Chapter 104 Modesty wins good relationships

In a symposium, most of the participants were scholars and critics, and the organizer arranged for a housewife to speak as a non-voting delegate.When it was her turn to speak, she began her conversation with the words "A housewife like me..." and her conversation was very low-key and modest compared with the smooth-talking, citing scholars, but it turned out that It has become a very incisive speech, which is really impressive. The housewife's success lies in her clever use of people's psychology.That is to use "people like me..." to draw people's disdain for her.Putting oneself in a "lower" position than others, on the contrary, gained the favor of those who are superior.

It can be seen that keeping a low profile is a very important means of communication. In the workplace, paying attention to humility is a very important communication method. Xiao Li entered a state-owned enterprise right after graduating from a prestigious university, and achieved outstanding performance in a short period of time.But two years have passed, Xiao Li's salary has not been improved at all, and his position has been stagnant.What is the reason?Xiao Li couldn't understand it. So, Xiao Li found a colleague who usually has a good relationship, and under his guidance, he suddenly realized.It turned out that as soon as Xiao Li stepped into the work unit, he was ambitious and hoped to make a big career.Xiao Li is self-confident that he is brilliant, and he usually shows a domineering aura in his speech and behavior.Even when dealing with leaders, he always wanted to show off his talents and knowledge, which invisibly gave the leaders an impression of pride and complacency.

Therefore, it is necessary for us to discuss how those people who often want to succeed in communication show their modesty in different ways at different times and under different circumstances in order to leave a good impression on others. If praise or praise makes you feel embarrassed in front of everyone, you may wish to find a way to divert everyone's attention, so that you can "get away" skillfully, and "graft" the object of praise or praise onto others. It is desirable to be frank and modest, but if not done well, it will give people a false feeling.Especially between two people, if you just say something like "you are much better than me", it is easy to feel ridiculed.In such a situation, you might as well use metaphors to subtly express your modesty.

Any praise and praise cannot be without reason, or because of a certain event, or because of a certain aspect of achievement.At this time, you may wish to sketch your own achievements like a painting, lightly sketching a stroke, but seeing the magic in the indifference. In the face of praise, if you say that you are worthless, not only will you not be humble, but it will give people a sense of arrogance.As the saying goes: "Excessive modesty equals pride." In real life, situations like this are not uncommon.Therefore, modesty must master a certain measure. Criticism and praise are a pair of antonyms, but they are not "enemies". When expressing one's own humility, letting them "marry" will achieve better results.That is, in the face of people's praise, you sincerely solicit their criticism, which shows your humble attitude even more.

The above-mentioned ways of expressing modesty have their own characteristics, but this does not summarize all the methods of modesty.In our social life, according to different occasions, different environments, and different communication objects, we can constantly innovate ourselves, constantly summarize and explore, and find the most suitable and appropriate way of expression.As long as you are open-minded and sincere, and strive to pursue a humble character, you will definitely win the favor of others.