Chapter 195 The "needle" stabbed hard in the cotton

In communication, when some questions are not suitable to be asked directly, you may wish to ask them in a way of hiding a needle in the cotton.Mian refers to the euphemistic way of speaking, which does not directly express the speaker's preferences; needle refers to revealing the essence of the conversation under the cover of cotton. Farage, a well-known Italian female journalist, is very good at using this questioning method: South Vietnamese Prime Minister Nguyen Van Thieu was once commented as "the most corrupt person in South Vietnam".When Farage interviewed Nguyen Van Thieu, he wanted to know his opinion on this comment, but if asked directly, Nguyen Van Thieu would definitely say that there was no such thing.Farage decomposed this question into two small questions that were intrinsically connected, and achieved the purpose of the interview in a tortuous way.She first asked, "You came from a very poor background, right?" After hearing this, Ruan Van Thieu described his family's difficult situation when he was a child.After getting an affirmative answer to the above question, Farage continued to ask: "Today, you are extremely rich, with bank deposits and houses in Switzerland, London, Paris and Australia, right?" Confession, he had to bite the bullet and tell his "little family property".It is clear whether Ruan Van Thieu is as rich and corrupt as people say, or not luxurious as he said, and readers will naturally draw their own judgments from the "list" of property he listed.

George Bernard Shaw is a famous British writer. He was timid when he was young, but he practiced speech and debate with the spirit of not being afraid of making a fool of himself, and later became a world-famous orator.Once, his new play "Weapons and People" was successfully performed for the first time.At the end of the play, many audience members asked Bernard Shaw to come on stage and accept everyone's congratulations.However, when he stepped onto the stage, someone suddenly rushed to the front of the stage and shouted to him: "George Bernard Shaw, your script is terrible! Who wants to see this crap! Take it back and stop the show!" The audience was shocked. , thinking that Bernard Shaw would tremble with anger and protest this unreasonable provocateur angrily.Who knew that instead of being angry, Bernard Shaw politely bowed deeply to that person, and said with a smile on his face: "My friend, you are quite right. I completely agree with your opinion, but unfortunately , What is the use of the two of us opposing so many audiences? Can the two of us ban the performance of this script?" This caused the audience to burst into laughter, followed by stormy applause.Amid the applause, the provocateur had no choice but to leave in despair...

If Bernard Shaw had confronted directly, although he could have won, it would never have achieved such a miraculous effect. In life, there are also such examples: a girl wearing a flower hat meets several frivolous youths on the street, and one of them reaches out and takes off her hat.Facing the provocation, the girl was angry and nervous, but she calmed down immediately and said politely: "My hat is pretty, isn't it?" "Of course, it's just like you, so beautiful." The young man teased .The girl said politely: "You must want to take a closer look so that you can buy one for your girlfriend, right? I don't think you are the kind of person who teases people casually."

There is something in her words, enlightenment is hidden in the gentleness, and sharpness is contained in the euphemism. "Of course." The young man was a little embarrassed, he couldn't help but returned the flower hat, and slipped away.A possible crisis was thus averted. From it, we not only saw the girl's wit, but also left an impression on her eloquence.We have seen that the girl did not say a single strong word from the beginning to the end, but used soft words containing "subtext" to deal with them skillfully, and successfully stimulated the other party's self-esteem and self-love.She used soft words to create an image of an inviolable strong man, so that the other party did not dare to act rashly.From here we can appreciate the unique power of "hiding a needle in the cotton" in euphemistic and soft words.

When encountering someone who makes trouble for no reason, you don't have to be overly impulsive, let alone yell. A rational attitude and words that seem "soft and weak" but are actually like bee stings can achieve the effect of defeating the enemy.