Chapter 49 Persuasion by breaking out from the side

Empress Wende had been buried, and Emperor Taizong of Tang built a temple with several floors in the Forbidden Garden, so that he could climb up and look at Zhaoling, because Empress Wende was buried there.One day, he took Wei Zheng to the temple together.Wei Zheng looked at it for a long time, and said: "The old minister is too dim to see." Tang Taizong showed him with his finger.Wei Zheng said: "Is this Zhaoling Mausoleum?" Tang Taizong said: "Yes." Wei Zheng said: "I thought your Majesty was looking at Xianling Mausoleum. If you were looking at Zhaoling Mausoleum, then I would have seen it a long time ago." When Taizong heard this, he felt deeply ashamed, cried bitterly, and immediately ordered the temple to be destroyed.

When Tang Taizong fell into the pain of losing his queen, he climbed Zhaoling all day long, living in the memory of the past, depressed, full of longing for the queen, and also revealed the loneliness and hopelessness deep in his heart.Once or twice is fine, if things go on like this, it will definitely affect the country and safety.Wei Zheng dared to remonstrate, and expressed his subjects' expectations of the emperor in a clever way, hoping that Tang Taizong would put the overall situation first, look at Xianling instead of Zhaoling, and care about the country regardless of personal feelings.In the end, Tang Taizong felt ashamed of his behavior, immediately destroyed the temple, showed his determination and attitude, inherited and carried forward the great achievements of Tang Gaozu, and finally had the rule of Zhenguan.In this story, Wei Zheng did not directly advise Taizong how to do things, did not go straight to the point, but used insinuations to express the thoughts of his courtiers, which made Tang Taizong feel ashamed when he realized his mistakes.

Positive persuasion often makes people feel rebellious, and if persuasion fails, it often backfires.At this time, you may wish to change your strategy, find another way, change the method of persuasion, and open the gap from the side, which may be able to get twice the result with half the effort.This is the so-called "the east is not bright and the west is bright".In life, the persuasion method of insinuating is also often used. Dutch physicist Peter Zeeman was very playful in his first year of college, and his physics performance was not good, so he was called a swinger.His mother was very sad about it.She advised her son, not simply to preach, but to tell the past about his hometown: the hometown is located on a peninsula on the west coast of the Netherlands, which has been submerged by the sea since ancient times. At midnight on May 24, 1860, the hometown was invaded by the sea again. A pregnant woman drifted on a lone boat for several days and nights, and gave birth to a boy——Peter Zeeman.Thanks to the rescue of the villagers, the mother and son were safe and sound.Then, Zeeman's mother said sadly: "I knew that Zeeman was a mediocre person, and I didn't have to work hard in the waves." After hearing what his mother said, Zeeman was extremely ashamed.From then on, he got rid of bad habits, studied hard, and finally won the Nobel Prize in Physics.

The insinuating method generally uses the relationship between people as the medium, uses the other party's interest and attention to something as a breakthrough, and lists similar things to "attack the heart". For a while, you once promised a treat to your friend, probably because you were too busy with work to make time to honor your promise. One day your friend deliberately pretended to be unintentional and said to you: "I have a classmate in elementary school. I really want to invite me, but there has been no movement." What does this mean?He is insinuating, so that the listener feels that there is something in the words, and there is sound outside the strings.Intentionally come to "knock" you to deliver on your promises.