Chapter 67 nude

In childhood, seeing a naked mother or father may stimulate a child's sexual arousal.Does this mean we're going back to the days of Victorian prudence?It's not necessary at all.But it does show that we need privacy, not only for our own security, but also for the development of our children.We might put up with a child who sometimes barges in while we're showering or getting dressed, but we shouldn't encourage it.We have to be extra careful not to convince our children that we want them to be naked. We acknowledge that children are curious about the human body, that they have had the opportunity to observe the differences between a little boy and a little girl, and occasionally see our bodies, and they want to see more.It's best to be honest about their curiosity, but insist on reasonable privacy. "You may want to see what I look like, but I have a shower and I want to be alone. We can look at some pictures, and those pictures will answer your questions." This approach does not restrict or hinder the child's curiosity, it It just directs the child's curiosity to a more socially acceptable channel.A child's curiosity is best expressed with words, not with seeing and touching.

Childhood masturbation is pleasurable and may bring comfort to children, but it also creates ambivalence in many parents.Through masturbation, children may find self-love when they are alone, entertainment when they are bored, and comfort when they are rejected.Most parents, from what they've heard, read, and even experienced themselves, believe that masturbation is harmless.They know that masturbation does not cause mental disorders, infertility, impotence, or any other disease.But when they catch children playing with their genitals, they still feel uncomfortable and try to stop them.Parents intellectually acknowledge that masturbation may be a stage in normal sexual development, or it may continue into adulthood.However, for some parents, it is still difficult to accept the fact that their children masturbate.

However, masturbation is a natural part of a child's sexual experimentation.Parents who feel bad about their children masturbating in public—at the dinner table or in the car—should remind their children that these pleasurable acts should be done in private.It's very important not to overreact or blame the child, just a short, direct comment: "This kind of touching feels good, but it's private behavior and should be done in your own room."