Chapter 202 beware of narrow minded

Narrow-minded people have two basic psychological characteristics: one is that they cannot tolerate others, and the other is that they cannot tolerate things. Narrow-minded people are jealous of those who are stronger than themselves, and look down on those who are inferior to them.They are suspicious by nature, and they often toss about little things so that they can't eat well or sleep soundly. To get along with such a person, you have to: One must be generous.If you get along with narrow-minded people, some unpleasant things will definitely happen. If you lack courage and care about them, you will not be able to get along with them.On the contrary, if you are magnanimous and broad-minded, those unpleasant things will disappear, and at the same time, it is also an education for narrow-minded people.

Second, we must have the spirit of tolerance.Someone has done something wrong to you because of narrow-mindedness, you should bear with it.Patience is by no means weak, but a manifestation of broad-mindedness and noble style.Advocating tolerance does not mean giving up principles. Narrow-minded people are very easy to miscalculate the situation and treat people and things wrongly.Therefore, to develop the spirit of tolerance to a narrow-minded person does not mean to accommodate his mistakes.Forbearance with his narrow-mindedness, but never forbearance for his wrong thoughts and behaviors, this is forbearance.

Doing both will save you from making unwarranted enemies.In life, "many friends have many paths, many enemies have many walls".Too many enemies will cause all kinds of undue troubles in normal work and life. Tolerate the mistakes others have made against you, don't hold grudges, give him hope, he will naturally be grateful to you, keep this feeling of repayment in his heart, and always look for opportunities to return this kindness in the future.Of course, the purpose of what we do is not to covet the rewards of others. If that is the case, it will make people look down on us.

If you hurt others because of your fault, you should apologize in time. Such a move can turn an enemy into a friend and completely eliminate the hostility of the other party. The folk proverb "If you don't fight, you don't know each other" contains this philosophy.Since you have offended someone, instead of waiting for him to "reflect" back and fly a "back arrow", it is better to take the initiative to apologize, so as to clear up the past. There are many people who only pay attention to building a good relationship with important people, but don't look down on those who are next in line or those who are temporarily at a low point.This kind of indifferent attitude can easily misunderstand the other party. Once you ask him for something, he doesn't like you at all, and naturally he won't lend a helping hand.

A young man who works in an agency, with strong work ability and cleverness, is very popular and recognized by everyone.However, what is strange is that his attitude towards the "top leader" is always business-like, keeping a certain distance, but he is very enthusiastic about the "second leader" who does not have much real power.The young man has his own reasons. "Second in command" is an awkward role. Although he is a leader, he is always ignored by others. If I treat him as lukewarm as everyone else, I will virtually exclude him.Although pleasing him may not have any good effect, but if he wants to give you a negative effect behind his back, it will be too much.The purpose of getting close to him is not to have a deep relationship with him, but just not to have another hidden enemy.

If you want to resolve the hatred you have formed with others and ease the tense relationship, the best way is to repay the hatred with kindness and treat others with kindness.However, to endure without fighting, it requires a lot of perseverance and courage to endure the harm others do to oneself, and it also requires a broad mind.