Chapter 16 Chapter 3 The Ability to Humor

Humor research scholar Zhang Ruijun said: "Like trees need sunlight, air, and water, people need humor. A sense of humor is the quality that modern people should have." He also said: "For tired people, humor is rest; for troubled people, Humor is the cure; humor is comfort to those who are sad..." Humor is power to all! Humor is a kind of speech or action, it is not swords, swords, martial arts stunts, or overwhelming forces.It is the synthesis of wisdom and knowledge. Under the brilliance of the power of wisdom and knowledge, humor also has the magic power of turning danger into safety.When you are in an embarrassing situation where you are besieged on all sides, or in an embarrassing situation where people criticize you, humor can give you the power to turn adversity into victory.

How to get rid of the negative emotions of depression, pessimism, troubles and melancholy, and make your spiritual home bright and sunny?An important psychotherapy is a kind of "rationalization" or "self-deprecating" humor therapy.It requires people to have a humorous attitude towards life; it requires people to downplay suffering and seek joy in suffering; it requires people to see hope when they are disappointed; peace of mind.If you do this, your spiritual tree will be evergreen, and the Great Wall of Faith in your heart will not collapse to the ground.It can be said that humor can give people a strong support for their spiritual home, making people persevere on the path of life full of bitterness and joy, twists and turns, and enjoy the real value of life.

Be humorous about yourself, laughing off your own merits and honors.In this way, a lot of understanding will also be gained. At an election meeting, when a person won the election and was appointed to a high position, and someone congratulated him for this position, he said: "In any case, the Chinese women's volleyball team deserves more congratulations for winning the game last week." He treated his promotion lightly, used his humility to win the respect of others, and improved his image, which of course made it easier to get close to others. In life, praise needs humor, and criticism needs humor even more. Humor can make criticism convey goodwill.If a disagreement arises and one of the parties puts aside seriousness and uses humorous language to imply reproach without hurting the person, even a tongue-in-cheek, semi-permissive humor will convey the reproach without error , in order to achieve the purpose and function of not harming people.The reason is that after the humor is conveyed to the other party, the effect on the other party does not depend entirely on what the words are, but a large factor depends on what kind of feeling your humor gives the other party.Obviously, sincere, well-meaning humor, even if it conveys a message of blame, is usually not offensive.Serious criticism and accusations are much more likely to cause differences and break up.

In the face of death, Churchill said humorously: "I am ready to meet God, but what has God prepared to meet me?" The French revolutionary Danton shouted before his death: "Take my head! My head is worth seeing." American novelist O?Before he died, Henry said: "Light up all the lights, I don't want to go back to my hometown in the dark." In the face of death, these wise men can still maintain a detached and humorous mind, what an extraordinary demeanor it should be! Academician Anuoxin, a Soviet scholar, said: "We should learn to exercise our emotions with humor, just like exercising muscles." Chekhov also warned people: "My friend, if a match burns in your pocket, then you Be glad, and thank God, that you don't have a powder magazine in your pocket. If you get a thorn in your finger, be happy, and be lucky, that the thorn isn't in your eye..." Good spiritual home, May wish to use humor to support!

As an art of motivation, humor plays an important role in daily communication.Around leaders and supervisors who are full of humor art, it is easy to gather a group of employees who work for him. The humor of the supervisor will resolve many embarrassments and maintain the self-esteem of employees. Many important figures in American history, such as Lincoln, Roosevelt, Wilson, etc., are representatives who are good at using the art of humor. Once, Lincoln was walking and talking with a friend. When they walked to the corridor, a group of soldiers who had been waiting for a long time to receive the president's lecture cheered in unison, but the friend did not realize that he should retreat.At this time, an adjutant stepped forward and reminded him to take eight steps back. The friend realized his impoliteness and blushed immediately, but Lincoln immediately smiled and said, "Mr. I still can’t tell who is the president!” Just such a simple sentence immediately broke the awkward atmosphere of the scene.

People should be kind to themselves, to others, to the failures, pains, and even physical defects in life. If you look at it from another angle, treat it with interesting thoughts and a relaxed attitude, maybe your life will be full of bright colors. Melancholy mood will become clear. A fat female politician in the United States made fun of herself in her campaign speech: "Once I wore a white swimsuit and swam in the sea, but I attracted Soviet bombers, thinking they had spotted an American warship." The result was in laughter However, voters didn't care about her obesity, which gave her an advantage in the election.

From a management point of view, humor is not just a child's trick, a happy smiling face, it should complement each other to improve production efficiency.Intensified competition, economic turmoil, corporate employees are facing extraordinary pressure.How to maintain the morale of employees while stimulating their creativity and "thinking outside the box" is more important than ever for companies. Using humor to manage, managers can often achieve very good results.According to a survey of 1,160 managers in the United States: 77% of them use jokes to break the deadlock in employee meetings; 52% of them think that humor helps them conduct business; 50% of them think that companies should consider hiring “Humor consultants” to help employees relax; 39% advocated “good laughs” among employees.Some well-known multinational companies, from the president to the general department managers, have begun to integrate humor into daily management activities and use it as a new training method.

Humor can also make the relationship between people harmonious and resolve the company's internal conflicts.When the economic recession makes the company have to face the problem of layoffs, it can also use humor to resolve various risks that may arise in the process of layoffs. The Owens Fiber Company of the United States once laid off 40% of its employees at the beginning of the new century. Considering the various problems that may be caused by this, the management of the company hired a special humor consultant to use more than 1,600 employees in two months. employees implemented a humor program and various humor activities were carried out within the company.As a result, there were no dire consequences such as mob riots, sabotage, threats and intimidation, suicide attempts, etc. that the company was worried about.

People like to get along with humorous people. In the West, a man without a sense of humor is simply synonymous with unattractive and stupid.A humorous supervisor is more likely to bond with subordinates than a staid and serious one.Experienced supervisors know that in order to make the subordinates around them work together, it is necessary to humanize their image through humor. So how can you become a humorous supervisor? It is obviously essential to read widely and broaden one's knowledge.Accumulate a lot of knowledge, and you will be confident and calm when you contact with all kinds of people on various occasions, and you will cultivate noble tastes and optimistic beliefs.A narrow-minded, negative-minded person will not have a sense of humor. Humor belongs to those who are open-minded and full of enthusiasm for life.Improve observation and imagination, and be good at using associations and metaphors.

As a business executive, you must consciously train your ability to respond to things.Participate in more social interactions, get in touch with all kinds of people, enhance your social interaction skills, and enhance your sense of humor.As a beautiful and healthy quality of managers, humor can be used properly to motivate employees to spend every day with you in a cheerful atmosphere. Of course, humor is a kind of creative skill, which should be adapted to the situation according to the object, environment and the atmosphere of the moment, but the following skills should also be paid attention to: one is not to be humorous at will.Humor can't be used anytime and anywhere, it should be played on certain occasions and conditions.For example: In a formal meeting, when your subordinate is speaking, you suddenly say one or two funny words, maybe everyone is amused by your humor, but the subordinate who made the speech must think that you do not respect him , not interested in his speech; second, humor should be elegant; third, there is no need to insist on humor when it is not humorous.If the conditions are not available at that time, but you try your best to show humor, the result must be reluctant, should you smile?This will put each other in an even more awkward situation.

On the long road of life, everyone will inevitably encounter adversity.Many people are afraid of the turmoil and pain brought about by adversity, but in the long run, some small setbacks from time to time can keep people clear-headed, withstand tests, and sharpen their will. Humorous people believe that failure is the mother of success.Failure and success can be transformed into each other under certain conditions. It is precisely because there have been failures that we can achieve success after constantly summarizing the lessons of failure.If a person is surrounded by success all the time, then an occasional small failure may be a rather cruel test for him, and failure may follow him everywhere. Humor oozes with a strong will.A person with a sense of humor is often a pushy trendsetter.Facing the blow of failure and the harsh environment, they can strive for self-improvement with a humorous attitude.Inventor Edison is a person who is good at treating failure with humor and keeps making progress. In the process of inventing the electric light, Edison failed to test the material of the filament 1200 times, but he could not find a good metal that could withstand high temperature and be durable.At this time someone said to him: "You have failed 1200 times, do you still want to try?" "No. I have not failed. I have found 1200 kinds of materials are not suitable for filament." Edison said humorously. It was with this amazing power of humor that Edison saw hope from failure and encouragement from setbacks.This is the knack of this great inventor's indomitable and fruitful achievements.Sometimes, our will and our confidence can slip in the face of failure, and well-timed humor can help us avoid that. If someone can't beat his friend in tennis, he can humorously say to his friend: "I have already found out where the problem is. My hobby is tennis, but I go to the table tennis club to learn." He can also say, "Let's draw, how about? I don't want to catch up with you everywhere, and you don't want to overtake me." This kind of humor is not self-deception, nor does it ask us to bury our heads in the sand when we see danger like an ostrich. This kind of humor can effectively prevent our will from slipping, and it can also bring us closer to others with a knowing smile. psychological distance. Humor pervades different contexts with its great functions. It can make people willing to accept the truth, contribute to the harmony of interpersonal relationships, and can also turn embarrassment into relaxation, so that criticism can achieve good results.But humor should also pay attention to the time and occasion, and the target should be targeted, and casual humor should not be avoided. If humor is used at the wrong time and occasion, it will not only fail to achieve the desired effect, but also cause displeasure to others. A beautiful lady was standing in front of her husband's grave, weeping, when a strange man came over.He said: "Madam, I am deeply sorry for your husband's tragic death, and I sympathize with your misfortune. But I have to tell you that when I saw you, I fell in love with you." .” The lady said, "Shut up, rascal! Get the hell out of here, or I'll call the police." And another stranger said softly: "Don't be angry, ma'am, I didn't want to disturb you at this time, let alone express my feelings at this time. But when the time doesn't come, who can be in front of you?" How about being self-reliant in front of beauty?" The lady pretended to be angry and said: "Is this the time to talk about love? You should come to me when I am not crying! The address is here." This twists and turns funny show tells us that no matter how funny you are, if you don't know the time and occasion, people will not only not be moved by you, but it will have the opposite effect. In addition to grasping the time and occasion, humor is also different from country to country, and is restricted by differences in nationality, era, aesthetic psychology, and historical and cultural traditions. In a market in Paris, France, there was a butcher who sold very well because of his cheerful personality and humorous language. When selling meat, he kept talking kindly in his mouth. "Hello, young man! What would you like to eat? Do you want some roast meat or veal? I think it's better to eat some veal, which is tender and fragrant. Men who eat veal will be particularly strong, what do you think?" He called The gentleman named "young man" is an old man in his 60s.As soon as I heard him call him so affectionately, I was naturally happy in my heart.This smile seemed to flatten the wrinkles on his face, and he bought a lot of veal. Just imagine, if this businessman does business in our country like this, then this old man called "young man" will definitely glar at each other and walk away. Humor also needs to distinguish the target. It is often harmless to make a few jokes on the people around you or those who are close to you.But if the other party is older than you in age or status, such as elders, superiors or experts, then you must carefully consider the humorous words and methods, otherwise it is extremely impolite behavior. In addition, humor should pay attention to gender, personality and other differences.For example, there is a lot of space for joking with men, and the size is easy to control; but for women, especially young women, you must pay special attention to avoid arousing disgust or misunderstanding.There is also a distinction between extroverts and introverts.