Chapter 200 Six kinds of people must beware

Bitter people are less popular.Their characteristic is that when arguing with others, they often poach people's privacy without leaving any room for it, and at the same time, they are omnipresent in cynicism, which damages the other party's self-esteem and loses face.Bitter and mean people are naturally eloquent, and they can't forgive others.Because of their extremes, they tend not to have many friends. When interacting with this kind of person, you should first treat it with a lenient attitude. He treats you harshly, and you repay him with generosity.If he thinks you are a pedantic person and bullies you, you can remind him with an appropriate tough attitude.If his harsh character has not developed to a deep-rooted level, then, after interacting with you, he may gradually become a generous person.

Here are some tips for dealing with someone who is mean: One is to keep a distance from him and not to provoke him. The second is that if you suffer a loss, if you hear one or two irritating words or gossip, just pretend you didn't hear it, and you must not get angry; otherwise, you will be asking for trouble and trouble. If it is said that the result of a vitriolic person doing things is harming others and not benefiting himself, then the person who sows dissension is harming others out of self-interest, and as a result destroys other people's communication and profits from it. The trick to dealing with such people is to:

First of all, we must pay attention to words and deeds, and keep a certain distance from him. Secondly, it is necessary to establish a good personal reputation within the unit so that he cannot provoke him.The most important thing is to contact other colleagues, establish a joint defense and alliance relationship, and isolate him. No matter who he provokes, don't be moved or affected by it. Again, even if there is any right and wrong, you should try to resolve it, be patient with humility, and at the same time maintain a broad mind. The characteristics of a snobbish person, as the saying goes, "Worship high, step on low".They are all people who follow the trend, and of course they don't have any morals.

Knowing the nature of snobs, but you must socialize with them, you can use two methods: One is a positive approach. "Act in the opposite direction", we all associate with those whom snobs look down upon, or whom they are unwilling to associate with, and use this to teach them, frustrate them, and make them enlighten and change.To adopt this method, you must first meet some conditions, that is, you have various abilities that can frustrate them, and the method of implementation cannot make them too embarrassed or disgusted.Otherwise, it will cause the relationship between the two parties to break down and become enemies.

The second is the negative method.If you have to socialize with snobs, never flatter them to avoid humiliation.If you can concretely show your noble personality and firm will, they will have to treat you differently. When socializing with snobbish people, don't do what they like and accommodate everywhere unless it is absolutely necessary, otherwise, over time, you may be assimilated by them. Brute people are violent and vicious at the same time.When meeting such a person, there is no need to communicate at all.However, a domineering person will not have a special brand name hanging on his chest to let you know. In your life, or among relatives and friends, you will occasionally make friends with such a person.By the time you know that he is a brutal and unreasonable person, there has been a certain degree of communication with each other.

Under such circumstances, there are two principles of communication: One is to alienate them, which is the best strategy. Alienation will weaken the friendship between each other, and when the exchanges decrease, the relationship between each other can be ended. The second is to be cautious when dealing with them, and deal with the other party's tyranny with a very gentle and indifferent attitude.If the other party still doesn't know how to advance or retreat, they can only adopt the method of avoiding or breaking off the relationship. Most of the flatterers are those who have no sense of shame, love leisure and hate work.The purpose of their flattery is nothing more than to seek help from the person being flattered, so it is more appropriate to say that they are "flattery villains".

Some people in society are very flattering.The purpose of the sycophant is to seek credit.Therefore, it can be said that all flatterers are harmful to us but not beneficial to us.They often do whatever it takes to achieve their goals.If we have such a person by our side, other upright friends will gradually become alienated from us. Most flatterers have a way of pleasing others.People who are being flattered are also often made smug by this set of tactics.Know that the person who flatters you today because of your wealth is also the person who will hurt you because of your loss in the future.Therefore, anyone who comes to flatter him should be indifferent to him, and laugh at his good and bad words.After a long time, it will make them feel boring and retreat naturally, otherwise, it will be difficult to avoid their harm.

Selfish people do not care about the gains and losses of others, and often only plan for themselves.It is human nature to think for oneself. In this society, there are very few people who do not think for themselves at all. Therefore, it is not too much for a person to think for himself, but thinking only for himself and ignoring the life and death of others is a manifestation of selfishness, which is very undesirable.In entertainment, special attention should be paid to such selfish people, and they will become their victims if they are not careful. Therefore, when you are in a relationship, if you want to guard against selfish people, you must first learn to identify selfish people.Generally speaking, selfish people have no special performance in normal times.Even socializing with them may make you feel that he is a loyal and considerate person.But when things come, he doesn't care about your life if he wants to achieve his goal.

Therefore, if you want to know the essence of this kind of person, you can only observe it in your usual actions.And this kind of observation is best placed on seeing how the other party treats his closest relatives, such as parents, wives, brothers, and so on.If he appears to be extremely selfish towards those closest to him, let alone others. After confirming that the other party is a selfish person, we should be careful in every way and step by step when socializing with him.It's nothing if you suffer a loss because of a small matter, but if you fall into the other party's trap because of a big matter, you will regret it too late.