Chapter 6 5. They live like wild plants

Some Chinese women "exported" their own "New Westernization Movement", which began in the mid-1980s and did not stop until 1993.They are generally under 35 years old, and the youngest are 16 or 17 years old.Because of young age, it is not uncommon to find ways to change the age to reach the legal immigration age; because of old age, it is not uncommon to try to change the age in order to get closer to the age that is easier to "export".In those years, the "new wave of immigrants" fueled by Chinese women impacted many countries in Asia, Europe, and Australia.Even though the number of Chinese immigrants in those countries has increased sharply, families in many cities in the country have been divorced, and their children and parents have been disabled.Those with knowledge go for it based on their academic qualifications, those with talent go for it based on their ability, and those with skills go for it based on their skills; The two items of appearance and youth are not enough capital, so go ahead with blind courage.

The term "foreign queue jumping" was born to summarize this phenomenon. The combination of the word "foreign" and "queue jumping" contains all the bitterness, hotness, sourness and sweetness.Of course, there are quite a few of them who really tasted the sweetness of love, the sweetness of a successful career, the sweetness of a happy family, and the sweetness of life happiness in a foreign country.These sweets, of course, should not be separated by national borders and nationalities.If you can't get it in one country, it is indeed a matter of course to go to other countries to find it.European countries are close to each other, European men have been like this for a long time, and later European women have also begun to be like this.Its motivation and purpose are very consistent with those of Chinese women.Chinese women seem to try to use their actions to prove that the world is not too big, and countries are very close.

After 1993, China's economy took off rapidly, making the world "surprised" and admiring.But in the "take-off", today it seems that the composition of the bubble is extremely obvious. But the economic bubble phenomenon, in the short term, provides more opportunities for the wise to develop.Many people actually only need to seize one opportunity to change their destiny forever, whether that opportunity is in a bubble or not.The reason why the bubble economy game is harmful to a country, even dangerous, is for the long-term interests of the majority of people.When the bubble bursts, most people not only get their hands wet, but most likely even lose the benefits they once had.But the bubbles can cover up the various rules of the "game", making them seem like nothing, appearing and disappearing from time to time, so the opportunities without rules are dazzling with the bubbles up and down, and seem to be everywhere.It's easier to catch it when it's timed by a smart person than when the rules of the "game" are extremely clear.

As a result, the Chinese men and women who "jumped the queue" turned around and looked back at the piles of bubbles in the motherland when they couldn't grasp the rules of the "game" in foreign countries.They and they have learned and accumulated experiences in foreign countries that cannot be learned or accumulated in China.All kinds of experiences are useful and valuable to them.It is those kinds of experiences that tell them that there are so many opportunities in China that it is worth coming back to show their talents.Therefore, those who had saved some foreign exchange took their experience, and those who did not save foreign exchange took half a foreign identity, and hurriedly boarded the plane back to China.

In the 1990s, such women who had "foreign queue jumping" had not only excellent performances and performances in China's big cities, but also quite distinctive performances and performances.The latter kind of performance and performance is often accompanied by deceit and deceit, and is often itself bubbly. After 1993, the number of female principal offenders or female accomplices in economic crimes in China has gradually increased.Taking Beijing as an example, my friends in the judiciary told me that about 1/3 of the economic crimes of that year were played by women with the experience of "foreign queue jumping".

Nevertheless, another indisputable fact is that many "foreign queue jumping" women, with their special female identities, have created beautiful landscapes of contemporary urban women in major cities. The names of the first and second generation "Chinese employees" of foreign companies have been listed on the "roster". They were among the first batch of "white-collar beauties". Among them, there have been first-generation and second-generation female managers, female presidents, female foreign business agents, female brokers, and female planners. They have played an indispensable role in the development of today's clothing, beauty, fitness, health care and even many cultural industries.On the one hand, they are women who lead the consumption trend in these industries, and on the other hand, they may be propagandists and advertisers at the same time.

Competing with their ability, economy and demeanor are those women who have never "jumped the queue" before.The latter have a relatively long period of anticipation and preparation for opportunities, because they are in their own environment, and once opportunities come, they will naturally take action more timely.Therefore, compared with the two, the career of the latter is often its own.Above oneself, there is no longer a boss.The career of the former is often not their own.Although superior, there is a boss behind it.Although what is earned is foreign exchange, it is only a commission after all.

These two types of Chinese women made many Chinese men exclaim that "the yin is prosperous and the yang is weak", and that there are "strong women" everywhere.While some men bemoan their "weakness", they can't help but admire the abilities and magical powers of some women. In fact, the world is still a patriarchal world, especially in China.Some women, despite their hands and eyes, great abilities, and extraordinary magical powers, their career success is often inseparable from the care and attention of some men with stronger power backgrounds, greater abilities, and more extraordinary magical powers.

We say that after 1993 China's economy showed obvious bubble elements, but it does not mean to deny all the achievements of China's economic development after 1993.Bubbles are not all ingredients, and performance cannot be underestimated. Statistics show that since 1993, foreign investment has risen sharply, the number of foreign companies and joint ventures has soared, township enterprises have sprung up, and new industries continue to emerge... All of these are Chinese women's performances and performances that prove their personal abilities and talents Unprecedented driving conditions are provided.

As a general rule, men have to admit that women are the first teachers who shape what a man becomes. So, who are the mentors who influence who women become? is the times. Era is the last mentor responsible for "graduating" who affects who women become. Under the teachings of the times, if the influence and requirements of male culture on women in the past conflict with the times, then most women will lean towards the times and cooperate with the times to subvert the imposition of male culture on women's humanity. Middle-aged and elderly women in the 1990s looked at the new generation of women who were much younger than themselves, envious, admiring, alienated, and displeased.

However, the new generation is at home.Their predecessors, the women, first became their competitors.The former is often at a disadvantage in the competition due to his incompatibility with the times, and the latter, who has won a big victory, then demonstrates to the men with a challenging attitude. All fashionable things are first applauded by the new generation of women. They can be seen enjoying themselves in any place of nightlife. All new industries are pleasantly surprised by their enthusiasm and eagerness to join. "Is it possible to get rich by being frugal? It depends on opportunities!" - this is their concept of getting rich.Undoubtedly true.But the times never gave women any opportunities, so most of the women in their predecessors were frugal.Their concept of getting rich clearly contains a mockery of the women of previous generations. On many occasions, you will find some young women and men of various ages who can often be their fathers, secretly and seriously discussing big plans, planning an investment amounting to tens of millions or even tens of millions. billion projects.If you thought it was nothing more than whimsy, then you are very wrong.There are too many examples that later became a reality. Xu Zhimo once wrote an article titled "Schopenhauer and Schopenhauer's Theory of Women". Schopenhauer and Nietzsche are two philosophers who despise women very much. Nietzsche famously said, "If you're going to have sex with a woman, you'd better take a whip." Because he despised women so much, he added this sentence: "I cannot conceive a man who is a philosopher and has a wife at the same time." Schopenhauer believes that there are tigers in the mountains, snakes in the grass, and women in the world. Apart from this natural phenomenon, there is no need to discuss women. Xu Zhimo's article was written to criticize Schopenhauer.He said in the article: "But in the past hundred years, it has changed greatly. Not only has our fundamental concept of women changed completely in terms of academic theory, not only has women's status in society changed, not only has her personality changed in all human beings. The event has achieved the same understanding as men, and the women have actually given us amazing results, both academically and professionally..." When we reread Xu Zhimo's article today, on the one hand, we will naturally agree with his fairness to women, but on the other hand, we will inevitably feel that he is too enthusiastic and exaggerated.Because, in his era, most Chinese women were not "modern" to the extent he praised.The women he praised were just a certain category of intellectual women who he often approached and belonged to a very small number in China at that time. However, if the passage in his article is used as an evaluation of Chinese women in the 1990s instead of Chinese women in the 1930s, it is very objective and does not mean exaggeration at all. up. Lin Yutang once explained why he likes talking to women the most—"They can see through all contradictions, superficiality, and vanity. I trust their intuition and survival instinct—their so-called 'sixth sense'. Beneath the intellectual surface, they can grasp reality and get closer to life than men, and I respect that. They understand life, while men only understand theory." The reason why I quote this passage from Lin Yutang is because there are several affirmations of women in it, and it is quite accurate to comment on some women in the 1990s, especially the women of the new generation. First, intuition. The intuition of many young women in the 1990s, especially the intuition of the educated new generation of women, accepts the signals emitted by the central nervous area of ​​the era, which is a great intuition, which is often several times more sensitive than men.On the contrary, men often appear to be very lagging and dull.It enables them to be sure of success in economic activities, so that some men always ask them for advice.They trust their intuition, which often pays off. Second, the instinct of survival. Because their standards and requirements for the quality of life have increased, their instincts are full of strong desires.And desire drives them to maximize their energy, making them more restless than women of any previous era. Third, the ability to grasp reality. Women in the 1990s, especially the educated women of the new generation, were almost always thorough realists.The speed with which traditional ideas disappear from their minds is much faster than that of men.Since they see reality with their eyes, hearts, and hands, they are almost all teleologists.In the eyes of men, this may be too unlovable.They also understand this.But they have their own reasons - which of the men who have succeeded in many ways is not a complete purposeist?Why can't a woman have a purpose?Why shouldn't women be resourceful for that purpose?They have another way of making them seem like they're still lovable—leading men to enjoy themselves in a timely manner.On the surface, it is often the men who provide the conditions and opportunities for women to have fun, because they pay the bill.But in fact, judging from the final effect, it is the women who accompany the men.At this time, they try to show their innocence, innocence, and weakness, without any utilitarian thoughts in their hearts and extremely simple minds.They know that the average man likes them that way.They are good at temporarily hiding their purpose to please men at certain times. Fourth, approach life and understand life. Generally, their understanding of life is very different from a few years ago, and it can even be said to have made great progress.A few years ago, in the eyes of many of them, "sugar daddy" was the easiest shortcut to the ideal life.And to know how a woman is favored by powerful or rich men for a long time is to understand life.But later they realized that it was just the life of a woman like Concubine Yang.Compared with Wu Zetian, Concubine Yang Guifei is just a pitiful woman.They would rather ask for less favors and more benefits from men.Especially, when their relationship with men has no hope of becoming husband and wife, every tenderness they give to men requires men to repay them twice as much.They all hope to have a pure and personal career that is completely controlled by their own power. Of course, this career mainly refers to the economic aspect.Their desire for this kind of career is stronger than their desire for a good husband.Because the truth is obvious, it is not difficult for a woman standing on an economic basis completely under her control to recruit a good husband as long as her appearance is not too vulgar and her temperament is not too bad. Of course, whether such a woman is really close to life and understands life is debatable.And we want to point out that there were many women in the 1990s who held this view of life.After all, this is much more competitive than scrambling to sell one's own capacity before the 1990s. One of Lin Yutang’s words above is quite rigorous—“beneath the surface that they place more emphasis on emotion than reason.” Lin's words prove that he does not think that women always and uniformly emphasize emotions, and consistently and uniformly despise reason.He thinks this is the superficial impression they give to men, the traditional impression. And I want to say that women in the 1990s, especially the educated new generation of women in big cities, especially the young and beautiful among them, are actually very sensible women.Like all women of all times, they have emotional needs, but don't care much about loss.Longing for the comfort of love, but also quite good at pondering the loneliness without love.They have moments of loneliness, but they are never depressed; they cry, but mostly out of frustration and rarely out of guilt.They actually spend more time and energy socializing than falling in love.In their place, the two are often weighed in this way-communication produces friendship, and extensive friendship between men and women is more conducive to the success of one's career than exclusive love, so men are often confused about the relationship between him and her Whether it is love or friendship.On Valentine's Day, a man will give them a bouquet of roses in person, and they will get a sweet kiss from them.On their birthdays, if they are invited to a big restaurant to "cook" a meal, they will always look at the man with affection.And if a man gives her expensive jewelry under unexpected circumstances, they are likely to throw themselves into his arms and say, "Oh, my love!"—as in jewelry advertisements .And the more they become extremely dependent on means, pursuing goals, and not emphasizing emotions, the more they exaggerate the appearance of emphasizing emotions in some trivial and trivial details.All of their above behaviors can be said to be involuntary.Because the trustworthiness between people has been largely lost from Chinese life in the 1990s.Although there are more industries than ever before, the space for everyone to prove their value seems to be getting smaller and more congested.The competition in many aspects of society is so fierce, sometimes even so cold and ruthless, that women have to use the highest life skills to do what they want to do. Needless to say, the new generation of Chinese women in the 1990s, on the surface, seemed to have an unprecedentedly simple mind, but in fact they were unprecedentedly shrewd and scheming.The so-called "square inside and round outside" refers to the general Chinese women in the past, even if they were "square" on the outside, even if they appeared angular on the surface, they were often "round" inside, and most of the female nature was part of it.Therefore, in the past, the women who were the most unconvinced by men often eventually lost in the contest and competition with men and were surrendered by men.It is often some weakness in a woman's nature that men take advantage of to win.Of course, there are always exceptions, such as Wu Zetian, Empress Lu, Cixi, Sister Feng... just because they are too exceptions, women in the past did not dare to express their admiration secretly, so men in the past have repeatedly passed Literature and drama recount their insidiousness.Compared with Chinese women in previous eras, especially those who follow traditional behavioral norms, the new generation of women in the 1990s has a clear trend of anti-tradition, anti-ethics, and anti-lady-type norms.This means that they challenge the reality that men have always arranged the social order and the fate of women with the overall attitude of the new generation.This kind of challenge is at the initial stage, and it is presented by the aggregation of the instincts of countless individual desires for success; its individual "tactics" are also at the initial stage, simple and similar, nothing more than treating a man in the same way as a man. It's just to take advantage of the natural weakness of men when dealing with women.Many of them succeeded in something because of this, and many of them paid a certain price for their success.That price filled them with a sense of vicissitudes in their hearts at a young age, making them look vigorous, energetic, and lively on the surface, but in fact they were already exhausted and prematurely old psychologically. So they derived female "celibacy". After they are successful, frustrated, or injured, they withdraw from the social field, which means a shift or retreat in the "strategy" of life.If you are a successful person, you will hide in the city with your scars, and experience the masturbation of retiring after success.Women with no family power background, fighting the world with their bare hands and achieving some kind of success were not injured. In China in the 1990s, there were not many such things.If you are a frustrated person, you should sum up your lessons while healing your own wounds, so you don't have a feeling in your heart.Frustration itself is a scar, and it is mostly caused by men.This type of women is not only more "square" inside, but also no longer "round" outside.The shape that had been "round" became blurred, blurred, and the borderlines disappeared.If dizziness is the frame of the moon, then taking defense as offense is the frame of their psychology.In that frame, their minds are not all hopeless, but are in a high state of "preparation".If they make a comeback and have a certain strength, they are often vengeful towards men.Even if this is not the case, men are often dismissed and contemptuous.Of course, there are also people who have been trapped in longer-term self-pity and self-pity.There are even some people who do not retreat in a hurry, set higher goals for themselves with the attitude of a single "strong woman", and encourage themselves to realize their ambitions bigger and bigger every time.Trying to forget that you are a woman in this endless process is like becoming androgynous. There are almost no female "celibates" who do not say that being single is chic and beautiful. However, we know that once a woman matures into a woman, celibacy is definitely unnatural and not beautiful. The only way celibacy can be called a sensible choice is in a formally bad marriage. This kind of relativity determines that no matter for men or women, the starting point for celibacy is low. They also know this. Knowing but talking about the chicness and beauty of being single shows how insincere they are and how painful they are. Let us wish them all to have lovers and get married as soon as possible, and bid farewell to the "celibacy" that they are actually unwilling to abide by by nature. Some female college students since the 1990s first worship wealth, second worship power, third worship stars, fourth worship women's sexual charm, and fifth, have extreme self-worship... It varies from person to person, and also Many other entries could be listed.But the first four undoubtedly contain the most important content of their worship, but the order is different. Among them, liberal arts college students assigned to radio stations, TV stations, newspapers and magazines after graduation, changed the old faces of Chinese comprehensive culture before the 1990s according to their own preferences.The program censorship system of radio and TV stations is still quite strict, and their preferences are often blocked.But today it seems that they have occupied half of the country's newspapers and magazines according to their own preferences.If it is said that China's great culture is richer in content than ever before, its style is more gorgeous than ever, and its packaging is especially colorful, then they have a part to credit.If we say that Chinese culture after the 1990s has more sour, sweet, and delicate tastes, it is too sweet, too soft, too flattering, and too sexy, then they have painstakingly created it. the result of. When it comes to the sexiness of Chinese culture after the 1990s, there must be some people eager to refute.Its reference must be Western culture—indeed, we are far from naked to the extent that they can be seen everywhere. However, I think that the complete nudity of the female body is either beautiful, or bewitching, or charming, or evil, because it is thorough, the meaning of sex is open, at a glance, the imagination dies before the full display, facing its "sex" Instead, there is not much "sense". This is like a man can face a woman who wears less clothes more naturally, but it is really difficult to face a woman who wears very transparently more naturally.Women don't wear less clothes but wear them through. In my opinion, it is tantamount to radiating evil nature. Some female editors who run newspapers and magazines seem to be very proficient in the knowledge of "transparency".Even the manuscripts they wrote and edited, and the titles they drafted, often "revealed" the not-so-fragrant scent of female hormones. This kind of "transparent" knowledge is borrowed from newspapers and magazines to the stage.From the cover, from the text to the performance costume, it is not exposed, but it is very "transparent"; it is not naked, but it is clear at a glance that it is intended to be sexy. Lin Yutang once said something like this: "I have no doubt that art has given modern people a sense of sex. The first step is art, and the second step is the use of women's bodies by commerce. From every curve of the skin to the fluctuation of the skin, the last step is to paint the toenails. I have never seen every part of a woman's body so completely exploited by commercials. I don't really understand why American women use their bodies. So submissive. It's difficult to reconcile this kind of commercial exploitation of a woman's body with the idea of ​​respecting a woman." He also said: "So when people today want to be 'artistic', they only need to pick up a magazine and read the advertisements." In the 1990s, in China, women went out of their way to "artisticize" their bodies, actively serving commercial purposes.They are often more energetic, more expert, and even more professional than the men who work for them. The worship of wealth, of power, of stars, of the sexual charm of women, in the big culture of the 1990s, bursts of flashy and intoxicating colorful bubbles.There is still a tendency to overwhelm the basic and simple qualities of Chinese culture in one fell swoop.Beauties with famous cars, beauties in mansions, beauties in fine clothes, beauties with jewelry, beauties with delicacies, beauties with good wine, business plus sexiness, sexiness plus business, almost pervasively invade every audio-visual nerve in people's daily life. Corresponding to this phenomenon was the layoff of tens of millions of workers in the late 1990s. If we turn our attention to the women among them, the topic of women in the 1990s will suddenly become heavy. But even they, I think, exhibit a very different character of progress from previous ages. In 1958, a large number of women were mobilized out of their homes, which was the need for industrial development that year.One of the slogans back then was—"Women and sisters, we also have two hands, don't turn around the pot, and invest in fiery socialist proposals!" And only two years later, they were driven back home in batches.During those two years, some people were set up as advanced models, some were disabled due to work, and some did not actually earn much wages (many factories have always vowed to owe their wages)-but once they were announced to be disqualified as workers (The word "dismissal" was not used back then, thinking that it was a word used by capitalists when they kicked workers away), and almost everyone had nothing to say, and went home in a meek and silent manner.If the wages owed are replenished, I will be very lucky.If you don't give it, you will be wronged for a period of time, and that's fine.Among the disabled, very few receive pensions month after month.If they say that they are not regular workers and cannot enjoy that kind of treatment, they give up fighting. In the 1990s, the rights awareness of laid-off women workers was much higher.Generally, they always want to ask for a fair explanation at first.They began to understand that even with the country, it is possible to calculate who owes whom with three or five cats.Accounts are allowed to be written off, but the truth must be clarified.It is not clear that the director of the factory and the bigger officials may not have a restful life. Perhaps someone will object to my point that this just proves that their consciousness is too low, and that they should still be cute like women in the 1950s. But let me ask, if there is no improvement of their basic awareness of rights, how can the awareness of the country's responsibility be improved?How can the sense of responsibility of public servants be improved?At least, the improvement of citizens' awareness of rights will promote the strengthening of the responsibility awareness of the state and public servants. In an era of sound legal system, the country and its citizens should be completely equal before the law.The law not only protects the rights of the state, but also protects the rights of citizens.Either of the two violates the rights of the other, and the other has every reason to sue solemnly in the plaintiff's box. Of course, the laid-off women workers in the 1990s not only had a higher awareness of their rights, but also generally had a greater understanding of the country's plight.So not many of them are really entangled with their own factories and countries.Their grievances just prove that they are human beings, not unconscious means of production that can be used for a while.They complain because they have various consciousnesses.If they are angry, it must be mainly because the officials lack the empathy to put themselves in their shoes, stay out of the way and are full of bureaucracy, and have not done a good job of comforting their thoughts, meticulously, and at home.Even, I never did or didn't want to do it at all. Therefore, in my opinion, the consciousness of laid-off women workers in the 1990s was not too low, but rather high.Tall is very valuable, but also very cute.In particular, the spirit of many of them to find other jobs and work hard after being laid off is really worthy of the admiration and respect of the whole society.With their preciousness and loveliness, they ensure the stability of society. In the development of the times, many major sacrifices are often made.At that time, that sacrifice meant the minimum social security for tens of millions of people. The laid-off women workers in the 1990s were not only aware of the helplessness of this law, but also stubbornly fought against this cruel law with all their strength.For many of them, it was the last fight in life.For the sake of their families, their children, and their own old age, they have no choice but to fight.And they have almost reached the age when they could stop fighting and easily relieve many female responsibilities. They gave the topic of women in the 1990s an unusually dignified and tragic color. Compared with this dignified and tragic color, the topic of prostitution in the 1990s shows the great embarrassment of this era.This is the clinical feature of "China Syndrome". Of course, many countries have prostitutes.The existence of prostitutes does not seem to affect the prosperity of those countries. But many countries have agreed that the phenomenon of prostitution is the scar of society. China once did not. It began to exist in the early 1980s, and it increased in the 1990s. We don't need to discuss why there is, this discussion will not lead to a result.Even if a sociological authority draws a conclusion that is equal to the truth, the conclusion itself does not have much significance for the health of society. Rather, a brief analysis of the prostitution phenomenon in the 1990s, and the differences between the prostitution phenomenon in old China and the prostitution phenomenon in history, may have some value in the social scars. Lin Yutang once wrote a short essay "Prostitutes and Concubines". It can be seen from this short article that the Lin family is quite in favor of men taking concubines.He thought that if a married man divorced for the sake of another woman's beauty, it would be better to persuade her to be his concubine.His logic was that concubinage was always better than divorce.Divorce meant expelling the wife from the home, and taking a concubine was simply welcoming another woman into the home.According to the right of men to decide the fate of women, wives and concubines can live in peace according to seniority.He believed that since a woman wanted to rely on a married man for a long time, it was quite wise to compromise and become a concubine.He expressed ambiguously that he agrees with Gu Hongming's perfect idea of ​​"one teapot with four teacups". The prostitutes discussed in Lin's short essay belong to a very "advanced" category. "Most of them are good at a skill, such as poetry, painting, music, or eloquence."Of course, they should first be young, beautiful, and charming.Among the outstanding ones he listed are Dong Xiaowan, Su Xiaoxiao, Feng Xiaoqing, Chen Yuanyuan, Li Xiangjun, Xue Tao, Ma Xianglan, and Liu Rushi. I made up a modern one for him, it should be Xiao Fengxian, a chivalrous prostitute. Since the Lin family is a high-level literati, they are all well-known prostitutes and talented prostitutes who are capable of playing chess, poetry, painting, singing and singing. The men who are good prostitutes are Su Dongpo, Qin Shaoyou, Du Mu, Bai Juyi and other famous men.So his short essay really didn't seem to be talking about prostitutes, but more about "talented scholars and beautiful ladies". When talking about ordinary prostitutes in brothels, he also said in a very warm tone: "They are giving Chinese men a taste of romantic love." It seems that brothels are only places for men to practice love. At my age, of course I have never had any experience of visiting brothels.What I know about prostitutes comes purely from literature, such as Xiaofuzi in Lao She, "I" in "Crescent Moon", and Akipo in the Japanese movie "Wangxiang". Of course I know that in Chinese dynasties, prostitutes were divided into three, six, and nine classes.The lowest class is the "city prostitute", that is, the kind who leans on the door and sells her smile to seduce clients, and is also despised as "wild pheasant".And the men who "beat the wild pheasants" are of course not flamboyant and talented men wandering along the Qinhuai River, but rather vulgar and even rough men. Xiaofuzi, "I", and Aqipo are undoubtedly "city prostitutes", and are undoubtedly the objects of lust for vulgar men.So I have always had deep sympathy for them. Therefore, when I first read Lin's short essay, I felt quite sympathetic with his sentence "It is men who commit crimes". But the reality that has existed since the 1990s has gradually changed my perspective and diminished the sympathy I have always had for prostitutes. I didn't get close to the "city whores" of the 1990s, nor was I disturbed by them the way many men who were away from home often did.Only once, when I was staying in a hotel outside the city, I received a call late at night asking if I needed "special services".Other men tell me that's the hooker trying to figure it out.But I was skeptical, thinking that maybe the hotel had other "special service" items that were not "pornographic", such as whether to ring the bell for morning call or not. Therefore, all my impressions of prostitutes in the 1990s are actually obtained from the mouths of men of all kinds, from all walks of life, from all walks of life, whom I have just met or are familiar with. What surprised me at first was that they only existed in certain cities and certain areas, and later, they also spread in some remote counties and towns. Later, I was amazed at how cheap they bargained. It is said that they also took "jobs" worth ten or twenty yuan. Later, I was amazed at how young they were.It is said that in some cities and some areas, people who are less than 18 years old start to go astray into prostitution. Afterwards, there was only a kind of surprise left. Their prostitution was not as reluctant as I imagined, how forced and helpless, and thus how miserable their hearts were. After being surprised a few times, I am no longer surprised. It is said that many of them seem to live very happily, because prostitution is the "easiest" "occupation", because this "occupation" makes their income several times or even ten times higher than the monthly salary of ordinary female workers; The "piecework" nature of this "profession" and the nature of cash transactions will never be owed "salary" or "IOUs"; moreover, because the traditional way of this "profession" is inseparable from eating, drinking, playing and having fun. The higher the income, the more generous the money, the more fashionable the clothes, and the better the living conditions.China is a big market for many industries in the world.她们似乎都持一种非常乐观的态度确信不疑——她们所从事的“职业”尽管还不能公开化，但前途似锦，“职业”队伍将不断扩大。 她们快活，自在，满意于现状，毫无羞耻感。除了有时不得不偷偷摸摸的，再没什么不顺心的。 据说，倒是些初涉此道的男人们，每每在大大方方的、笑容可掬的、善于周旋的她们面前常显得不好意思起来。那时她们就仿佛关系熟稔地调侃他们，为的是使他们放松些，自然些，大胆主动些…… 倘我们重读《月牙儿》，定会从“我”身上看出些与今天卖淫女们的相同。 “我”自幼丧父，于是家庭赖以维持起码生活的“经济基础”彻底坍塌。先是母亲靠替别人家浆浆洗洗挣点儿小钱勉强度日。后来母亲改嫁，再后来继父“失踪”。母亲不得不将她们的家变成了“暗门子”，以向粗俗陌生的男人们零售自己肉体的方式供女儿上学。 也许，母亲希望女儿知识化了以后能嫁给个体面的、依赖得住的男人，从而改变命运，自己的晚年也能跟着享几天福吧。 但是，上了学的女儿不久便从女同学那儿明白——“我小学毕业后又有什么用呢？我和同学们打听过了，有的告诉我，去年毕业的有好几个做姨太太的。有的告诉我，谁当了'暗门子'。” 于是“我更疑心妈妈了，是不是等我毕业好去做……这么一想，有时候我不敢回家，我怕见妈妈”。 而“妈妈的屋里常有男人来了，她不再躲避着我。他们的眼像狗似的看着我，舌头吐着，垂着涎。我在他们眼中是更解馋的，我看得出来。在很短的期间，我忽然明白了许多事情”。 不久，她做了女招待。她想卖笑不卖身。但是老板雇她，当然主要是促她早点儿开始卖身的。只要肯卖身，笑不笑倒还在其次。不肯卖身，那么就滚。这前提是绝无可商量的余地的。 没第二种选择，她终于顺其自然地成为娼妓。 20世纪90年代的中国卖淫女们，其中一部分，或许都如《月牙儿》中的“我”，一步步面临过类似的无奈。 以上是家庭生活状况的相同。 而心理嬗变轨迹的相同如下： “我在自己手中拿着，像捧着一朵娇嫩的花。我只能顾目前，没有将来，也不敢深想。” 《月牙儿》中的“我”是这样；今天的她们也是这样。 “我越往大了长，我越觉得自己好看，这是一点安慰，美使我抬高了自己的身份。” “我和一排年轻的姑娘们在小饭馆受选阅。我们这群都不难看，都是高小毕业的小女子们，等皇赏似的，等着一个破塔似的老板挑选。他选中了我。我不感谢他，可是当时确有点儿痛快。那群女孩子们似乎很羡慕我，有的竟自含着泪走去，有的骂声'妈的！'……” “我仿佛看得很清楚：有朝一日，我得比她（一个早出道的妓）还开通，才能挣上饭吃。” “我遇见几个同学，有的升入了中学，有的在家里做姑娘。我不愿理她们。可一说起话来，我觉得我比她们精明。原先，在学校时，我比她们傻；现在，她们显得呆傻了。” “男女彼此结成了网，互相捕捉。有钱的，网大一些，捉住几个，然后从容的选择一个。我没有钱，我连个结网的屋角都找不到。我得直接的捉人，或是被捉，我比她们明白一些，实际一些。” “我想我要玩玩，浪漫。我要勾引文明一些的人，至多只赔上一两个吻……啊，我错了。要卖，得痛痛快快的，拿钱来，我陪你睡，我明白了这个。” “及至做过了几天，我也就不怕了，身体上哪部分多运动都可以发达的……他们满意，还替我作义务的宣传……” “我们是拿十年当一年活着……” “这些经验叫我认识了'钱'与'人'。钱比人更厉害些……” 我真是由衷地钦佩老舍先生，实不愧是文学的大师。笔触漫不经心似的，笔调娓娓地淡淡地，就将一个少女变成娼妓的心路过程抽丝剥茧、观察入微地剖析给我们看了。我觉得，《月牙儿》是老舍先生最凄楚哀婉的一篇小说。 “我”与20世纪90年代的卖淫女的不同又是哪些方面呢？ 首先，她们其实不仅仅为了“挣上饭吃”，更是为了吃得比大多数小女子更好，穿得比大多数小女子更好，钱包比大多数小女子更鼓。 时代不同了，所以卖淫的目标定得更高了。 其次，她们心理的嬗变过程极短，观念的“开通”也极快，往往并不需要过程，直接地就扑奔那更高的目标而去。因而，她们往往真的觉得，做娼妓最是一种等于整天玩儿似的“职业”，真的觉得是浪漫的活法儿。甚至，很可能的，在她们“开通”的观念中，是仅次于明星的“职业”。 “我没有将来，也不敢深想。” 她们不愿深想。偶尔想想，再计算一下自己的积攒，非但并不觉得将来可怕，倒似乎更看到了将来的无忧无虑、将来的富裕、将来的美好。而事实上，一个女人只要有一大笔钱，即使是靠卖淫所获，也还是女人最大的幸事。时代对于“人”和“钱”的关系已似乎是这样的了——要么都不干净，要么都是干净的。 “我”感到自己“拿十年当一年活着”。 她们恰恰相反，企图拿每一天都当十年那么宝贵地活着。故每一天都及时行乐，及时挣钱。 “我”很快地憔悴了。 她们恰恰相反，因为有了钱，可以经常洗桑拿，可以经常做美容，可以去按摩，可以割双眼皮儿，可以垫鼻，可以隆胸，可以用系列的高级的护发、护肤品，可以通过营养丰富的饮食和滋补药物调整内分泌系统——而且，这些花销，往往由男人们“义务”了。所以，养颜有术的她们，似乎有充分的自信对“憔悴”说“不”！ “我”瞧不起自己——“我爱活着，但不应该这样活着。” 她们由于以上诸方面与“我”所处时代的不同，其实并不鄙视自己。她们当然也爱活着。并且，比来比去，还很爱像她们那样活着。起码，她们认为，自己的活法，是女性“第二幸福”的活法。与第一幸福的活法无缘，退而求其次不是也很好么？于是，她们反而会看着与“第二幸福”的活法也沾不上边儿的女性们着实地可怜。倘强迫她们每天按时上下班，劳劳碌碌，却每月只开极少的工资，她们反而会觉得等于是一种“迫害”。 因而，某些文学作品中的她们，不再是《月牙儿》里那个自哀自怜、自惭形秽的“我”了，而是些鲜活快乐、“青春无悔”的小女子了。 老舍先生若仍在世，若再对她们有所观察，若再写出一篇半个多世纪后的《月牙儿》续篇，其笔触其风格，据我想来，恐怕会一反前《月牙儿》的凄楚哀婉，不由己地变得后现代主义起来吧。 老舍先生当年深怀同情地以“月牙儿”喻那些旧中国由少女而无奈沦为娼妓的小女子。 昔也“月牙儿”，今也“月牙儿”。 “月亮还是那个月亮”，依然的“千里共婵娟”。 “月牙儿”却似乎不再有伤感的意味儿了。 那么，你在听说的多了，连这最后一点也不惊讶了的时候，你还会怜花惜玉地同情她们么？ 人口众多导致劳动力过剩。劳动力过剩首先导致女性自食其力的机会相比于男人大大减少。全世界劳动力过剩的现象都是这样。 女性在自食其力的机会大大减少的情况下，相互间的谋职竞争就空前激烈了。那些由于文化程度太低而被淘汰于谋职机会以外的年轻女性和少女，像幸运地有着工作的女性和少女们一样，时时会萌生穿好衣服的念头，也时时会萌生享受和享乐的欲望。这就需要钱。在男人们给她们钱的那一刻，他们同时表达或暗示了他们要的是什么，于是双方拍手成交。 我始终确信，任何一个年轻的女性或少女，当她第一次脱裸了身体卖淫于男人之际，无论他对于她是认识的或陌生的，她内心里肯定是感到羞耻的，起码有几分感到羞耻。因为以钞票为前提决定的两性关系的发生或不发生，在女性这一方面，是违背她们对自己没感情的男人掩护她们肉体的本能的。 但随着卖淫的次数增多，这一种本能最终会被扫荡得一干二净无影无踪。以后她在任何一个陌生男人面前脱裸了自己的时候，便仿佛在公共浴池的脱衣间一样无所谓了。 我想，这样的一些妓女与嫖客之间的交易，绝不会像林语堂先生在他那篇短文中所描写的那样——“她们是在叫男人尝尝罗曼斯的滋味。” 于嫖客，分明像内急终于寻找到了茅厕。 于卖淫女，大概等于接受一次男性妇科医生的身体检查。 中国存在着的嫖娼现象，真相大抵如此。 与古代秦淮河上的风流景观相比，显然连点儿颓靡的色彩都谈不上，而纯粹是丑陋了。那时的金陵夫子庙畔，毕竟是举行科举考试的地点，学子云集；而那时的妓，于棋琴诗画唱方面，又毕竟地起码都是身怀一艺。即使颓靡放浪，还总归有“风流”二字包装着，似乎地显出几分雅。 20世纪90年代的中国卖淫女，不但年龄越来越小，文化越来越低（固然早已开始有文化较高的女性加盟此行列，则应另当别论），而且，心理状态越来越开放了。 社会看她们的存在如疮疤。她们却很可能经由嫖她们的形形色色的、各行各业的或粗鄙或表面斯文的男人看这社会本身如一片疮疤，而视自己如疮疤上自然真实的蘑。 二十世纪五六十年代的中国女性，如花房里的花，你可以指着一一细说端详。因为指得过来。 二十世纪七八十年代的中国女性，如花园里的花，你可以登坡一望而将绿肥红瘦梅傲菊灼尽收眼底。因为你的视野即使不够宽阔，她们的烂漫也闹不到国人的目光以外去。所谓“浓绿万枝红一点，动人春色不须多”。 20世纪90年代的中国女性，抛开那些消极面来看，便如野生植物，自然生长区内的花木。其千姿百态的芳菲，其散紫翻红之妍媚，其深开浅放之错落，其着意四季之孤格异彩，简直不复是国人所能指能望得过来的，更不消说置喙妄论了。所谓“春风不解禁杨花，濛濛乱扑行人面”。 而这正是时代进步的标志。 一个时代的进步，首先从男人们都开始做什么显示着，其次从女人都打算怎么活显示着。 时代的进步常常带着野性。这野性体现在男人们头脑中每每是思想的冲撞，体现在女人们头脑中每每是观念的自由。 转身回顾，有哪一个时代女性的观念比20世纪90年代更少束缚、更自由么？ 20世纪90年代，一批精神面貌崭新而且风采异呈的中国女性，在政治、经济、文化、艺术、教育、科研、法律和社会公益、社会福利等方面所做的杰出贡献，以及自我价值方面有目共睹的实现——综合中国女性在五千余年的国史中的作为相比，有过之而无不及也！