Chapter 68 forbidden games

Babies love to study their own bodies, and children love to study each other's bodies.Many of us remember as children, when making sure our parents couldn't see us, saying to a friend of the opposite sex, "If you show me yours, I'll show you mine." The craving is not easily suppressed.Biological differences confuse children, and they need to know that being different doesn't mean there's anything wrong with them.Even when the facts are explained and their feelings understood, they may still engage in this mutual research.They invent games, such as playing doctor, or playing house.They may play a game of voyeurism after talking it over.Even sexually liberal parents can find it difficult to deal with these situations without any emotion.They may refrain from spanking or scolding the child, but they don't know how to set clear limits on such behavior.In our time, at this age, some parents even doubt whether to interfere with their children's privacy, fearing that it will hinder their children's future sex life.

When a two- or three-year-old girl observes how a boy pees, it is time to teach her a lesson in physiology.In kindergarten, children share a toilet, and curiosity can be satisfied by direct observation, but by the time a child reaches first grade, he should be considered to have seen enough.When parents spot a boy and a girl with their pants down and their clothes still on, don't ask them, "What are you doing?" (It can be embarrassing if the child tells the whole truth.) Don't use comments like this to Blaming or reprimanding the child: "What's wrong with you? You should be ashamed of yourself! Jimmy, I want you to come home immediately, and as for you, Melissa, I'll deal with you later." On the other hand, parents should not find A random excuse or false excuse, such as: "Don't you think it's cold to walk around naked like this?" Instead, say to your child: "Jimmy, Melissa, you two put on your clothes now, find some Play with other things." Our calm, non-intimidating attitude limits a child's sexual experimentation without interfering with a child's interest in sex and love.