Chapter 14 Skillful and capable

Who doesn't want to give people a capable image?Here we introduce several tips for shaping and capable image. Look at the outside and know the inside.If you want others to think that you are capable, you must show a capable look in your movements.For example, you should straighten your waist, have bright eyes, and so on. Before starting to express your full opinion, state the scope of your opinion in general language. Speaking clearly can make people think that you have a "good head", and I believe everyone agrees.But how to speak clearly? The best way is to clarify at the beginning what are the major items of what you want to talk about, and the general content of each item!

Why do the above explanations first?Since human beings are animals that like reasoning, once the general content is stated in advance, the audience can make guesses about what to say in the next step while listening to the lecture, and because of this psychological expectation, they are more interested in the content of the speech. The absorption will also be very fast. In other words, simply explaining the content of the speech in advance, because the audience has already had a certain degree of psychological preparation, so even if the speaker occasionally slurs his speech, it will not affect the audience's feelings, but can make them "" This person has a good mind".

The "San Zi Jue" includes two aspects: one is to try to summarize the topic into three levels in terms of speech content; the other is to try to control the speech time within three minutes. People who are persuasive are often good at using the "three-character formula" speech technique.Mr. Shiguang Toshio, the vice president of a trading company in Japan, is one of the best.His answer to any question is "there are three answers to this question", and when answering questions, he also summarizes the questions into three major items.In this way, not only the questions are organized and easy to understand, but also helpful for the discussion of the whole question.

Conversely, if the answer to the question is limited to one item, it is easy to give people a sense of arbitrariness; if it is limited to two items, it is easy to give people the impression of vacillation. We often see books like "Three-minute Speech Technique" and "Three-Minute Self-Introduction".In fact, "three minutes" does have a special role for us.Generally speaking, the content of three minutes is the limit for people to talk freely without reading the manuscript. According to the experience of someone who hosts a daily 2:50 mini-program on a radio station, people find that this period of time is just enough to cover a topic without more or less.One minute is too short, and five minutes is too long, for the content of a general conversation!

Why?In fact, three minutes is the most appropriate time for human beings to express their opinions.Any conversation can be articulated in as little as three minutes.If you say more than this time, it is likely to be nonsense! The most important purpose of speaking is to make the audience feel good.There is nothing in the world more boring than a barren conversation.Therefore, instead of talking too much nonsense, it is better to simplify the content of the speech and finish it within three minutes. This will be easier for the audience to accept, and the audience will also have a very capable impression of the speaker.

Although it is the era of paperless office, people have fewer and fewer opportunities to write on paper, but we should also mention the problems that should be paid attention to when writing. One is that the writing is not necessarily beautiful, but neat.When the teacher corrects the students' homework, the most troublesome thing is that the students' writing is very sloppy! In fact, even if the handwriting is not beautiful enough, it should be possible to write a font that is easy for people to read.If the words are easy to read, the reading speed will be relatively improved, the reader will be in a happy mood, and will naturally have a good impression on the person who wrote this article.

The second is that there must be no typos or omissions in the article. Whether the article is good or bad, interesting or not, often have different evaluations due to different interests of readers.However, if there are typos or omissions in the article, it will give people the impression of "sloppy". In extreme cases, a good essay can be dismissed because of a single typo or omission.In fact, many mistakes can often be found with a little attention, but if you hand them over without paying attention, it will often give people the feeling that you are not careful enough. In addition, articles with too many typos and omissions often make people doubt whether its content is correct.Each article has a different style, it represents the author's thoughts, and will be widely circulated, so when writing an article, you must be very careful.

Some people often have trouble deciding what to eat when they go to a restaurant with others.In addition, some people will ask to cancel and replace other things after finally ordering what they want to eat.At this time, if it is a girl, people can still understand, but if it is a man, it will leave a bad impression of insufficient judgment and be looked down upon. Because such a performance will give people an impression of indecision.Although some people may say: "It's just that you can't decide what you want to eat. How can it be considered indecisive? It's a trivial matter!" But if you look at it from another angle, it is because it is a trivial matter that you must pay more attention !

If you have to think about the decision of what to eat, then others will naturally think of how he will perform if he is asked to decide a more difficult and important issue than what to eat! The notepad shows that the owner is good at time management.Therefore, using notepad skillfully can make you look very capable.For example, when you make an appointment with someone for the next time to meet, look through the notepad first, and then confirm the time, which can leave the impression that the other party is very thorough. When making an appointment with someone, the other party usually has two reactions: one is to say that any time is acceptable, and the other is to look through the notepad to see what time is acceptable.

Excluding some special circumstances, people may have a feeling of "incompetence" for the former, and an impression of strong working ability for the latter.This is due to the fact that most people are usually very busy.And being free at any time gives people the feeling of being very idle, and being very idle will make people think of doing nothing and not having strong ability. In fact, even if some salesmen know that they are free on a certain day, when they make an appointment with someone, they will take out their notepad and pretend to check whether they are free that day, so as to impress the other party that they are very capable.

In addition, another advantage of making an appointment while looking at the notepad is that it can leave a good impression on the other party that they are cautious and will not forget the date when the time comes. Occasionally, deliberately let people look at the notebook full of scheduled itineraries, which can leave the impression of being very capable. Sometimes when I accidentally see someone else’s notepad filled with scheduled itinerary, I am often taken aback by it, and immediately have the impression that this person must have a strong working ability.Similarly, when we see a notebook full of names, phone numbers and addresses, we will naturally have the impression that this person must have a lot of communication. Using this psychology, we can give the impression that we are highly capable of work.It's a bit contrived, but often works well. Creativity can often turn a mediocre person into a glamorous one. For example, the company holds some entertainment activities every year, so every employee will have the opportunity to undertake activities.When we are selected to host an event, it is a great opportunity for us to express ourselves.If you can avoid following the old ways at this time, you can leave an impression of "strong ability" on your colleagues. But it must be noted that if he does not work hard and only shows off when hosting some entertainment events, others will not have a good impression of him. Maybe others will privately call him the "Minister of Entertainment". Therefore, it is best not to exaggerate these distinctive changes, and seek changes in some details as much as possible.In addition, I must strive for perfection in my usual work performance, so as to impress my colleagues with strong work ability and good entertainment skills.People who can only work but not entertain may not be loved by others. People who can work and entertain are often loved by everyone. In a company, each department and each employee is often asked to "make a plan".If you don't foresee well in advance, set the goal too big, and there are many obstacles in the process of achieving the goal, the result will often lead to not completing the goal.In this case, it is inevitable that the leader will give you the impression of "procrastinating" and "not thinking well". Then, in order to avoid leaving a bad impression on the leaders, it might be a good idea to make a conservative plan in advance.Setting a conservative goal can reduce your own pressure and reduce the "risk" of being looked down upon by the leader due to failure to complete it. It will also make it much easier to exceed the goal because the goal is set low.The overfulfillment of the target will naturally leave a good impression on the leader of "doing things simply and neatly". It can be seen that it is very important to be conservative before doing things and leave room for one's ability.