Chapter 51 Clever identification of roles, successful communication

Everyone plays multiple roles in life, and the relationship between roles is different, and the way of speaking is different.For example, if it’s the same praise, you can praise your friends sincerely, but you should praise your leaders implicitly and moderately, otherwise you will be regarded as “flattering”. to praise.Therefore, identifying social role relationships is very important for communication. The role relationship in communication can be divided into six categories according to the source of the relationship: The relationship between blood roles, that is, the relationship between two characters connected by blood relatives, such as mother-daughter relationship, father-son relationship, sister relationship, brother relationship, brother-sister relationship, sister-sister relationship, etc.

The relationship between marriage roles, that is, the relationship between two roles linked together by marriage.Such as the relationship between husband and wife, sister-in-law, brother-in-law, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, son-in-law, etc. The relationship between love characters, that is, the relationship between two characters that are connected together due to affection, such as love relationship, friendship relationship, etc. The relationship between karmic roles, that is, the relationship between two roles that are linked together due to occupations, such as the relationship of colleagues and peers.

The relationship between geographical roles, that is, the relationship formed by the region as the link, such as the relationship between hometowns. The relationship between academic predestined roles, that is, the relationship between two roles linked by studies.Such as teacher-student relationship, classmate relationship, teacher-brother relationship, etc. In communication, we must not only pay attention to judging the relationship between us and others when we face these people alone, but also pay attention to judging the relationship between the several conversation partners we face, and judging the nature of the conversation. character relationship.Only by accurately and clearly judging these relationships can the conversation proceed smoothly.

There are many characters and complex relationships in the novel. If you don't pay attention to the relationship between the characters when speaking, you may offend people.Therefore, many smart people pay great attention to the relationship between the roles of the audience, grasp the measure, and speak skillfully when communicating.For example, in the fifty-sixth chapter, Wang Xifeng, who was in charge of the internal affairs of Jia's house, was recuperating due to illness, so Mrs. Wang had to let Tanchun and Li Wan take care of the housework, with Xue Baochai assisting.Tanchun put forward the idea of ​​strengthening management and saving expenses, and everyone agreed.What should Pinger say at this time?As Wang Xifeng's confidant, he had to uphold the prestige of his master, and he also had to praise Tanchun's ability; he had to agree with him, but he also had to consider the difficulties and contradictions in implementing the new regulations.If you don't think about it, it will be revealed that your master didn't think of this good idea, so Ping'er said: "This matter must be told by the girl. Although our grandma has this intention, it may not be easy to say it. At this moment, the girl We live in the garden, so we can't make more things to set it off, but ask people to supervise and repair it in order to save money. It's hard to say this." Ping'er is indeed scheming and eloquent, no wonder Xue Baochai praised her: " Worry about the future, be neither humble nor overbearing."

We should not only pay attention to the impact of the relationship between communicative roles on communication from a horizontal perspective, but also pay attention to changes in the relationship between roles from a vertical and historical perspective, and adjust communication strategies in a timely manner. After Zhu Yuanzhang became emperor, the bitter friends who played with him since childhood came to him for help. One said after seeing Zhu Yuanzhang: "Long live my emperor! Back then, my ministers accompanied me to raid the Luzhou mansion and smashed the Guanzhou city. Marshal Tang was at large. He captured General Dou and Honghaier was in charge. Thanks to the general."

After hearing this, Zhu Yuanzhang was very happy, so he made him the chief of the Imperial Forest Army. After another bitter friend heard about this, he also wanted to ask Zhu Yuanzhang for an official position.When he saw Zhu Yuanzhang, he said like beans poured out of a bamboo tube: "Long live my emperor! Do you remember? You and I used to herd cattle for others. One day we put the stolen beans in an earthen pot in the reed bushes. Cooked, before it was cooked, everyone rushed to grab it. As a result, the pot broke, scattered beans all over the ground, and the soup splashed in the mud. You just picked up beans and ate them, and accidentally stuffed the red grass leaves into your mouth. The leaves It’s choked in your throat, and it hurts badly. Fortunately, I came up with an idea to tell you to swallow the leaves of green vegetables, so that you brought the leaves of red grass into your stomach..."

Zhu Yuanzhang heard these disrespectful words in the hall, and before he finished speaking, he shouted: "Push it out and behead it!" Two poor friends narrated the same incident. As a result, one became a high-ranking official and the other lost his life.In the final analysis, the former noticed that due to the relationship of time, the roles have changed before and after, from the original begging friends to the relationship between the emperor and the poor.The emperor naturally had to take his own face into consideration, so he could not bluntly publicize the experience of "sharing joys and sorrows" in public, but cleverly borrowed poems to establish the title of "general" for the emperor, and took the opportunity to praise the emperor's "bravery".Can the emperor be unhappy with this kind of statement that gives the emperor a face?However, the latter ignored the changes in each other's roles, and still regarded the emperor as a begging friend back then, hoping to make the emperor sympathize with him by "remembering bitterness and thinking about sweetness", but in the end he hurt the emperor's face and was killed.

You have to be careful about the relationship between characters.