Chapter 97 Solve problems with praise

In work and life, people often encounter various problems: offending someone accidentally, wanting to ask someone to do something but being rejected, persuading someone is difficult, etc. At this time, use the method of praise, It's a good way to solve the problem. In ancient times, an official named Peng Yulin once passed a narrow alley.A woman was using a bamboo pole to dry her clothes when she accidentally dropped the pole and hit Peng on the head.Peng Boran was furious, pointed at the woman and began to curse. When the woman saw that it was Peng Yulin who hit her, she couldn't help breaking out in a cold sweat.But she suddenly had a quick wit, and said seriously: "Your tone is like a martial artist, so you are so arrogant and unreasonable. Do you know Mr. Peng is in our place! He is honest and upright. If I go to tell him the old man, I'm afraid He's going to chop off your head!"

When Peng Yulin heard the woman praise him, he couldn't help beaming with joy, and instantly realized his gaffe, and immediately left calmly. It's not "face-to-face" praise, but it's better than "face-to-face" praise. Peng Yulin is very happy: he has such a good reputation as an official among the people, and he should never damage his image because of these trivial things.After realizing it, I had no choice but to turn my anger into a smile, and left calmly. The woman used "indirect" praise to avoid punishment.It shows his agility. If you use the way of praise when asking for help, it is also a good method.

Fang Ming has a tricky job that he can't do alone.He wants to ask Li Chun for help, because Li Chun has a lot of research in this area.But how to speak? Fang Ming approached Li Chun and said, "Xiao Li, I have a plan here, and I really can't handle it by myself, can you help me?" Li Chun looked distressed: "I'm also quite busy these days, why don't you see if other people are free, such as Lao Zheng?" Fang Ming said: "Xiao Li, this project really won't work without your help." Seeing Fang Ming's sincerity, Li Chun agreed to Fang Ming's request and helped him complete the work plan in order to live up to his good reputation.

When we ask someone to do something, we have to elevate the other person a little bit, a little bit higher.Only in this way will the other party feel that it is meaningful to do things for you, and under the "good feelings are hard to turn down", they will naturally do things for you.After the other party finishes their work, don't forget to thank them, otherwise no one will be willing to help you in the future. When persuading someone who is difficult to persuade, you can also use praise to persuade. As a result of the Chu-Han War, Liu Bang defeated Xiang Yu. Liu Bang was naturally very proud, and often asked his ministers why he could defeat Xiang Yu.The ministers all understood Liu Bang's psychology of "the winner is king" very well, so they all admired his talent.Liu Bang gradually developed complacency, and his enthusiasm for governing gradually slackened.

Once, after Liu Bang fell ill, he lay in the palace all day, ordered not to see anyone, and ignored the government.Many veterans who had followed him for many years could not find a way to persuade him. The general Fan Kuai came up with a way to break into the palace to appeal. He first praised Liu Bang's past loudly: "I think back then, when Your Majesty and us set up an army to rule the world in Pei County, what a hero! Shared joys and sorrows, defeated Xiang Yu, and established the great cause of the Han Dynasty." A few words aroused Liu Bang's pride in his glorious history, and then Fan Kui changed the subject: "Now the world is set for the first time, and a lot of waste is waiting to be done, and your majesty is so decadent. The ministers are all worried about your majesty's illness. Your majesty But you don’t see the ministers, ignore the state affairs, and get close to the eunuchs alone, don’t you remember Zhao Gao’s lesson of harming the country?”

Fan Kuai's heartfelt words finally awakened Liu Bang.After that, Liu Bang concentrated on state affairs and implemented the national policy of recuperating and recuperating, which laid the foundation for the prosperity of the Han Dynasty. Here, Fan Kui first praised Liu Bang's brilliant achievements and hard-working style during the war, and then subtly criticized Liu Bang's current decadence and slack. The combination of praise and criticism finally achieved the goal of persuading Liu Bang to be diligent. It can be seen that timely and appropriate praise is better than all other beautiful words.

How do you deal with people who are against you?Through the way of praise, you can dissolve his dissatisfaction with you.Didn't Lin Xiangru make Lian Po feel guilty through decent praise? What do you do when you face someone who threatens your abilities?Use compliments.Back then, Michael Jordan was a super basketball elite, but he told others that his teammate Pippen was more talented than him in shooting three-pointers, and that Pippen was also better than himself in dunking.Pippen is obviously the most promising rookie to surpass Jordan, but Jordan praises him everywhere.On the one hand, it reflects his courage to challenge himself, and on the other hand, it is also a manifestation of Jordan's self-confidence.

If you are a person of noble character, you might as well try to praise a colleague who is competing with you from the bottom of your heart, and even recommend an employee who may be above you to the boss. A high level of praise. 1. Praise should see clearly the object.Facing a person who doesn't like to be flattered, your compliments are too much, and it will make people think you are hypocritical. 2. To praise, you must pick out the "points" that are worthy of "praise" with special vision. Only in this way can you receive the "finishing" "laughing" fruit.

3. A humble person does not necessarily have nothing to praise.And those with shining halos need to find places beyond their halos and develop new "sparkling points". 4. Don't miss the opportunity, if the time never comes, praise should also seize the opportunity. 5. Praise also needs to calculate the consequences and costs: you must also be able to shoot flattery, don't shoot on the horse's leg, and you will be kicked even if you don't talk about it.