Chapter 170 Give up ego, get hardcore contacts

A herdsman went out to graze. On the way home, he encountered a sandstorm. The flock was frightened and ran desperately. The herdsman chased the flock of sheep on horseback. Unknowingly, they chased for dozens of miles and came to a strange place.The shepherd was hungry and thirsty, and just when he was about to give up, suddenly, he found an abandoned hut.He dragged his tired body into the house. It was a small, airless hut, piled with rotting timber.Almost desperately, he walked into the corner of the house, but unexpectedly found a water pump. He excitedly stepped forward to draw water, but no matter how hard he pumped, he couldn't get half a drop.He sat on the ground dejectedly, but he saw a small bottle with a cork stopper next to the water pump, and a yellowed note was pasted on the bottle.The note said: You must fill the pump with water to drink!Don't forget to refill the water before you leave!

He uncorked the cork and found that the bottle was indeed full of water! At this moment, his heart began to fight... If he was more selfish, as long as he drank the water in the bottle, he would not die of thirst, and he would be able to walk out of this room alive!If he followed the note and poured the only water in the bottle into the water pump, if the water never returned, he would die of thirst in this place... Do you want to take the risk? In the end, he decided to pour all the water in the bottle into the dilapidated-looking water pump. The shepherd drew water with trembling hands, and the water really gushed out!

After the shepherd drank enough water, he filled the bottle with water, sealed it with a cork, and added his own words behind the original note: Believe me, it really works. This story tells us: before obtaining, we must first learn to give up, because there is only giving to gain. On the road of life, what to give up and what to choose is an art.Sometimes, what you give up is what you get. People often say "willingness", willingness, willingness, and willingness to gain.Want to get everything, often the loss outweighs the gain. Only by giving up can we gain; by letting go can we strive for new goals; by forgetting can we have peace of mind;

The quality of interpersonal relationship has a great influence on a person's career achievement, and everyone hopes to have a good and broad interpersonal relationship.A successful person in business said: "To establish a good and broad interpersonal relationship, you must use the concept of 'willing'. Well, that relationship is pretty limited." Therefore, people must learn to take the initiative and first satisfy the other party's ego.Because everyone has accepted other people's "give up" and become someone else's friend. If you want to strive for "gain", you must first learn to "give up".People are basically "self"-centered, think of "I" first in everything, and think about themselves first.So sometimes I think: why doesn't someone say hello to "me" first?Why does someone not invite "me" to dinner, but invite others?Why doesn't someone send "me" a birthday card?Why does someone have a distance from "me"?

If you think this way, other people think the same way, that is to say, everyone puts "gain" in their hearts and hangs in front of their eyes. If both parties are unwilling to "give up" first, then this relationship will not be possible!Therefore, we should learn to take the initiative, satisfy the self of the other party first, and take the first step for the establishment of the relationship between the two parties. Taking the initiative to attack is the first step of "letting go", that is, first "letting go" of your reserve, "letting go" of your arms, and showing a peaceful gesture to the other party.The next step is to have a practical approach.Ordinary daily pleasantries and greetings seem nothing, but if you can add concern for the other party in ordinary conversations, then this concern will slowly ferment.Of course, your concern should not have the meaning of spying, otherwise it will arouse the vigilance of the other party.It is best to make use of the topic, for example, start from work, then expand to family and leisure, and slowly open the other party's heart window.

However, this is not enough, because it can only allow you to establish an ordinary relationship, and you must add certain ingredients to consolidate this relationship.It is very simple to learn how to do it, first abandon the self-centered thinking and do something for the other party!Seriously understand the following content, you will understand. One is to observe and understand the needs of the other party. Before the other party speaks, you do it for him first. He will not only thank you, but also be pleasantly surprised.For example, Mr. A took the initiative to bring back a bottle of "hair tonic" for Mr. B from abroad. Although it didn't have much effect, Mr. B would still be very moved.

The second is to share your resources, including material, spiritual and interpersonal.For example, you can introduce your friend to him, lend him your CD, give him the flowers you planted or the book you collected, anyway, as long as the other person doesn't have it and you have it, you can share it with him. Put the interests of others first in everything, and move them with your sincerity. This kind of "giving up" will really be exchanged for "gaining".But some exceptions are not ruled out.Because there are many ungrateful people in this world.But then again, for this kind of person, how can you "get" if you don't "give up"-know what kind of person he is!

As the saying goes: "One kind of rice can raise a hundred kinds of people." You don't have to expect a kind response from the other party, but you must believe that "giving up" is the seed, and "gaining" is the harvest. Some seeds germinate early, and some germinate early. It is late, but there is always a sprout and a harvest.All in all, to build a relationship, you can't just sit and wait for someone to "come to your door", and then there will be no door!