Chapter 95 Contains but does not reveal the superior

Subtle flattery is also a technique of praise.For a boss, the best flattery is to do everything possible to satisfy him. This cannot be achieved by flattery. You should understand the boss' intentions in advance, and provide your own plans and ideas to the boss on appropriate occasions.If you have a good idea, you don't have to rush to put it forward, otherwise it will easily cause jealousy and rejection from colleagues, and even cause anxiety to your boss, fearing that your ability will pose a threat to him.It's better to talk about the idea to the boss, let it become the boss's idea and put it into practice by the boss. In this way, the colleagues will live in peace, and the boss will be happy and appreciate you more.

Sometimes complimenting your boss in person can backfire.But if your boss is not present, if you praise your boss’s extraordinary talents and personality charm to your colleagues or close people, when they convey these words to your boss, your praise will appear sincere and natural, and the effect will not be overstated. And metaphor.It is not enough to just talk without practice, the most important thing is to put it into action, so that the boss can be truly moved.You must learn the words and deeds of your boss sincerely, cultivate the same preferences as your boss, and let him feel that you are the same type of person, so that it is easy to have a sense of intimacy psychologically.As a subordinate, using the mouth of others to praise the superior can increase the authenticity of the words of praise.

You can grasp a place in the boss's opinion that you agree with, and give affirmation and appreciation.Praising your boss implicitly will increase your relationship with your boss and shorten the distance with your boss.Praising the boss is the recognition, support and praise of the boss, and it is also the "lubricant" for the relationship between the subordinates and the boss.There is no boss who doesn't like to hear compliments.The boss is the "captain" of the team and needs everyone's encouragement and applause. However, although some people have always been "active" in praising their bosses, they don't pay attention to the method. Not only do the bosses not like to hear it, they don't accept it, but even their colleagues feel disgusted when they hear it.This requires you to grasp the skills of praise when you praise your boss.

So, how do you compliment your boss implicitly? When praising your boss, you can use both direct and indirect praise. Direct praise mainly refers to "speaking directly" to the superior personally and praising in person.For example, just after the boss finished the report, he took the initiative to ask you about your impression of the report, then you can use appropriate language to give direct praise based on facts, and pay attention to come up with specific explanations as arguments to support your praise, and never use "" Words like "nice" and "great" will do the trick.

For example, a certain city held a tourism on-site meeting. The leader in charge of tourism used to be engaged in the work of Chinese education. In his speech, the leader quoted extensively from many sources, and his language was very humorous. Everyone thought his speech was of a high level and reflected the actual situation of the city's tourism work. After the meeting, the leader asked a reporter who was interviewing him: "How about my speech today? How did the audience respond?" The reporter replied: "Your speech today is very accurate. The situation has been introduced to everyone, and the prospect of future development has been shown to everyone, and we are all very encouraged!"

The leader was relieved by the reporter's well-timed praise.This is easier to accept than direct compliments such as "Your speech is really good!" "Your speech is wonderful!" and so on.For such praise does not seem hollow. Indirect praise can also be used when praising the boss face to face.Taking the above story as an example, the reporter can pass on everyone's reaction after listening to the report to the boss, which is indirect praise. It is best to praise the boss in a "public" tone, and at the same time incorporate your own praise into it. For example: a manuscript by editor-in-chief Liu of a newspaper was published in the newspaper, and Xiao Zhang praised without losing the opportunity: "Editor-in-chief Liu, everyone is learning. As for your report, we all think that your reporting angle is unique, and we all want to ask you for your secrets." Editor-in-Chief Liu was very happy after hearing this.

When praising your boss, you should use "neutral" words as much as possible, and you must not abuse adjectives and adverbs.Be sincere and sincere.If you say "most, most, most" and shut up "very, very, very", it will inevitably make your boss feel that you are exaggerating, and that you are more vain and insincere.For example, a leader often writes speeches by himself, and occasionally when the secretary prepares the manuscript for him, he also tells the secretary the "path" of the manuscript in advance for the writer's reference.Therefore, the secretary often said to him: "As a leader like you, we are almost unemployed. People say that writing manuscripts is hard work, but writing manuscripts for you is a beautiful job." Because of the appropriate praise, this leader every time Accepted happily every time.If the secretary said: "You are really capable! No other leader can compare to you." Then the leader must not accept it, and the praise will naturally not have good results.

When it comes to complimenting your boss, it's important to praise what your boss really cares about.If your boss doesn't care about things, you will inevitably be hated if you praise them endlessly.There are many things that the boss deserves to praise: the first public speech of the new boss; the decision made by the boss that has been proved to be completely correct; Wait.These are often things that the boss cares about and can be properly praised. Director Li of a certain bureau likes to drive, often drives by himself, and is willing to talk about his driving skills.Once, the driver Xiao Zhang accidentally twisted his waist while driving, Director Li let Xiao Zhang take the car and drove by himself.At that time, it was the rush hour for vehicles and the traffic was heavy on the road, but Director Li drove steadily and not slowly. At this moment, Xiao Zhang said, "Director, I never thought that your driving skills are so good, and you can drive so fast under such circumstances. Better than a professional driver." This sincere compliment made Director Li very happy, and he praised Xiao Zhang for his vision.

Compliments in front of your boss' relatives capture what they have in common.For example: Li Jun visited the director's house as a guest, and the director and his wife warmly received him, so Li Jun seized on the enthusiasm and hospitality of the director and his wife in handling interpersonal relationships and praised them greatly.In front of the leader's superiors, you must prudently praise your leader, and don't mix right and wrong into it, which is self-defeating.In social situations, praise your boss for concise language.To play the role of sales leadership. In short, praise to the boss should be moderate and vary according to his personality and hobbies.Of course, as a subordinate, don't be complacent about being able to praise your boss, and don't worry about not being familiar with it.Because, the key to the success or failure of your career is not whether you will praise or not.