Chapter 167 Small comfort, big effect

The road of life is not smooth, and there are often more adversities than good times.In the face of adversity and misfortune, the parties involved not only need to encourage themselves, but also urgently need the comfort of others.Comfort is like sending charcoal in the snow, which can give warmth, light and strength to the unfortunate.Giving comfort to the unfortunate is a virtue in life.When relatives and friends suffer misfortune, it is your duty to send sincere comfort in time. When visiting the unfortunate who are seriously ill, there is no need to talk too much about the condition.The relevant medical knowledge has already been explained and explained by the doctor, so there is no need for you to say more.If the other party already has the mental burden of a serious illness, if you talk about it too much, the burden will inevitably increase.You should talk more about what the patient cares about and is interested in, so as to divert the other party's attention and reduce their mental burden.

For the unfortunate who are discriminated against due to physical defects or because of birth, family status, etc., some of the unfortunate reasons are congenital. When consoling, we should talk about the success stories of celebrities who have similar situations, and encourage them not to succumb to fate. To comfort the bereaved, don't be too eager to dissuade the other person from crying.Intense grief is like a boulder backlogged in his heart, and the longer it is, the heavier it becomes. Letting it vent and release it will help him quickly restore his psychological balance and calm state.Pay attention to listen to the other party's memories and complaints, and talk more about the merits and contributions of the deceased during his lifetime.For emergencies such as birth, old age, sickness and death, we should pay attention to timely comfort. The passing of the situation will not only lose the meaning, but also bring back sad memories in the other party's calmed mind, which is very inappropriate.

Of course, it doesn't mean that you must comfort the other party when they are emotional.When a person's emotions are out of control, no one's comfort can be heard, and they can only add fuel to the flames. It's better to wait for him to calm down and regain his sanity before talking to him. Sometimes, lies don't have to be all bad.For terminally ill patients, we can only tell their family members the truth about their condition, but they should still tell the serious illness lightly to themselves.If the lie arouses his love for life and strengthens his will to fight the disease, it may prolong life and even defeat death.

Kind lies, of course, have good intentions, that is, to alleviate the spiritual pain of the unfortunate and help them regain their courage in life.After the parties understand the truth, they will only be grateful and not complain.If you know that it will aggravate the other person's mental pain, you still have to tell the truth, even if it is not bad, it should be considered stupid.