Chapter 179 Invest in the original stock of human feelings

One of the habits of human beings is to get close to excellent people. If you can establish a relationship with someone who has a successful career, you can subtly gain the light of the other party. This is a natural psychology.Making friends in this situation, however, often fails to foster reliable relationships.Because everyone wants to get acquainted with and make friends with a person who is successful and prosperous. On the one hand, he can't take care of it, and on the other hand, he can't become real friends with those who flatter him. On the contrary, if you associate with those who are temporarily out of power and become good friends, it will be completely different, just like buying stocks, buying the most valuable original stocks.

Among your friends, are there any people who are underappreciated or temporarily out of power?If there is, don't alienate and neglect him, you should extend a warm hand to help and care.Once he is lucky and lucky in the future, you will be the first thing he remembers, and of course you will be the first thing he wants to pay back.At that time, if you ask him to do something, he will definitely extend his enthusiastic hand. Helping those who are not in power, saying a heart-warming word to those who are in power, is like giving a gentle hand to a person who is about to fall, which can give him comfort and support.For a poor person who is in trouble, a few dozen yuan of help may enable him to start a career and break out of his own rich world.

From the perspective of life, it is impossible for people to have smooth sailing, and setbacks and bad luck are inevitable.When people are in trouble, it is a test for those around them, especially for friends.People who go away may become passers-by from now on, and people who sympathize with and help him tide over difficulties may be remembered for a lifetime.The so-called best friends and friends in need are often formed during difficult times, and the friendship formed at this time is the most valuable and cherished. A leader lost power, and some of his former friends and subordinates left him. He felt very depressed, lost his confidence in life for a while, and thought of suicide.At this time, one of his subordinates took the initiative to meet him, brought him a gift, and enlightened him that it was wrong to commit suicide, and analyzed the situation with him.The encouragement of his subordinates made him realize that the future is bright.He finally persevered. Later, when the leader came out again, he thanked this subordinate very much, and handed over the most important department under him to the management of this subordinate. After he retired, he helped this subordinate to sit in his original seat. superior.

In a certain sense, the attitude towards the downcast and out-of-power is not only a test of a person's communication quality, but also an opportunity to establish a good interpersonal relationship.Because when people are in a tragic situation, they often expose the fundamentals of human nature and appear fragile and helpless. At this time, the olive branch you throw at him is like the straw for the drowning man. Awakened relationships are solid and solid. Winners and losers are the most obvious examples of gain and lose in elections.In the winner's office, strangers also flock to the office, and in the office of the loser, no one cares.On closer inspection, sometimes even those who would have supported the losing candidate in an election cycle have switched to the winner.

This is a very desperate situation.When an election is lost, the picture of everyone leaving is all the more bleak.At this time, if someone is on the side of the loser, the loser will naturally be very pleased.If you can get some sincere encouragement, you will have the courage and confidence to move forward. Relationships established under such circumstances are unlikely to collapse due to a little friction. As the saying goes: "Thirty years in the east of the river, thirty years in the west of the river." There are not a few examples of people who once lost their power and got up again under certain circumstances.If you wait until the lost person has succeeded again, it will be too late.Just like buying original stocks to make a lot of money, lending a helping hand when others lose power, and getting rich returns when they gain power.

It is even more necessary to grasp the scale and proportion when interacting with people who are not in power.In interpersonal communication, not everyone who is out of power is worthy of your association and help.Some people who are out of power, no matter how you try to help him, it will not bring you any benefits.Who is willing to spend money to buy stocks that will not appreciate in value and may depreciate? For example, some people who have lost power have made big mistakes or made irreparable mistakes, and there is no possibility of a comeback at all. Besides, if you associate with him and give him a helping hand, you still have to take some risks and be criticized by his opponents And jealousy, of course it is better not to do such things that are not worth the candle.There is a lot of knowledge in communicating with people who are not in power, and the specific situation should be treated in a specific manner.

In short, give full play to your abilities, spot talents, and control your destiny.