it is better to start learning about it now and discovering what it is. We see many people Keen to observe all kinds of mysterious events related to death, some people will find them boring, and even think that it is a perverted thing for a person to study "death" well. I think this is by no means a negative Avoiding talking about death is the expression of passive resistance. On the contrary, the more you understand the meaning of death when you are alive, the more you know how to cherish your own life, and the more you understand how important it is to live in the present. "For another example, this TAROT death card, if you take a closer look, you will find that it is not as scary as you imagined." I picked up the cards from the table again. "The death knight on the death card is waving a banner of victory in his hand. He is bravely marching towards the end of his life. Under the horse's hooves, there are countless flowers full of vitality." "What the TAROT death card welcomes is not an eternal end, but a new and eternal beginning that you and I have not yet known. Perhaps, this is the most beautiful face of death, but we, because of the fear in our hearts, Until the end of my life, I failed to open my eyes to see its beauty clearly. I think this is the saddest end of the soul." Mr. Ye listened silently, nodding his head slightly, as if he had an epiphany. "You mean, we can actually discuss death with our loved ones." His tone was no longer as decisive as before. "When we talk about death as a part of life, it will gradually become greater and more lovely than 'life'." Mrs. Lu's eyes are filled with a sensual light that I have never seen before. The dazzling halo tightly surrounds her old body, and is pushing her to move towards a new strength. "Since we 'live together' because of love, we can also hold each other's hands and prepare for 'dying together' together. That is the true meaning of life."