Chapter 17 Chapter 4 The Power of Humor

The environment of modern society changes instantly, and the speed and efficiency are greatly accelerated. Therefore, modern people often feel a kind of inexplicable psychological pressure and anxiety, and humor is the best "relief valve".It can not only make you feel relaxed and happy, talk and laugh happily, and laugh often, but also help you to be successful in your communication and career.Many visionary and insightful company managers and chairman of the board like to choose those who can laugh at themselves, improve the environment and create a happy atmosphere.Because these people are easy to gain people's trust, people are willing to accept their views and the products they sell.

The way of thinking of humorists is somewhat different from that of ordinary people. Please look at an example first: The great French writer Balzac was once poor and poor in his life, and sometimes he was penniless.One day, Balzac wrote late at night, went to bed hungry, tossed and turned, unable to fall asleep.At this time, there happened to be a thief patronizing.The sound of thieves rummaging through things woke Balzac up.Balzac humorously said to the thief: "Please don't turn over any more. I can't turn over the money during the day, how can you turn over the money at night?" After hearing this, the thief left wisely.

The anecdote of Balzac is wonderful: he not only drives away the thieves, but also cleverly expresses his own predicament in an expression that is impossible for ordinary people.This shows that his way of thinking is different from ordinary people. A very common or annoying event appears to the humorist's eyes to be ridiculous.And a person without a sense of humor, even if a very funny thing is said by him, it will still taste like chewing wax. The famous British astronomer James?When Brafalley was appointed as the director of the Greenwich Observatory in the United Kingdom, the Queen of England saw that his salary was low and wanted to increase his salary. He pleaded: "If this position can bring a lot of income once, then I will come to this position later." It will not be astronomers who will come."

This humorous and heartfelt statement is a summary of the scientist's decades of vicissitudes of experience. He has witnessed countless ups and downs in the world, and studied the corruption of money on people. Only then did he come to this interesting and philosophical conclusion . The famous Italian composer Rossini heard that a group of his wealthy admirers planned to build a statue for him in France.After being moved, he asked, "How much are they going to spend?" "I heard it was ten million francs." "Ten million francs," startled Rossini. "If they will give me 500 francs, I will stand on the pedestal of the statue myself!"

Judging from the above two examples, James?Brafalé's humor seems to attach great importance to the position of director of the Greenwich Observatory in England, while Rossini's humor seems to value five hundred francs. indifferent attitude".It is Brafalé's contempt for money that gives him such humor; likewise, if Rossini had not had such humility, but was ecstatic about spending 10 million francs on the statue, he would never have such and such humor. Humor. Many highly accomplished figures have used their humorous language, taking credit lightly, and being exemplary. The famous American novelist Faulkner said in his speech when he won the Nobel Prize for Literature in 1949: "I feel that this prize is not awarded to me personally but to my work--to my life's painstaking efforts on the human spirit." I am engaged in this work not for fame, still less for profit, but to create something out of human spiritual material that has never existed before. Therefore, this bonus is only entrusted to me. It is not difficult to find a use for the money of this prize that is commensurate with the original purpose and meaning of the prize, but I also want to find a recipient for the honor of the prize.”

When my girlfriend visited Mrs. Curie's house, she suddenly saw her little daughter playing with a gold medal that the Royal Society had just awarded her. She couldn't help being surprised and asked, "Mrs. How can you play with your children?" Madame Curie smiled and said: "I want to let children know from an early age that honor is like a toy, which can only be played with and cannot be kept forever. Otherwise, nothing will be done." This is exactly what Chekhov said: "Dissatisfaction with oneself is the fundamental characteristic of any truly talented person."

Mr. Lu Xun once said a famous saying: "Where is a genius, I even spend time on my work when others drink coffee." Because these celebrities and great men treat their own honor with the power of humor and indifferent attitude, their images are indelible in people's minds. Mr. Huang is in charge of the secretarial department of a large enterprise company and has achieved quite a lot.Not long ago, his original company merged with another company, but he was ups and downs in the waves of personnel changes.The new colleagues don't know much about him, so the colleagues are as cold as water.Until one day, Mr. Huang used the power of humor to change the interpersonal relationship."They didn't dare fire me," he said, and then he explained, "Because I'm so far behind in everything." Everyone laughed.In this way, Mr. Huang is indifferent to his past achievements and honors, and still makes fun of himself, making new colleagues laugh with him, and helping him establish a friendly and cooperative relationship with his colleagues.

Humor, most importantly, helps us relieve tension at work and solve difficult problems in life. On the outskirts of a big city, there is a large-scale chemical factory. They produce a chemical product all year round. A lot of smoke and dust come out from the chimney, causing several nearby enterprises to suffer from smoke and dust.Once when they were working overtime, the director of a neighboring factory said half-jokingly: "They are so busy in production, how do they deal with the smoke and dust?" The director of the chemical factory also said half-jokingly: "We plan to At the same time, I will order an extra-large plastic bag from the packaging factory, and use a helicopter to lift the bag over the chimney to cover it.” The two factory managers said with humor , so that they gained mutual understanding, laughed together, and the tension gradually eased.

Humor is communicated to each other when we joke with others and laugh with them.We should give them an attitude of lightheartedness, sincerity, and sharing weal and woe.As long as we pay a little attention, we will find that there are many humorous stories that are not easy to perceive in our work.At work, sometimes we need to firmly stick to our point of view. Excessive patience is not good for work, so in addition to knowing how to calm things down, it is more beneficial to solve the problem to complain appropriately under certain circumstances, especially you When you have a lot of words in your mind, of course don't forget to use humor.

Staff, teachers and students complained about the poor food in the cafeteria, and some people scolded the person in charge of the cafeteria, but the person in charge said humorously: "It is unbelievable that Jesus could feed the crowd with five loaves and two fish, but we here every day There are already 30 kinds of vegetables, 5,000 catties of rice, and 1,500 steamed buns, and I don’t know where they are now.” Humorous communication between superiors and subordinates should be conducive to the progress of the work, otherwise it is a boring joke.A wise man will take care to direct humor into a track that promotes work.Examples at work abound:

"Our sales volume has risen to an unprecedented height in the chart, but this chart is viewed upside down." The sales chief said. "The secretary said that I am too stubborn. Because I said that each word can only be written in one way." The chief secretary sighed. Use the power of humor to encourage others and help them achieve greater achievements. You can entrust others with great responsibilities and lighten your burden so that you can be more active and free to develop your innovative spirit and make a difference in your career. make achievements. Face yourself with a relaxed attitude and face life with a serious attitude.If we do the opposite, we will be in trouble.An immature personality often consists in seeing oneself as the center of human interaction, while maturity comes with seeing oneself in proper relation to the group. There is a cross talk about a man suffering from appendicitis, the doctor operated on him, and the appendicum was cut off.After the patient recovered from the injury, the lower abdomen still suffered from time to time. After examination, it turned out that the doctor left the surgical scissors in it, so the operation was performed again.Afterwards, the patient still felt flatulence in the abdomen. After examination, it turned out that the gauze was forgotten in the abdomen again, so another operation was performed.So the patient said to the doctor: "It would be more convenient for you to put a zipper on my stomach!" The key to turning pain into humor is entering a supposed state of absence of physical pain.With this, everything that is not related suddenly becomes consistent with a little correlation. Of course, the scope of humor therapy is not limited to physical pain, sometimes it can be psychological pain.If you can hold back the psychological pain, it is not difficult to bring together different things, or even combine them into one, to make them interesting. There are two main reasons why people often fail to be humorous enough in painful situations. First, humor requires people to forget the severity of the reality in front of them. This is against the basic characteristics of human beings. Even hypothetical forgetting is very difficult. Second, humor requires people to confuse dissimilar things quietly, even verbally, and this is difficult. The basic principle for people to learn to speak and think is to distinguish different concepts of things and languages, and humor seems to mess up people's daily language and thinking. If you cannot obey the norms of humorous speech and thinking, then you can only shut yourself out of the door of humor. Everyone's life is not smooth sailing, so it is common to encounter pain and setbacks.We all know that some common social problems, such as rising prices, traffic congestion, gas shortage, etc., will make people feel anxious and uneasy.In addition, some of our own problems, such as young people feel that youth is perishable; middle-aged people have heavy work and family burdens, and health problems; the elderly have no care, there is a generation gap with young people, and there is a sense of loneliness in their hearts.If we can use the power of humor well, we can understand that the things you worry about are not necessarily the biggest things in life. There is a proverb in our country "Smile, ten years less".It can be seen that laughter is beneficial and harmless to human beings.Humor, as a medium of laughter, causes people to laugh. If there is a satirical skit called "The Knack of Squeezing Traffic", which is written wittily and not superficially, let us enjoy a wonderful excerpt from it: Despite the increase in vehicles, the construction of subways, and the expansion of the ring road... how can it catch up with the speed of life! ?Therefore, commuting to and from get off work has become a "knowledge". Let's talk about getting in the car first. When the car comes, the best policy is to "grab a seat" - just like "grabbing a spot" on the court.Accurately calculate the location, and park the car door next to you, you can get the benefit of "occupying the essentials first", of course, you must resist!The trick here is: lean your upper body towards the direction of the oncoming car, keep your footing steady, and never be swept away by the flow of people coming with the car (fortunately, there are people behind you to help you).The middle policy is "welt".The layman was facing the door of the car, swarming around, wasting his energy in vain.In particular, Beijing is different from other places. In Harbin, "the capable is king" when getting on the bus. Shanghainese care about their face, but they yell at every turn, which makes you unwilling to fight.Beijingers want to talk about style and get on the bus quickly, so the front of the car door is not a good place to go.Have you ever noticed that when washing the car, the conductor never has to wipe the sides of the door—there are all wiped clean by the shrewd crowd!Stick to the side, put on a calm look, and push the "rootless" people away bit by bit. As long as you grab the door, you will win.The worst policy can be called "hanging up".Ordinary people, seeing the grinning scene inside and outside the car door, have already retreated.As for the driver, as long as the door cannot be closed, he dare not leave the car rashly.At this time, you put your toes into the door of the car (don't put your head first), then lean close to the door and "hug" in, it will work... Seeing this passage, everyone who squeezed past the car burst into laughter.The author observes carefully and has a clear understanding of the customs of various places, making people feel as if they are in the scene when reading. Suffering is really ingenious. Most people feel that problems such as getting older are also troubles that are difficult to get rid of. Let's see how to deal with this problem with humor: The famous orator Robert said: "I strive to die at the youngest age." Whether in private or in public, he regarded his age very lightly, and was famous for his young and interesting heart.Therefore, on his 70th birthday, he also signed a five-year speaking contract. That's what humor is about, opening your mind and prolonging your life. The French philosopher Voltaire had a very loyal servant, but he was a bit lazy. One day, Voltaire said to him: "Russeff, go and get my shoes." The boy hurriedly brought them.Voltaire was stunned when he saw it: the shoes were still covered with mud and dust from yesterday when he went out! He asked, "Why did you forget to wipe it off in the morning?" "No need, sir." Russeff replied calmly, "The road is full of mud and dirt. In two hours, won't your shoes be as dirty as now?" Voltaire walked out the door smiling.The boy ran after him and ran after him: "Sir, go slowly! Where's the key?" "key?" "Yes, the key to the cupboard. I still have my lunch." "My friend, what's for lunch, you'll be as hungry in two hours as you are now!" If the servant does not serve the master well, of course it will cause the master's displeasure, and the master will often reprimand the servant.Voltaire, however, treated the matter with a smile and humor, lightened the unpleasant, and educated the servant with laughter.Voltaire was truly a humorist. Keeping things small is indeed a great way to use the power of humor in your everyday life.In the face of things that may cause trouble in life, we can put the trouble in an appropriate place without excessive worry and displeasure by using humor and laughing together.Treat troubles with a lighthearted, shared joy that makes troubles seem less important than life as a whole. John?Rockefeller is a world-renowned rich man, but he is very economical in daily expenses.One day, he went to a hotel in New York and asked to rent one of the cheapest rooms. The manager of the hotel said, "Why did you choose such a small and cheap room? When your son comes to stay, he always chooses the most expensive room." "Yes," said Rockefeller, "my son's father was a millionaire and mine was not." That's what Rockefeller was, using humor to deal with the things that didn't go his way in life.In life, if people can often treat various things with humor, such as telling a few funny jokes on cold, hot, and humid days, it will definitely lift everyone's spirits. Life is rich and colorful. As long as our imagination and creativity are not bound by some frames, we can use the power of humor to inject stimulants into life. Humor has a special function - to satirize ugly phenomena, which is the method of "correcting the current situation". Throughout the ages, feudal superstition has deceived many people.Some couplets use humorous language to make allegory and exhortation, which makes people laugh after reading it!Here are a few couplets to try: There is such a couplet in a temple of the God of Wealth: "There is only a few pennies, and you ask for it, and he asks for it. Who is it better to give it to? Don't do anything, worship in the morning, and worship in the evening, which is embarrassing!" The couplet is the God of Wealth The tone mocked those lazy people who waited for money. There is also a Temple of the God of Wealth at the foot of Wansong Ridge in Hangzhou. The temple is dilapidated, and the soil of the God of Wealth Bodhisattva has peeled off, but there are still an endless stream of pilgrims.So someone wrote a witty couplet on both sides of the Temple of Wealth: "If I have a spirit, I won't pile up dust everywhere, and my bones and muscles will fall off; don't think about it, you must know that there is everything like diligence and thrift, and nothing like laziness." Even today, with the in-depth development of my country's reform and opening up, some ugly phenomena have emerged because the various malpractices left over from the old society have not yet been eradicated.Therefore, it is still very necessary to expose and flog these ugly phenomena by using the humorous technique of "rectifying the evils of the times". For example, Mr. Shihe called some business cards "bright deceit": Silent records, special shells—whoever wants to be famous can do it all: get as high a title as you want; be as big an official as you want; What a rich fortune; if you want to show your blushing face, show your blushing face.Business card——Bright deception, a small piece of paper, infinite power. Mr. Yang Handuan's "depreciation rumor" satirizes the strange phenomenon in the big pot: Those who are over 40 years old are counted as "youth", three months of short-term training are counted as "college colleges", those with full working years are counted as "professors", and copying from books is counted as "examination papers".A leader's refusal to take bribes is considered "news", and withdrawal from occupying households is considered a "model".Poor quality is regarded as "famous and excellent", and not scolding customers is regarded as "smiling face".Singing a song is considered a "singer", sponsoring a pen is considered a "director", making up random words is considered a "poet", and putting on a false name is considered an "editor-in-chief".Two short articles are considered "writers", dubbing by others is considered "actor", wearing a hat is considered "famous", and publishing a mediocre book is considered "classic". ... Hugh Road depreciation is everywhere, it is rare to be confused and close your eyes, whether you are hello, me or him, the most delicious is a big pot of rice... Why do people satirize and flog all kinds of unreasonable social phenomena with the humorous method of "correcting the current situation"?The main reason is that people hate it so much that it is hard to get rid of their hatred by directly criticizing or cursing, so "extreme grief gives birth to joy", and they vent it through laughing and cursing, ironic doggerel and other forms. Numerous practical results have proved that humorous critical education is easily accepted by people amid laughter, and the effect is more obvious.When it comes to education, people tend to think of serious, unsmiling faces, a set of abstract theories that make no sense, and a group of sleepy audiences.In fact, people's understanding and impression of this kind are entirely caused by improper methods of educational work.Education, of course, is a serious matter, but this does not preclude the educated from laughing happily.Teaching through laughter is an effective method of education. There is a humor of "a lazy teacher worships a lazy man", which is used to educate those idle prodigal sons. A loafing prodigal son, he only hates himself for being too lazy to go home, and really wants to find a lazy shop to study.So, he asked around where there is a lazy shop. One day, he found out that there was indeed a lazy school, so he happily went there.When he arrived at the door of the lazy shop, he used his buttocks as a face, and stepped back to enter the door.The master of Xuelaan shop yelled: "Hey, why don't you know the rules, why don't you turn your face to me!" The prodigal son still turned his back to the master and replied: "Respect the master, let the foolish: when you come, turn your back on me!" Master, you don’t need to turn around when you say goodbye.” The master was dumbfounded when he heard this.After a while, it was like waking up from a dream.The prodigal son said outside the door: "I can respect you as a teacher." Another example is the "reconstruction of Efang Palace", which is used to criticize the level of education administrators and the low level of education. The inspector visited a middle school, and casually asked the students, "Do you know who burned the Efang Palace?" The student was full of panic, and said repeatedly: "I didn't burn it, I didn't burn it!" The inspector couldn't help laughing, and accused the principal: "The students in your school have a low level of Chinese, and they actually said that he didn't burn the Efang Palace." In a rage, the inspector wrote a letter to the Director of Education, explaining the whole story.Not long after, I received a reply from the director-general saying: "Forget it if you burn it, and allocate funds to rebuild Efang Palace." Criticism is a weapon in the fight against various undesirable phenomena in education.If criticism wants to achieve results, it must be kind to others, and it must pay attention to methods, methods, and the art of language.Sometimes, a clever humorous remark can indeed outperform many bland sermons. So, why humorous and witty discourse can play an educational role, there are two main aspects. First of all, because everyone has self-esteem, practice has proved that it is never a good way to directly criticize someone in public. It may cause strong rebuttals from the other party and find some reasons to defend themselves; He was dissatisfied, and has since accumulated resentment in his heart.In this way, the purpose of criticism is naturally not achieved.So psychologists all say with one voice: "Don't reprimand people in public." This is very reasonable.Humorous criticism, on the other hand, maintains the face of the other party and will not cause the other party to have antagonism; in addition, because it uses innuendo instead of direct speaking, it allows the criticized to have a room for maneuver, and it will be more profound. Understand the good intentions of the critics. A young painter found a nearby house. Before moving, he said to his friend: "I want to give the walls of the room a nice paint job and paint some pictures on the walls." "You'd better paint on the walls first, and then paint the walls." A friend who knew the level of the young painter advised him. This friend implicitly expressed his opinion, and the young painter would naturally understand and think deeply about how to make his own paintings well. Secondly, humor can subtly and unexpectedly connect two previously irrelevant things together, causing people to be amazed and laugh. In association, people will realize the real purpose of the speaker, and thus happily accept the speaker’s intentions. Views.