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Sexuality education consists of two components: knowledge and values.Knowledge can be gained in school, church, or at home.But values ​​are best taught to children at home.Children learn about sex and love by observing how their parents interact and work together.Watching parents kiss, hug, or have foreplay answers many of their questions about sex and love.At the same time, it encourages them to open up about their feelings and feelings of love. In gender education, parents cannot teach too much too quickly.While there is no reason not to be candid when answering a child's questions about sex, the answer need not turn into a maternity lesson.The answer can be short, one sentence, or two sentences, not long.

The right age to tell your child about sex is when the child starts asking questions.When a two- or three-year-old points to his genitals and asks, "What's this?", that's the perfect time to tell him the answer. "Here's your penis." While a child may prefer to call a penis a "pee boo," or a "little dick," adults should use the proper name. When a child wonders where a baby comes from, we should not tell him that the baby came from the hospital, or from a stork.We should tell him: "It grows from a special place in the mother's body." Whether it is necessary to tell him that this special place is the uterus at this time depends on whether he has further problems.

Generally, from early childhood, children should learn the names and functions of their organs, and the anatomical differences between the sexes, without reference to plants and animals. Two questions plague nearly all preschoolers: How is the baby conceived?How was it born?Before telling them the answer, you should first listen to their thoughts.Their answers will usually involve food and excretion.A clever child explained: "Good babies are made from good food. They grow in the mother's womb and pop out of the navel. Bad babies are made from bad food. They come from the place where they urinate and defecate." come out."

Our explanation should be factual, but the sexual intercourse part does not need to be elaborated: "When Dad and Mom want a baby, Dad has a fluid called semen in his body, which contains many tiny sperm cells, and the semen meets Mom. When the sperm cell and the egg cell unite, that's when the baby begins to grow. When the baby is old enough, it comes out of the mother's vagina." Sometimes children will ask to see where they come out, and finally Rather than allow this invasion of privacy, we can draw a picture of the human body, or use a doll for a demonstration, or use illustrated books.

Our answers may only satisfy children for a while.He might come back with the same problem, or a different one.The child's next question may be one that dreads parents: "How did Dad's sperm get to Mom's egg?" Again, we should ask the child's own interpretation of this event first.We're likely to hear the "sowing" theory (dad sows a seed into mom), the "seed-eating" theory (dad makes mom swallow a kernel), the pollination theory (the wind blows the seed into the mother's body), surgical theory (the doctor implanted the seed into the mother's body through surgery), and so on.

Then we can answer the child's question succinctly: "Semen comes out of Dad's penis and enters Mom's vagina." This may be a good opportunity to emphasize to the child that semen and urine are different: "Urine is what comes out of the body. Waste, semen is the fluid that carries the sperm cells." The next question that pops up might be, "When did you and Daddy make babies?" This question isn't as nosy as it sounds.A simple answer is enough: "Mom and Dad will choose a time when they are both comfortable and just the two of them to make a baby. They love each other and want a baby to love." It may also be necessary to tell the child that mating is private thing.

Some boys wish their fathers could have children too.They ask, "Why can't Mommy's eggs go into Dad's body?" It's time to explain to them that there is a place in a woman's body—the womb—where the baby needs to grow.There is no uterus in a man's body.Normally, a child will ask "Why?" and the simple answer will be, "Because men and women are built differently." Boys should be reassured that babies also need a father to love and protect them. At the end of the day, parents must remember that while discussing sex with their children can often be awkward, maintaining a sense of humor can help them successfully navigate even the most stressful situations.One mother recounted this amusing story: "My two-and-a-half-year-old son Paul asked me if I had a penis, and I said no, so he asked what I had there, and I replied, 'There's a special place in there ’ Paul asked, ‘What’s it called?’ I told him the word, thinking he was too young to understand it. One day, a few weeks later, I was pushing his stroller into a crowded corner of our building. A loud, elderly woman started asking him: 'What's your name? Did you have a good vacation? Would you say hi?' Paul didn't speak. I bent down and whispered in Paul's ear. He whispered, 'Say hi.' 'Hi!' he yelled with all his might. The woman screamed, 'Oh! At least he can say hi!' Paul stared at her and said clearly, 'I still Can say vagina.’ I was laughing so hard in the elevator that I could barely keep my composure. When we were in the room, he said, ‘That’s the biggest word I know.’”