Chapter 191 "Pot" heat up the relationship with each other

When we communicate with people, it is like cooking porridge. It must be cold first, then warm, and then gradually hot. Initially, the relationship was cold as they didn't know each other well.In order to warm up the interpersonal relationship, we might as well use the method of "cooking porridge" to heat up the interpersonal relationship by increasing the chances of meeting each other. A well-known psychologist, Charontz, did such an experiment: First, he showed some photos to the subjects, some showed them more than 20 times, some showed them more than 10 times, and some only showed them once or twice. The subjects were then asked to rate how much they liked the photos.It turns out that the subjects prefer those familiar photos that they have seen many times, rather than those fresh photos that have only been seen a few times, that is, the number of times they see it increases the degree of liking.

This phenomenon of liking more familiar things is called "more viewing effect" in psychology. The human heart is both strong and weak, and it is a very wonderful existence.Some emotional factors, such as liking, will arise in unconscious contact.The frequency of contact, or the more times you meet, the more you will like it. In order to prove this effect, a social psychologist once conducted an experiment: in a female dormitory building of a university, they randomly found several dormitories, gave them drinks of different flavors, and then asked the girls in these dormitories to You can walk between these dormitories on the grounds of enjoying drinks, but you are not allowed to talk when you meet.After a period of time, the psychologist evaluates the degree of familiarity and liking between them.The results found that: the more times they met, the greater the degree of mutual liking; the less or no times of meeting, the lower the degree of mutual liking.

Close your eyes and think about it carefully: We have a general impression of some people, but as we get in touch with them often, will they look more pleasing to the eye, or even like them more and more? For some people, we may feel that she is not beautiful, gentle, or the type we like for the first time.But if you see her every day, after a long time, will you feel that she is more beautiful and cute? Zhang Cong, Li Hua and Lan Ming are in the same class in high school, and they are good friends with each other.But after the college entrance examination, both Zhang Cong and Li Hua were admitted to the same university, while Lan Ming was admitted to a university in another city.Zhang Cong and Li Hua meet four or five times almost every week. Sometimes they meet to hang out together, sometimes they have dinner together, and sometimes they meet by chance on campus.Lan Ming also met many new friends in his new school. He and Zhang Cong and Li Hua only met in their hometown during the winter and summer vacations, and had fun together for a few days.It turned out that although the three of them were still good friends, unconsciously, the relationship between Zhang Cong and Li Hua became closer, while that of Lan Ming was somewhat unfamiliar.

It can be seen that if you want to enhance your interpersonal attractiveness, you must pay attention to improving your familiarity in front of others. If you want to get the attention and appreciation of the leader, you must report to the leader frequently.When the work starts, it must be reported first; when the work reaches a certain stage, it must be reported on time; when it has reached a certain level, it must be reported in time; when the work is completed, it must be reported immediately.In this way, if you report regularly, you will have more opportunities to get in touch with the leader, more times to meet, and more opportunities for the leader to know you; the more familiar you are with the leader, the more likely the leader will like you.In this way, the possibility of promoting you is great.Whether it will succeed or not, if you are familiar with it, the chances are always greater.

If we want to build a good relationship with someone, we might as well find more opportunities to meet him.