Chapter 23 Detect unspoken rules in the workplace

Unspoken rules are everywhere.In the workplace, unspoken rules also affect the comings and goings of all beings in the workplace.Therefore, if you want to make your communication go smoothly in the workplace, you must pay attention to grasp these unspoken rules. Xiao Zhang works very hard.Work overtime every day, the first to arrive at the company, and the last to leave.However, when the leader praised him for his positive get off work, the faces of several other colleagues who left work on time after finishing their work showed a trace of displeasure; He did it, but he didn't notice the embarrassment that flashed in the eyes of his colleagues; he attended the company seminar, and when others gave only a few suggestions, he talked passionately, and he didn't notice the suspicious and hostile eyes Shooting at him at the same time.

He worked so hard, but in the personal evaluation at the end of the year, everyone gave him a very low score. Here, he violated two unspoken rules of workplace communication: one is to pursue individual performance while ignoring collective cooperation; the other is to emphasize active participation while ignoring the duty of humility of newcomers.This kind of person who only sees himself and has no colleagues who "seeks to lose alone" can only be "lost". In the workplace, it is very important to mingle with colleagues. It is a normal way of leisure to take advantage of the opportunity of karaoke or dancing to have fun together, sing love songs, and dance "hot dances".But at this time, you must pay attention to it. You can "play around" outside, and you can't bring this kind of emotion back to the office after you have a good time. Don't think that people who have danced hot dances and sung love songs with you can continue this kind of emotion with you in the office. way of communication.It is important to know that this kind of group activity is just an opportunity to relax and a way for everyone to communicate together.

In the workplace, business affairs seem to be an unwritten rule.But some people accidentally touch on "private affairs".Working in a company, the highest state is to be less involved in right and wrong, and to be safe and secure is the most true.However, there is inevitably a vague wind of privacy in the air in the company, because where people gather, there will be pervasive privacy.But privacy sometimes hurts others, and sometimes it hurts oneself.You know and publicize the leader's privacy, can your job be guaranteed?Therefore, no matter how good the relationship with the leader is, keep a distance.

Inadvertently knowing other people's privacy is the most common thing in daily life. Some people regard this as groundless, shake their heads and continue to go their own way and do their own things, and some people get caught up in it out of curiosity and don't care about it. I never get tired of it, as if my ordinary life has become complicated and confusing because of the wall of privacy, but I was hit by the wall unexpectedly. To stay away from privacy is to stay away from right and wrong, and it is the best policy to avoid being provoked. Some private matters cannot be said, but there is no harm in talking about some innocuous personal matters.For example, your boyfriend or girlfriend's work unit, education, age, personality, etc.; if you are married and have children, others will talk about your lover and children with you.After work, these can be chatted by the way, they can enhance understanding and deepen relationship.Of course, what to say and how to say it depends on the company's culture.Some company cultures don't like short-handed ways of communicating and exchanging feelings. It's better to exercise restraint in personal matters.

The explicit rules tell our colleagues to help each other, unite and love each other, but the unspoken rules say not to regard colleagues as "just in time" when borrowing money.Because once you borrow and fail to pay back the money, there will be conflicts and news that is not good for you.Not only affect the relationship between colleagues, but also affect their image among colleagues. "Colleagues" are "revolutionary comrades" who come together for the purpose of earning money and work. Although they have more warmth than strangers, they do not have the morality of helping each other like friends. They left the office. , Didn't they all scatter and run things?So if you don't want your relationship with your colleagues to be misaligned or sour, don't borrow money from your colleagues.

Chatting among colleagues can enhance mutual understanding and has a positive meaning.But small talk is not all about any topic. Try not to tell dirty jokes or jokes about sexuality in the workplace.Especially for women, they may feel offended. Don't use colleagues, especially leaders, as talking points.It's not good to spread such words to anyone. Don't make jokes about other people's performance at work. Avoid talking about religion, race, nationality, etc. It is best not to say these words that are not conducive to your workplace communication. Some people prefer to whisper and "whisper" with one or two people.There are often several people in the same office, and you should try to maintain a balance with each of them, and don't be particularly close or alienated to one or two of them.In normal times, don't always whisper to a fixed person, and don't always go in and out with him (them).Otherwise, you may get closer to each other, but there are more people who are alienated by you.Some people thought you were engaging in small groups.If you often whisper to a certain person, and the other person stops talking when they come in, then others will inevitably have the idea that you are speaking ill of him.

There are also people who like to say some inappropriate words in the workplace. The following are things to pay attention to: There is another kind of person who loves to inquire about secrets, and always inquires here and there.People who can say it will say it themselves, and those who can't say it don't dig it.Everyone has their own secrets.Sometimes, people accidentally leak the secrets in their hearts, so don't inquire about it, and don't try to find out. You know, the unspoken rule in the workplace is: always be on guard against those who can't control their mouths and ears.

Xiao Li, a newcomer to a certain company, found that: Xiao Wang, the secretary at the front desk, was busy with "fashion shows" all day long;Xiao Li, who has excellent grades, is naturally unconvinced: Why let these idlers stay in the company!Isn't their existence exploiting the blood and sweat of our working people?As a result, Xiao Li offended these two colleagues who "eat idle food" a lot. Xiao Li told this experience to a close colleague.The colleague said: "Xiao Wang's uncle has extensive social connections, and many departments have to ask him for help. Logistics Xiao Zhang's aunt is one of the investors."

Now Xiao Li opened his mouth wide. The boss is not a fool, and will never let people get white-collared wages for no reason. Those mediocre colleagues who seem to be doing nothing may take on the glorious task of firefighters. At critical moments, the boss still needs them to rush forward.So, don't make trouble with them, in fact, you can't afford to offend them. When invited by the boss to dinner, generally do not bring companions, unless specifically stated.When you accept an invitation from your boss, don't tell your colleagues in the office, they will feel uncomfortable and even have a negative impact on your relationship with colleagues for no reason.To be treated politely by the boss, it is best to keep silent.If your boss didn't invite you in public, chances are he doesn't want others to know either.

As a subordinate, inviting your boss to dinner should be treated with caution. Even if you have a deep friendship, you should not be careless (it also depends on what kind of person your friend and boss is).It is appropriate to use a special opportunity, such as the end of a very important work (preferably within half a month after the successful completion of the task), or after you have been newly promoted, or you want to give an important suggestion to the boss, etc. . If you don't know the boss very well, wait a few years before hiring him.If you have never had the chance to get to know him well, then there is no need to invite him; otherwise, you will be embarrassed and it may not be beneficial to your future.

Should the new manager treat the boss to dinner?Working lunches are ok, there's a lot to talk about, but it always feels a bit forced.It is inappropriate to invite the boss to be a guest at home.