Chapter 44 stir up reverse

Once a person is instructed or ordered, he will instinctively resist.The application of this kind of rebellious psychology is also a good aggressive method.For some people, if you forbid him to do certain things, he can't help wanting to do them, especially stubborn people.On the contrary, if you let it go and say "just do it", the other party will not obey, or become suspicious, and finally stop doing it.If you understand this truth, you will be able to manipulate people's hearts on many occasions with ease. If it is said to let the child "study hard", he will not want to study; once he is reminded that "minors are not allowed to smoke", he will want to secretly smoke.In this case, you might as well use his rebellious psychology to implement aggressive methods on him.

There is a gifted educator who is best at dealing with children who don't like to practice piano.When teaching children to practice the violin, the most common problem is that children do not work hard. This educator has a special medicine, just a sentence: "I think you must not be able to do this well, because your skills You're worse than others, so you don't want to practice." The strange thing is that most children will act spontaneously after hearing this sentence. Didn't you say that I am inferior to others, I just want to do things that I am not inferior to others to show you.This educator used the children's rebellious psychology to motivate these children's determination to practice well.

This kind of provocative method is essentially irony, but in terms of purpose, it is different from ordinary irony: ordinary irony is to express a negative attitude and make the other party's actions consistent with one's own negative attitude.On the other hand, the anti-flash general is speaking ironically on the surface. In fact, he wants the opponent's actions to be inconsistent with his own opposing attitude, but to do things in the opposite direction.For example, when speaking ironically, "you can't do it" means "you can't do it"; and a reverse flyback will say that the other party "can't do it", but actually wants the other party to "must do it".It is worth noting that when using a counter-aggressive general, it will only take effect if you do it quietly, and you must not let the other party understand your true intentions.If the other party understands that you are provoking him, what else can you sing? !Therefore, we must "excite" quietly.

After the failure of Napoleon's war of aggression against Russia in 1812, Russia, Britain, Prussia and other countries formed an anti-French allied force and began to invade.Although Napoleon won some battles, the general trend went from bad to worse.France's ally, Austria, while actively preparing for war, threatened to stop the alliance and put forward various conditions, which Napoleon flatly refused. In July 1813, Napoleon met with the Austrian envoy Metternich at the Margold Palace in Dresden.He wanted to take this opportunity to threaten Metternich and to find out the results of his recent talks with the Tsar.

With his sword hanging from his waist and his hat under his arm, Napoleon received Metternich in a dignified manner.After saying a few polite words and greeting Emperor Francis, his face sank and he went straight to the point: "So you also want to fight. Well, you fought the war. I have already defeated Russia at Bautzen, and now You hope it's your turn. So be it if you like it, see you in Vienna. Nature is irreversible, and experience has no effect on you. I have put Emperor Francis back on the throne three times. I promise to be with him forever I lived in peace. I married his daughter. I said to myself at the time: 'You did something stupid.' But you did it anyway, and now I regret it."

Metternich saw that his opponent was angry, and forgot his own dignity.So he became more and more calm, and deliberately stimulated Napoleon, the aggressive "bison".He reminded Napoleon: "Peace depends on you. Your power must be reduced to a reasonable limit, or you will collapse in future struggles." No matter how powerful the army is, he can win.He went on to say that he had accurate knowledge of the Austrian army, received detailed information on it every day, etc. Metternich interrupted him to remind Napoleon that his soldiers today were not adults but children.Napoleon replied excitedly: "You don't understand what a soldier thinks. People like me don't care much about the lives of a million people." After speaking, he threw his hat aside.Metternich did not pick it up for him.

Napoleon, noticing the silent contempt, went on: "I married a princess in order to combine the old and the new, the prejudices of the Middle Ages with the institutions of my century. That was lying to myself, and now I am fully aware of my mistakes. Maybe my throne will collapse because of this, but I will bury the world in ruins." Metternich was indifferent. Napoleon failed to intimidate, so he switched to sweet words to coax and win over.When he sent Metternich away, he patted the Austrian minister on the shoulder and said calmly: "Well, you know what will happen? You won't start a war with me!"

Metternich immediately replied: "Your Majesty, you are finished. I had this hunch when I came, and I was sure when I went." Later he said to others: "He explained everything clearly to me. This man has everything It's over." Soon, Austria joined the ranks of the Sixth Coalition against France. Obviously, in this contest, the winner is Hytner. The commander-in-chief Napoleon, who has always been known for his unpredictable maneuvers, couldn't control his anger.On the contrary, Metternich was able to deal with things calmly, fulfilled his mission, and lost no time in angering Napoleon with words, exposing his inner world.

Metternich didn't have many words, but he expressed his views on European peace, which depended on Napoleon; the second also concluded that Napoleon was stubborn and unwilling to adapt. Under the joint European attack, his fate of failure is doomed.The later result was really what Metternich said. Napoleon may also have used the strategy of aggressive tactics, but he became angry first and followed Metternich's advice. The key point of using the reverse psychological provocation method is: for other people's unpredictable words, you have to pretend to be dismissive, secretly speculate on the other person's psychology, and quietly lead the secret to their tongues, once the other person's head is hot , they will spit out recklessly, and finally fall into your carefully and skillfully designed net.