Chapter 13 Skillful cultivation, positive progress

Wanting to impress and infect others with your "positive" image is a good way to establish your personal image and improve your communication.A brief introduction to this is given below. Moving slower than others often gives people a negative impression of doing things.Therefore, if you want to leave a positive impression on others, you must act one step earlier than others. For example, when the phone rings, answer the phone before others; when a guest comes to the company to negotiate, go forward to receive it immediately, and so on.Although this is just a small action, it will leave a good impression of quick response and positive work.

Rolling up the sleeves of long-sleeved clothing to expose the wrists can give people an energetic and positive impression.I heard that young women tend to have a good impression of men who roll up their sleeves and do things.It is understood that not only young women, but anyone who rolls up their sleeves and does things will have a good impression! It will make you appear more powerful, and it does make you feel more powerful yourself. In some speeches, because the speaker takes a long time to speak, the organizer will specially prepare chairs for the speaker to sit and speak.In such a situation, you can decline the other party's kindness.

why?Because the same speech content, the effect of standing and sitting is completely different.Taking the performance of a singer on stage as an example, singing while standing and singing not only has a different effect, but also gives people a completely different feeling.The former will make people feel more alive than the latter.By the same token, when speaking while standing up, the audience's feelings tend to be stronger. Therefore, if you stand up to speak during a meeting, the feeling must be stronger and more coercive (oppressive) than sitting down to speak.In addition, another advantage of standing up to speak is that you can be condescending and grasp the atmosphere of the audience.

Especially those who are not confident in their speeches should speak standing up.Although the content of the speech is the same, the small change of standing up and speaking can leave a "positive" impression on the audience. When you give a speech, there will always be some audience members with notebooks listening and taking notes.Before you know it, you develop a liking for these people.Because taking notes not only means leaving a record, but also shows a positive attitude of wanting to keep what the other party said in memory. Of course, no one will write down useless words one by one. Conversely, taking notes means agreeing with what the other party said, which is a kind of respect for the other party.

Making good use of this kind of psychology can make the other party feel our heart.Usually when your boss talks to you, you have to listen to even the boring words. If you can take notes at this time, you can not only eliminate the boredom, but also make your boss have a good impression on you. The biggest difference between a politician's business card and an ordinary person's business card is that, except for the name, other things such as address and telephone number are not printed on the politician's business card, and the font size of the name will be larger than that of ordinary people.These all show the intention of the business card owner to let the other party remember his name.

This is worth learning!In fact, the name is another identity of us. As long as the other party remembers our name, it means they know us.Therefore, when signing, try to write the font as large as possible to deepen the impression of the other party.According to a teacher's experience, students who usually sign their names in big characters may not have good academic performance, but their future achievements tend to be higher, which shows that people who write big characters are more motivated ! In universities, there are usually no fixed seats in class, but the strange thing is that the seats that students sit in are almost always fixed in each class.Students with good grades and who like to express their opinions usually sit in the seats closer to the teacher, while students with poor grades and often absent-minded usually sit in the seats a few rows behind.

In fact, the reason is very simple.Students sitting in the front rows are not only more likely to be valued by the teacher, but also have a lot more chances of being called up by the teacher to answer questions than students sitting in the back row.Therefore, students who are confident in themselves will choose the front row seats, whereas those who are not confident in themselves will naturally sit back. The same psychology will appear in some company employees.People who are more confident in themselves like to be with their bosses more.Therefore, when attending a meeting where no seat has been arranged in advance, taking the initiative to sit next to your boss can show your self-confidence!

There are many ways to express your charm, and one of the most worthwhile is to speak out your "dream". For example, you can say to others, "I hope to live abroad in the future, it is best to buy a small castle in Spain..." Some people may think you are whimsical, but most people will think you are innocent and cute, full of childlike innocence. A man with a "dream" is an attractive man. "In my lifetime, I must use my feet to walk the Silk Road." Will a man with this "dream" be attractive to others?the answer should be confirmed. A person with lofty goals will give people a "big" feeling in his whole body.When a woman is with such a man, she will feel that her "dream" can be realized.

"Dreams" are fantasies, so it doesn't matter if they are completely surreal, as long as you have your own "dreams", your whole person will be full of charm. Some people don't show emotion or sadness on their faces whether they are happy or upset. Of course, just because someone has a deadpan face doesn't mean they're cold inside.On the contrary, such people's minds are sometimes more delicate and neurotic than normal people. However, due to the expressionless face, others cannot understand their thoughts from this kind of person's expression, so it is inevitable to make people feel "daunting".

The more positive the expression of emotion, the more people can understand the inner feelings of the person concerned, and people with strong empathy will often make people feel very attractive.Therefore, when we should be serious, we must devote ourselves wholeheartedly, and when we should laugh, we should laugh, so that people will not think that we are slow or have ulterior motives, which will leave a bad impression on people.