Chapter 169 Attractive eyes, exchange "give" with "give up"

Legend has it that one day, King Yan Luo was judging where the imps were assigned to reincarnate.King Yan Luo patted the ruler: "Zhang San, go to the East Village to be reincarnated as a man", "Li Si, go to the West Village to be a man"... only heard the sound of stroking the ruler in the hall one after another, and Yama Wang distributed in order. The monkey waiting at the side couldn't help protesting: "King Yama, no matter Zhang San or Li Si, you let them reincarnate in the world, please show mercy, and let me, a monkey, taste what it's like to be a human being."

King Yama said: "Monkey! Humans don't have long hair. You are all hairy. How can you be a human in the world?" The monkey said: "If I pluck all the hair off my body, can I go to the world?" King Yan Luo couldn't resist the monkey's repeated begging, and agreed to help the monkey pluck out its hair.King Yama stretched out his hand and plucked out a hair. The monkey screamed in pain and ran away. King Yan Luo sighed and said, "If you can't bear to pull out even a hair, how can you be qualified to be a human being?" We often want to get it, but before getting it, have you given or paid anything?

Perhaps, everyone has heard a lot of stories about Lincoln's success, but not everyone can tell the story about Lincoln's generosity. In fact, what made Lincoln one of the most respected men in American history was his dedication to helping others.Mr. Hounton, his partner in the law firm, recalled when Lincoln was young: "When Mr. Lincoln's house was full of people, he would give up his bed to others. Then he would go to the store by himself. He slept on the counter and rolled a piece of cloth as a pillow, and it seemed that anyone who had a problem would think of asking him for help." Lincoln was so generous, what did he win in the future?Vote!

There is something to gain.If you don't give up, how can others give you for no reason?Lincoln helped others out of his nature, and the value of this kind of "willingness" out of nature is even more extraordinary, and it is very worth learning from us. As the saying goes: "The bottom of my heart is selfless and the world is wide." Only selfless giving and giving can be exchanged for sincere respect from others.Then, some people's contributions are intentional. At this time, how to make the other party understand your kindness instead of misinterpreting you?You need to have a lot of clever arrangements before "giving up", and you must not tell the other party: "I want to 'give' you (benefits)." Otherwise, the other party will naturally be more alert to your "given" for no reason. , In this way, it may be difficult to "get" what you think of.After all, in today's society, people are very selfish. How to make a good article on "give first, get later" is not an easy task.

"If you want to get something, give it up first" you have to make great efforts in the following aspects: One is to do a good job in analyzing the quantification of "giving up" and "gaining". That is to say, it is wisdom to exchange a small "giving up" for a big "gaining". If you use the grace of the fountain to exchange for the reward of the dripping water, the cost of this kind of "sacrifice" is really not worthwhile. The second is to try to establish "give up first if you want to get it" on the basis of both subtlety and harmony.Just like Lincoln mentioned above, his "give up" is very natural, so that it will not cause inexplicable pressure and suspicion on the other party's psychology. Nowadays, people like to talk about two-way, interactive, and win-win. It would be great if you can do this.

For example, if a business owner wants to make employees loyal to the company, he must first give them more spiritual care and material incentives in the subtleties. How can the employees turn against the boss? The third is to fully understand the part of speech function of "give up first if you want to get it"-it is usually linked to material gains and losses, so whether it is "giving up" or "gaining", you must follow the right path in motivation and focus on helping others, while Don't take it as a naked quid pro quo. For example, there is a real estate owner who can take over nine out of ten projects in the local area when it is difficult for others to take over the project.Why is this?

According to his later reflection, this was mainly due to his "very willing" before accepting the project. What is "very willing"?It is to bribe the officials of the contracting party at any cost.This kind of "give up first if you want to get it" naturally made him a lot of money.But when the anti-corruption trend came, his bribery was exposed, and he ended up as a prisoner!In communication, it is better not to do this kind of "willingness"!