Chapter 24 Cleverly circumvent unspoken rules

Although Chen Jia really wanted to have his spare time, he also knew the power of the "hidden rules".Whenever he heard his colleagues going to eat, drink, and sing together after get off work, he fell into a dilemma.According to his personal wishes, he doesn't want to go at all. He just wants to go home and have a good rest, read a book, listen to music, and quietly enjoy the fun of being alone and meditating.But he knew that his colleagues would make fun of him if he brought up these thoughts as a reason to decline.So he suppressed his will, obeyed the pattern of his colleagues, and spent one night after another eating, drinking and having fun amidst the noise and laughter.

He became more and more unhappy, and hated himself more and more. He wanted to change this disgusting way of communication, and wanted to say "no" to his colleagues loudly, but he couldn't muster the courage.He even felt like a dog being led around. While unspoken rules are everywhere, not all "hidden rules" require full-time commitment.Like Chen Jia, if he knows that he can choose one or two entertainment methods that he likes or suits to "have fun" with his colleagues, he can also not violate the "hidden rules" and win everyone's approval, and at the same time, he will not waste money. own time.

There was a bookish young man who went into business.Friends say that he is not suitable for business: he does not smoke, does not drink, does not know how to make connections, does not bargain with others, etc. It seems that he has none of the qualifications that a businessman should possess.But what surprised everyone was that after a difficult period of silence, his company was booming in business and making a lot of money.He said: "I only did the most basic things. Treat people with sincerity, keep promises and keep promises, and ensure quality. At first, customers were not used to it, but now they like dealing with me. It saves worry and effort and is practical."

Some things that are customary or what everyone is used to may not be completely correct, and may not be suitable for you. As long as you think you are right, why not stick to it? Once seeking approval, approval, and appreciation from others becomes a need and becomes a habit over time, it is difficult to maintain yourself and gradually improve.No one will want to be honest with you if you insist on being complimented by others and show it regularly.Although some people will dedicate their words of praise, they may not have any good feelings for you in their hearts.As a result, you can't clearly express your own ideas, and it is not worth giving up your views or even sacrificing your own value in order to cater to the views and preferences of others.

The habit of seeking approval from others is tantamount to giving up on yourself.Therefore, no matter when, don't give up on yourself. If you give up on yourself, you will not only lose the opportunity to achieve yourself, but your life will also lose its meaning. Nowadays, the family status and social network of some college students may put them in a disadvantageous position in the employment competition. They are troubled by the "hidden rules" of employment in these social realities, so that they cannot find employment well and fairly. Chance.So, can they just stay at home?the answer is negative!In modern enterprises, many jobs are technical positions. It is far from enough to rely on family background for these positions, and what is more needed is solid technical skills.

Therefore, in today's social reality where the "hidden rules" of college students' employment are very common, for those college students who are far from the "hidden rules", it is an opportunity to study hard and get along with others sincerely. , After laying down these two basic skills, you can avoid all kinds of unreasonable "hidden rules" in employment! 1. Pay attention to laws and regulations.Although it will not be explicitly written in the article, its influence is greater than the article. 2. Don't break the unspoken rules, follow the unspoken rules and deal with them wisely.

3. There are many twists and turns in the unspoken rules. You should always pay attention to everything, ask more reliable people for advice, accumulate more experience, and understand it thoroughly. 4. The "distance" in the unspoken rules is often not the "distance" in the sense of space, but the "psychological" distance between each other.Only by grasping the degree of this distance can you play well in the unspoken rules. 5. It is not impossible to have true feelings in the unspoken rules, it depends on how to let the other party perceive your true feelings.