Chapter 140 Soft and hard foam is not ordinary

Some people are too thin-skinned and have too much self-esteem to survive the first rejection.Whenever they are hindered, they blush, feel humiliated and annoyed, either quarrel with others, or walk away, never looking back.On the surface, this kind of people seem to have a bit of "backbone", but in fact this is caused by their overly fragile self-esteem. They only care about face and do not try to achieve their goals, which is not beneficial to their careers. Therefore, when we ask for help, we must have self-esteem, but not excessive self-esteem.In order to achieve the purpose of communication, sometimes you might as well have a thicker skin, bump into a nail, don't blush, don't panic, don't get angry, and still smile when dealing with people, as long as there is a glimmer of hope, you must go all out to fight for it Bubble".

"Soft and hard foam" is a special technique of asking for help.It can strive for positive effects in a negative form. It can show your determination and perseverance not to give up until you reach your goal, put pressure on the other party, and increase the chance of contact, more fully express your attitude, thoughts and feelings, so as to influence the other party. attitude to achieve your goals.This tactic seems simple, but the knowledge inside is not small, mainly in the following aspects. Patience is the premise and foundation of "soft grinding hard foam".When communication is hindered and there is a deadlock, people's immediate reaction is usually to be irritable, frustrated, annoyed, or even angry. However, this does not help the resolution of the matter.You should control yourself rationally and adopt a patient attitude.

On the one hand, what patience expresses is the understanding of the other party's situation, the expectation of the turning point and the confidence in the success of seeking someone.With this state of mind, you can put yourself in a strong position mentally, be able to stay in place, mobilize all your ingenuity, and find ways to break the deadlock.Even if it takes a certain amount of time. On the other hand, "soft grinding and hard foam" consumes time, and time is just a weapon.Time is precious to everyone, and what people can't afford to waste the most is time.Therefore, if you confront the opponent with enough patience and put on a posture of "fighting for a long time", it will have a deterrent effect on the opponent's psychology.Using "bubble" versus "drag" is enough to urge him to change his original intention and speed up his work.Therefore, you have to calm down and sacrifice a little time patiently, but you can win the other party to do things faster.

"Bubbling" is not to waste time passively, nor is it to play rogue with others, but to be good at taking positive actions to influence and influence the other party to promote the transformation of the situation for the better.As the saying goes: "People's hearts are made of meat." No matter how big the gap in understanding between the two parties is, as long as you are good at proving your sincerity with actions, you will prompt the other party to think, and then understand your painstaking efforts, and jump out of the stubborn box Come out, and then you will "bubble" hope out.

Sometimes when you go to ask someone, the other party refuses to do it. It’s not because they don’t want to do it, but because they have practical difficulties or doubts.At this time, if you only rely on actions to "bubble", it will be difficult to be effective, and even "bubble" the other party and get annoying, so they simply don't do things for you.In this case, the effort on the mouth becomes very important.Be considerate, grasp the crux of the problem, and use language skillfully to attack the heart, after all, words are the lock of happiness. When you get your words to the point, you will knock on the door of the other party's heart, and then your "soft and hard foam" will really play a role.