Chapter 57 meet good friends

The Chinese have always valued friendship.The ancients had a friendship oath of "although they were not born in the same year, the same month and the same day, but they are willing to die in the same year, the same month and the same day".He also attaches great importance to the loyalty of "putting a knife in both sides of a friend".However, it is often "friends" who hurt you. How do we make real friends and reject bad friends? "Acquaintances are all over the world, and how many people can be acquainted with them" refers to the preciousness of intimate friends.In communication, it is very important to make more friends. An encouraging look or a harsh advice from him will arouse your self-confidence.That self-confidence can make you understand a lot of truths, and it will definitely double your gains and gradually lead you to success.

Once upon a time, the son of a rich man made many wine and meat friends. Those so-called good friends often went to the rich man's house to eat and drink, and they still regarded themselves as good friends of the rich man's son.The rich man saw that these people were not his son's real good friends, so he often persuaded his son to stay away from these people.However, the son considers these friends to be good friends.The rich man figured out a way to get his son to pretend to have killed someone, and ask his friends for help. As a result, all the friends of the rich man's son ran away, and some of them gloated.

The father said to his son: "I have only made one and a half friends in my life, one is a friend, and the other is a half friend. You can go to the house of my one and a half friends." The rich man's son first went to what his father called "half friends". "'s family, still pretending to kill someone, "half a friend" gave the rich man's son a large sum of money to help him escape, and promised not to report him.The rich man's son went to "a friend"'s house again, only to see that "a friend" changed the rich man's son's clothes, and warned the rich man's son to be a good man in the future, and let his own son take the place of the rich man's son.

It can be seen that "half a friend" will help you and will not hurt you; "a friend" will disregard everything in order to help you and save you, even if he sacrifices his own life.Making good friends is very important.Making a good friend will benefit your whole life, making a bad friend will bring disaster to your life.Of course, in modern society, as a friend of a friend, we should not demand too much from our friends. In some cases, we should also put ourselves in the shoes of our friends.Sometimes it's not that he refuses to help, but that his ability is limited.Some friends are poor, but they give everything when you need help.Some friends are rich, but when you need help, they are just mean.Here you can see the gold content of "friends".

The most taboo in interpersonal communication is being courteous. Neither humble nor overbearing is the primary principle of communication, because self-esteem is the primary attraction in communication. If you abandon self-esteem to please others, you will definitely not get respect from others. In fact, the term "friends with wine and meat" has existed for a long time. The ancients disdain this kind of friendship based on eating and drinking, but many modern people are just proud of it.In fact, no matter what the nature of communication is, it is a process in which individuals with their own characteristics express themselves.In the process of displaying, one's own personality strength is appreciated by others, and when two people appreciate each other, friendship is born.

You know, banquets are just one way to make friends, and there are many ways to make friends.A chance encounter on the street can lead to a close friend, acquaintance sitting next to each other can also make a friendship, and even a fight between enemies can "strike" a friendship without knowing each other. Wine and meat can help us make friends, but those who only rely on wine and meat are definitely not true friends. It takes time to form a deep friendship with a friend.Even if you grew up together, you may feel like strangers if you don't contact each other for several years.Because society is changing and people are also changing, infrequent communication will definitely create estrangement.Therefore, the number of friends should be good and not too many. You should carefully make some like-minded friends, and you must have a certain emotional foundation and be able to help each other, not based on pure interests.

Some friends in life need to be in touch more, because these friends are bosom friends who have shared experiences and have passed the test of time. You need to leave a certain amount of time and energy to deepen friendship.This part of friends is the most reliable, because there is no conflict of interest between you, it is the purest friendship, and they can help you at any time. When making friends, you must be cautious and have a certain ability to identify.When interacting with a person, you should judge what is the motivation of the other party to associate with you, whether they value you or others. If you only value your money, status or other interests, then you don't need to have a deep friendship.If you can form mutual benefit and reciprocity, of course, you might as well communicate.

For friends, you don't need to greet every day, but care about them every day.But after all, when a friend is in trouble, he must try his best to help.And your friends who are in trouble will definitely help you out. Get along with friends, on the premise of talking about the way of friends, you can get along with different friends according to their psychological needs, personality characteristics, hobbies, etc. according to individual conditions.