Chapter 105 Humility wins respect

The Chinese often say that if you have the ability, let others talk about it.A truly successful person doesn't like to brag, because other people's eyes are much brighter than yours. In the World Boxing Championship held in March 1999, the match was judged to be a draw due to the referee's controversial decision, but anyone with a discerning eye knew that Lewis should win at a glance, and the real boxing champion should be Lewis.Holyfield's own boasting cannot change the judgment of the discerning eyes of the masses. In November 1999, Lewis and Holyfield had a rematch. After 12 rounds of fierce fighting, Lewis became the undisputed world heavyweight champion. No matter how much Holyfield boasted, it was useless.

Rather than bragging about yourself when in fact you are not, it is better to be humble and earn respect. During the American Civil War, General Grant of the Northern Army and General Lee of the Confederate Army confronted each other. After an unprecedented bloody battle, the Confederate Army was completely defeated. . After General Grant made great achievements, did he become extravagant and arrogant?No.He is a big man with a big heart and a clear mind, and he would never commit such an irrational behavior. He said humbly: "General Li is a person worthy of our admiration. Although he was defeated and captured, his attitude was still very calm. Compared with his six-foot-tall stature, a short guy like me is a little It pales in comparison. He is still wearing a brand new and complete military uniform, with a precious sword awarded to him by the government on his waist; but I only wear a set of uniforms worn by ordinary soldiers, except that there is an extra line on the clothes that represents lieutenant generals. It's just a title stripe."

General Grant not only praised General Lee's demeanor, but also did not underestimate his record.He believed that both his success and General Lee's failure were caused by chance.He said: "The outcome of this match was decided by a very fortuitous circumstance. At that time, the enemy army encountered rainy weather almost every day in Virginia, so that they had to fight in the quagmire. On the contrary, wherever our army went Here, the weather is good almost every day, and it is very convenient to march, and there are many places where it often rains a day or two after our army leaves, what is it if it is not luck!"

General Grant attributed a great victory that determined the final fate to the weather and fate, which just shows that he has sufficient self-knowledge and has never let his reason be buried by the desire for fame and fortune. Someone once said: "The more he dislikes receiving praise from others, the more he knows that his success is insignificant." It is far better to speak modest words and hear them in others' ears than to boast. Only those who have doubts about their achievements like to brag in front of others to cover up their flaws.A truly successful person does not need to brag or show off, because others will see and remember your achievements and successes more clearly than you.

Perhaps you think that General Grant's self-effacing is worthy of admiration, but General Lee, as a defeated general, actually held his head high and his chest neatly dressed, which seems a little bit proud?In fact, it is not the case. Although General Li was defeated, he still endured humiliation calmly. This is where he is brave and resolute.He did this to show that he took failure as an experience, not a shame, that he could still stand up and fight for glory if he was given another chance.Therefore, he still has the demeanor of a great soldier.The reason why he has the opposite attitude to Grant is not because he is unwilling to be modest, but because the environment they are in is different.

If you often get carried away by trivial things, accepting other people's praise, patting yourself on the shoulder as a great thing, then you are deceiving yourself, just like those audiences who are deceived by magic .From then on, you will be on the road to failure, because you have no self-knowledge, how can there be any hope of success when a blind man rides a blind horse? In fact, as long as we think carefully, we know that 99% of our successes are actually due to opportunities. We should see these opportunities clearly and prepare for the future if the same thing happens. Know how to cope when these opportunities are lacking.

There is a famous saying in Europe: "The more people like to be praised, the less capable they are." Conversely, we can also say: "The more capable a person is, the less he needs to be praised by others."