Chapter 162 Get ready to be recognized

It is often said that "don't fight an unprepared battle". When a person needs to ask a stranger to do something, it is like fighting a battle. Only by making full preparations in advance can it be possible to win the battle.So, how to prepare?On the one hand, you can learn about the other party’s background, experience, personality, and preferences through various channels; Mental preparation.Then, in the communication, aim at the characteristics of the other party and do what they like.It made him feel like "seeing each other late", thus successfully winning the trust of the other party.

Sheng Xuanhuai was a minister in the late Qing Dynasty. When he met with an unfamiliar superior, he paid great attention to understanding the relevant situation of the other party. Once, under the recommendation of Li Lianying, Prince Chun specially met Sheng Xuanhuai at his mansion in Taiping Lake in Xuanwumen, and asked him about telegrams. Sheng Xuanhuai had never met Prince Jin before, but he had a close relationship with Master Zhang, Prince Jin's guest. From him, he learned two things: First, Prince Jin is different from Prince Gong. Prince Gong believes that China should learn from the West. Prince Chun thinks that the Chinese are no worse than foreigners; secondly, although Prince Chun is good at martial arts, he thinks he has read a lot of books and is quite literary.

After Sheng Xuanhuai learned about the situation, he went to Weng Tongsu, Minister of the Ministry of Industry, who was the emperor's teacher, to copy some manuscripts of Prince Chun's poems, and read several poems by heart, in case of "contingencies". In addition, Sheng Xuanhuai also realized some of Prince Chun's thoughts from Prince Chun's poems, after all, "writing is like a person".With a plan in mind, Sheng Xuanhuai came to meet Prince Chun. When they talked about the term "telegram", Prince Chun asked, "What is the telegram?" Sheng Xuanhuai replied: "Returning to the words of the prince. The telegram itself is nothing special, it all depends on its flexible use. The so-called 'the magic of using it lies in one's heart', that's all."

When Prince Jin heard that he could quote Yue Wumu's words, he couldn't help but look at him differently, and asked, "Have you also read military books?" "In front of the prince, how dare you say that you have read military books? Back then, Emperor Wen Zongxian went hunting in England and France, worried about the country and the people, and even died. If it weren't for the prince's martial arts, the situation would have been unimaginable. "Sheng Xuanhuai paused for a moment and then said: "At that time, no one with flesh and blood wanted to wash away the national humiliation. It was at that time that Xuanhuai read one or two military books."

Sheng Xuanhuai is really inseparable from Prince Chun's "professional practice". Prince Jin is Sheng Xuanhuai's superior, and his interview is related to Sheng Xuanhuai's future and destiny. Therefore, Sheng Xuanhuai spent a lot of time inquiring about Prince Jin's situation. less confidence.When paying homage to him, Sheng Xuanhuai said something in Prince Jin's heart, which made him feel that this person was very suitable for him, so he quickly entrusted him with important tasks, and Sheng Xuanhuai helped him with sufficient preparation in advance. Like Sheng Xuanhuai, it is very necessary to make sufficient preparations before associating with the communication partners you know.Then, it is also a very important measure to prepare as much as possible before interacting with people we are not familiar with.

In a certain city in the United States, a gentleman took a taxi to a certain destination.The passenger got into the car and found that the car was not only glamorous in appearance, the driver was neatly dressed, and the interior of the car was also very elegant. As soon as the car started, the driver asked enthusiastically, "Is the temperature in the car suitable?" After a while, he asked him again, "Do you want to listen to music or the radio?" There are also morning newspapers and current magazines in the car. There is a small refrigerator in the front. You can also take the juice and coke in the refrigerator if you need it. If you want to drink hot coffee, there is hot coffee in the thermos.These special services surprised the passenger, and he couldn't help looking at the driver. The happy expression on the driver's face was like the warm sunshine outside the car window.After a while, the driver said to the passengers: "The road ahead may be congested, but the expressway will not be congested at this time. Shall we take the expressway?"

When the passenger agreed, the driver said thoughtfully: "I am a person who talks about everything. If you want to chat, I can talk about everything except politics and religion. If you want to rest or watch the scenery, then I will drive quietly and not bother you." From the moment he got on the bus to the moment, the passenger who often took a taxi was full of surprises. He couldn't help asking the driver: "When did you start this kind of service?" The driver said: "From the moment I woke up." The driver continued to talk about his awakening process.He has been as usual before, often complaining that work is hard and life is meaningless.But inadvertently, he heard some attitudes in life being talked about on the radio program, to the effect that you will get what you believe in, and if you feel that life is not going well, then everything that happens will make you feel unlucky; on the contrary, If you think today is a lucky day, then every person you meet today may be your noble person.From that moment on, he started a new way of life.

When the destination arrived, the driver got out of the car, went around to help the passengers open the door, handed over his business card, and said, "I hope to serve you again next time." As a result, the taxi driver's business has not been affected by the economic downturn, and he rarely drives around the city empty because his customers always pre-book his car. The driver is very communicative.He makes full preparations for every guest who may get on the bus, and after a specific passenger gets on the bus, he can find a conversation that meets the psychological needs of the passengers in a timely manner, communicate harmoniously with the passengers, and serve the passengers everywhere. For the sake of.

This is very desirable in our communication practice. What the driver said about his changes is more worthy of our study.Complaining doesn't change your life.In the same way, we can't improve our communication situation if we complain that our communication partner is "unkind" or "doesn't understand me". The only thing we can change is ourselves. Therefore, if we want to be accepted by our communication partner, we must start from Do it yourself, don't complain, like that driver, open your heart and be fully prepared to accept others. 1. Do a good job of surveying before building the canal.

2. Grasp the key and difficult points on the channel to dig, in order to ensure the permanent smooth flow of the channel. 3. A channel is connected with many relationships. Only by being familiar with these relationships and straightening them out can the channel be repaired. 4. It takes a lot of work to repair the channel of "humanity".