Chapter 14 Chapter 1 The Meaning of Humor

Why, as soon as Chaplin and other comedians show their faces, they can immediately stir people's heartstrings with their mouths, hands, and feet, making thousands of people laugh and fall for them?The secret is that their words, deeds, and actions are full of enlightening and pleasing humor. There is no one in the world who does not like humorous language.The reason why cross talk skits have always been one of the most popular programs in traditional Chinese cultural evenings is that its expression is inseparable from humor. The humorous language strongly infects the hearts of the audience, and humorous words can capture The heart of the listener can make the other party calm; it can also make some profound thoughts more vivid and vivid.

During the Civil War, a general sent a telegram to Lincoln from the front. Lincoln felt that the battle situation in the telegram was too brief, so he called back and demanded that future battle reports must be detailed. The general was a short-tempered person, and he was very upset after reading the telegram. Soon he sent a telegram to Lincoln: "Six cows have been seized, please advise how to deal with them." Lincoln read the telegram, knew that the general was angry, and immediately called back: "Milk the cow quickly." The general looked at it, laughed, and his anger disappeared.

From this humorous story, we see the humility and generosity of a leader.When the general angrily sent a telegram asking the president to dispose of "six cows", Lincoln did not lose his temper at this absurd and unreasonable request, but responded cleverly: "Milk the cows quickly." In dealing with affairs, we often encounter embarrassing situations of one kind or another. If we handle them carelessly, it will lead to adverse consequences.If people can "keep silent" at critical moments like Lincoln did, how much fun will be added to our tense and boring daily life.

What is humor? Irish writer Bernard Shaw said: "Humor is an element, it is neither a valence nor a finished product." American humor master Chaplin said: "The so-called humor is the nuance that we perceive in the seemingly normal behavior. In other words, through humor, we see the abnormal phenomenon in the seemingly normal phenomenon." , seeing the abnormal in the seemingly important." British writer Hazlitt said: "Humor is the seasoning of speech, not food." Lenin once said: "Humor is a beautiful and healthy quality." This shows that the charming and unpredictable spirit of humor is constantly seeking its own beautiful shell, and at the same time constantly updating its appearance.

A sense of humor is a relatively noble temperament of people and the embodiment of civilization.A society cannot live without humor.Someone said vividly: "A language without a sense of humor is a document, a person without a sense of humor is a statue, a family without a sense of humor is an inn, and a society without a sense of humor is unimaginable." Humor can happen In every level of social life, in every corner.Well-educated people have educated humor; middle-class people have middle-class humor;It can be said that humor is a social phenomenon that can be enjoyed by people regardless of gender, age, social status, or education level.It is precisely because humor is so common in our social life and is so familiar to people that it is ignored by people.When people live in an environment that lacks air, they can deeply appreciate the importance of air to the human body.Similarly, only when people live in a social environment that lacks humor can they feel the charm of humor and the power of humor in life.

One day, Roentgen, the inventor of "Roentgen Rays", received a letter asking Roentgen to send him some "Roentgen Rays" and an instruction manual on how to use them, because he had a bullet in his chest and needed to use it. radiation therapy. After reading the letter, Roentgen took up a pen and wrote in the reply letter: "It's a pity that I have just run out of X-rays at hand, and it is very difficult to send this kind of radiation. Well, please send me your chest cavity! " "Send me your ribcage" is the excellence of humor and wisdom. Humor is a comprehensive manifestation of people's ability, will, personality, and interests, and it is the spice of social interaction.With humor, socializing can make people feel mellow, meaningful and sweet.It is a magnet with strong gravitational force. With social humor, it will suck scattered hearts into its magnetic field and make others smile happily.It is the spark of wisdom, the brilliance of the wise man's inspiration; it is a high-level funny product, humor may not make you laugh out loud, but it can cause you to smile.

In terms of variety, humor is as colorful as laughter, it comes in kind, grim, friendly, sad, touching, aggressive, deadpan, innuendo, malicious, mocking, provocative Whether it is ridiculed, ridiculed, sympathetic or purely absurd, the interest must come from the heart, and even more so. from the brain.Only in this way can it symbolize the outstanding mental strength with a sense of vividness and life, and shake out the warmth and brilliance of the soul. Humor can be divided into the following types, and different people have their own appreciation for humor: People with a penchant for philosophy, religion, etc. will react strongly to this.They can often laugh at their own weaknesses.It is not a masochist who is interested in this type of humor, but an openness to admit and appreciate one's own weaknesses and to look beyond them, an amiable humility.

Consider the punch line below: College students ask a famous economist to define terms like recession, depression, and panic. "It's not difficult," the expert replied. "During a 'recession' people need to tighten their belts. During a 'depression' it's hard to get belts for pants. When people don't have pants, the 'panic' starts." A work titled "Beauties and Keren" is more interesting: "What do you love most about me?" the wife asked her husband. "My natural beauty, or my beautiful body?" "I love your sense of humor the most," replied the husband.

This is such a perfect "stupidity" that escapes rationality in an unexpected and unique way.This kind of humor never comes from a fool's mind, but from a high degree of intelligence.People who like this type have developed rational thinking and pursue spiritual freedom. Once, the British writer Charles Dickens was fishing when a stranger walked up to him and asked, "Sir, do you fish?" "Yes," Dickens replied without hesitation, "I fished for a long time today, but I didn't see a single fish; but yesterday, also in this place, I caught 15 fish!"

"Really?" asked the stranger, "Then do you know who I am? I specialize in patrolling and secretly fishing. Fishing is prohibited at the mouth of this lake!" As he said that, the stranger took out a ticket from his pocket, and wanted to write down the fine for Dickens.Seeing this scene, Dickens hurriedly asked: "Then, do you know who I am?" When the stranger was still surprised and confused, Dickens said bluntly: "I am the writer Dickens, you can't fine me, because fictional stories are my profession." This is a mockery of the social atmosphere and some of the darker aspects of human nature. People who love this kind of sketches treat the world with a semi-detached and indifferent attitude. Appreciators of this kind of humor often take a broader perspective—— That is to say, the so-called "God's eyes" look at oneself and human beings, and become a free and detached observer of oneself and human destiny.

In 1717, Voltaire was imprisoned in the Bastille for 11 months for mocking the regent, the Duke of Orléans.After he was released from prison, the philosopher who had suffered enough knew that this person could not be offended, so he went to ask him to be magnanimous, regardless of the past.The regent was well aware of Voltaire's influence, and was eager to turn his quarrel into friendship.So both of them said a lot of well-placed apologies.Finally, Voltaire once again expressed his gratitude and said: "Your Majesty, you are really helpful and have solved the problem of board and lodging for me for such a long time. I sincerely thank you again. But from now on, you don't have to worry about this matter again." Worry about it for me." It's light-hearted self-entertainment.For those young people who are just beginning to experience the taste of reasoning and are not deeply involved in world affairs, this may be of great interest. Mark Twain was in Richmond, USA one day, complaining about his headache.A local person said to him: "It may be because of the food you eat and the air you breathe in Richmond. There is no healthier city than Richmond. Our death rate is now reduced to Alone." Mark Twain immediately said to the man: "Please go to the newspaper office immediately and see if the damned person is dead today?" The forms and varieties of humor are colorful, and a hundred flowers compete for beauty, which shows that the human art of humor is enduring and vigorous.When we are attracted by its brilliance, we should see that, like most things in the world, humor also has different qualities, some are noble and elegant, enlightening people's minds; some are vulgar and harm young people.For those who use the power of humor, rational judgment and perspective are necessary. The charm of humor permeates every aspect of our life. We have to admit that a person who is good at using humor is full of charm.A psychologist told us: "If you can make one person have a good impression of you, then it is possible to make everyone around you, even the whole world, have a good impression of you. As long as you are not everywhere Shake people's hands, but spread your message with your friendliness, your wit, your wit, and the distance disappears." The characteristic of humor is to make people laugh and make people happy. Applying this characteristic to social life will achieve amazing results. From this example, we will experience the efficacy of social humor. Once, when U.S. President Reagan was speaking at the White House piano recital, his wife, Nancy, accidentally fell on the carpet under the stage, including her and her chair.Reagan, who was speaking, saw that his wife was not injured, so he interjected and said: "Honey, I told you that you should only perform like this when I don't get applause." There was a warm applause from the audience. It was originally an embarrassing matter for Reagan. At this time, if he complained or ignored it, it would be unpleasant, not only for the people in the audience, but also for those on the stage.When Reagan was in social crisis, he used humor to save the day, and achieved excellent results by surprise, showing his wit and open-mindedness, and shortening the distance with the audience. Humor is an essential gift for social activities and the best "seasoning" for active social occasions.It can add to people's joy, lightly brush away any unpleasantness that may linger, and it can also skillfully and gracefully get rid of dilemmas faced by oneself or others-this is the charm of humor. At a banquet, a fat capitalist said to Bernard Shaw with a smile: "Hello, Mr. Bernard Shaw! As soon as I saw you, I knew that there was a famine in the world." Bernard Shaw said unhurriedly: "Sir, I see When I see you, I will know why the world is suffering from famine." The two came and went in silence, expressing their meaning clearly but not revealing it, which is really wonderful! Modern humor theory holds that humor can generate a strong sense of companionship and consistent external aggression among participants.Humor can shorten the emotional distance between two people at once, because people who laugh together show that they already have common interests and hobbies. This is the first and crucial step for social success. There are countless examples of two people who are hostile to each other, laughing at each other and turning enemies into friends because of humor.Really smart people always rely on humor to make social interactions smoother and more humane. If you want to be successful, to be noticed, to be socially successful, to be invincible in modern life, then you should learn to have a little humor and a shared laugh with others. Lincoln, the former President of the United States, who was deeply loved by the American people, was ugly, which was originally an obstacle to likability.Lincoln recognized this, but instead of avoiding it, he used it to bring people closer. Once, Lincoln's political opponents said that Lincoln was a double-dealer.Lincoln said peacefully: "Now, let the audience judge, if I had another face, would I still wear this ugly face?" The timely and appropriate humor not only shows Lincoln's optimistic attitude, but also reflects his sincerity, which wins people's understanding and support, and also reveals the humanity and human touch that people need. It is true that humor cannot replace scientific methods to solve practical problems, it cannot make you lose weight, it cannot make you grow taller, it cannot help you get high grades, especially it cannot help you invent and create, but it can help you regulate interpersonal relationships.In the confusion that comes in life, it will help you turn passive into active, and replace heavy sighs with relaxed smiles.Learn to appreciate the true meaning of humor slowly, and be a charming and humorous person. With the continuous progress of material civilization and spiritual civilization, people are more and more able to appreciate and create humor, in order to live more relaxed and more enjoyable.Humor must not only make people laugh, but also mean something.The real humor should be witty and witty, full of wit, making people laugh more and more, and having enlightenment like sudden enlightenment.On the contrary, it is degraded to gag, and that kind of amusement is just like reaching out to someone's armpit.Humor is the natural display of intelligence accumulated to a certain degree, and the natural expression of reaction training to a certain degree.If you want to be humorous, you can only enrich yourself and improve yourself in a down-to-earth manner. American Trudeau said it well: "Humor is a characteristic, a characteristic that causes joy and entertains people in a pleasant way; a sense of humor is a kind of ability, a kind of ability to understand and express humor; humor is a kind of Art, an art that uses a sense of humor to enhance your relationship with others; humor is the lubricant of interpersonal relationships, it replaces complaints with a kind smile, avoids quarrels, and makes your relationship with others harmonious and more meaningful; humor It can help you relieve all kinds of pressure in life and get rid of difficulties; humor can help you overcome troubles, lift your spirits, and turn defeat into victory in frustration; humor can help you turn many impossibles into possibilities; humor has more depth than laughter, It produces far more than a grin. When you give your humor as a gift to others, you will get a corresponding or even more return; humor can make others like you and trust you because they don't have to worry about being judged. Make fun of, be ignored, so people want to work with humorous people, enjoy doing things for such people, and want to be a lifelong partner with a sense of humor; in short, humor is an indispensable force for all high-spirited people .” Before Roosevelt became the president of the United States, his home was burglarized, and his friends wrote to him to comfort him.Roosevelt wrote back and said: "Thank you for your letter, I am very peaceful now, I have to thank God, because: first, the thief only stole my property, and did not harm my life; second, the thief only stole part of the things, but not all; and thirdly, and most fortunately: he was the thief, not me." People who really understand the fun of humor, like President Roosevelt in the story, have an optimistic attitude towards life to discover humor and happiness, so that we will surely live in laughter. Once, Bernard Shaw was walking on the street and was knocked to the ground by a daredevil riding a bicycle. Fortunately, he was not seriously injured.The perpetrator hurriedly helped him up and apologized repeatedly. Bernard Shaw patted his buttocks and said humorously: "You are so unlucky, sir, if you kill me, you will be famous all over the world." The witty response of humor is not just eloquence, but a happy and mature attitude towards life. Mastering it is equivalent to mastering the crystallization of wisdom and the source of happiness.Only by learning humor can you be "optimistic about everything and look at life with a smile"; you can "speak out to be wisdom, and to speak out is the sound of nature". Humor master Lin Yutang once taught English in a certain university.On the first day of class, he walked into the classroom carrying a large leather bag. The students thought it was a textbook. When he opened it, they found peanuts in shells. Lin Yutang lectured on how to eat peanuts in English. He said: "To eat peanuts, you have to eat the shells. All the taste and taste are all in the shells. The stronger the shells, the more flavorful the peanuts." He added: "Peanuts are also known as longevity fruits. On the first day of class, please eat my longevity fruit and wish you immortality, I will not call names in class, I hope everyone will grow up after eating peanuts, and don’t play truant!" After speaking, the whole class smiled. General MacArthur wrote a prayer for his son, in addition to asking God to give his son "self-improvement in weakness; courage to face oneself in fear; perseverance in honest defeat; humility and gentleness in victory." "In addition, he also prayed to God to give him "a sufficient sense of humor."From this, we can better see the lofty value and affirmation of humor in Western society. The Indian poet Rabindranath Tagore received a letter from a girl: "You are a writer I admire. In order to show my admiration for you, I plan to use your name to name my beloved pug." Tagore wrote a reply letter to the girl: "I agree with your plan, but before naming it, you'd better discuss it with Pug and see if it agrees." Andersen, a Danish fairy tale writer, is very simple and often walks on the street wearing a worn-out hat.A passer-by laughed at him: "What's that thing on top of your head? Could it be a hat?" Andersen replied, "What's that thing under your hat? Could it be a head?" American politician Charles?When Edison ran for governor, he didn't want to use the reputation of his father (the great inventor Edison) to promote himself.Introducing himself he explained: "I don't want to be seen as taking advantage of Edison's fame. I'd rather you know that I'm just one of the results of my father's early experiments." One day, someone asked British Prime Minister Winston Churchill what it takes to be a politician.Churchill replied: "Politicians must be able to predict things that will happen tomorrow, next month, next year, and in the future." The man asked again: "What if the predicted things do not come true by then?" Churchill said: "Then what will happen?" Give me another reason." Humor is the lubricant of interpersonal communication, and it occupies a pivotal position in people's lives.But we must not forget that life is colorful, so when using humor, you must not abuse it. A punch line can bring relaxation and strength, but a continuous stream of punchlines, jokes, and sarcasm can also cut off communication.We may encounter someone who overwhelms us and flees an over-emphasized humor bombardment. Sometimes we will meet people with witty words, but we should not be competitive, but listen to his inner meaning and learn from each other's strengths. If you have injustices in your heart and just want to use humor to overwhelm the other party, then It may make the atmosphere tense and arouse the hostility of the other party, which will cause others to attack you in the future.Humor can make communication more harmonious, and use the laughter generated by humor to achieve the purpose of communicating with people, thus making the atmosphere very pleasant. Experience the fun of humor with your heart, and you can open your mouth to open the lotus fragrance; use your hands to do good deeds; A philosopher once said: "Humor is our dearest partner. We need humor in our lives, our lives need humor, and a healthy society cannot live without humor. Without humor, life will become monotonous and lack color. The years will become dull and dry. What humor gives us is a steady stream of oasis, which nourishes our hearts and embellishes our lives. Humor makes us see light in darkness and hope in despair. It It's a fire in the winter, it's a smile in times of embarrassment...the humor is wonderful and magical." Don't complain that you or the people around you lack a sense of humor. In fact, just notice that we are in an atmosphere of humor all the time. For example, it is difficult to take a bus, but everyone humorously calls it "the aria of the bus".Another example is that there are many people on the train, and the passengers did not hear the station name reported, and those who missed the stop hurriedly knocked on the door of the train, shouting: "Conductor, get off the bus!"A passenger interjected in time: "The conductor can't get off the bus. If the conductor gets off, who will sell the ticket?" The passenger responded with a smile, and the conductor became more amiable. Humor at this time is a lubricant that effectively alleviates conflicts and can well regulate interpersonal relationships. A young man who was not very good at driving saw an old man passing in front of him while riding his bicycle, and shouted repeatedly: "Don't move, don't move!" After the old man stopped, he was still knocked down by him.The young man quickly helped the old man up and apologized repeatedly.The old man said humorously: "So you told me not to move to aim!" Due to the humorous and free and easy attitude, the contradictions were skillfully resolved. There was a couple who went to visit a trendy art exhibition. When they came to an oil painting of a nude female with only a few leaves covering their private parts, the husband refused to leave for a long time.The wife couldn't bear it anymore, grabbed her husband fiercely and said, "Hey! Do you want to stand until autumn and wait for the leaves to fall before you are reconciled?" Humor at this time is a high-quality lubricant that is smooth and dry, and a safe air cushion to support the boat of love. Humor can help us eliminate troubles and relieve pain. Humor can also beautify and "musicize" our life, add laughter to life, and turn life into a colorful world. It is a beautiful thing for young people to hold a wedding, but this young man made his wedding icing on the cake with humor. The young man's surname is Zhang, and the bride's surname is Gu. He used their surnames to give an amazing love experience introduction: "The groom's surname is Zhang, and the bride's surname is Gu. Before we knew each other, I was looking around, and she was 'Gu' shadowing herself. Later, I 'Zhang' went to her tongue-tied, and she said she already loved someone, and I' Zhang'huang was at a loss and advised her to change her mind. She said that now she had to "concern" one thing and lose another. I pursued her with great fanfare, and she waited for me looking left and right. I know After a while, I will be open-minded, and she will have no scruples. So, I asked her to choose an auspicious opening, and she was also willing to "care"." The young man hangs "color" in every sentence, and his ridicule makes people smile.Here, humor is the flower of happiness, the fruit of joy, the freshly unsealed wine, and the warm spring breeze. There is no lack of humor in life, what is lacking is the eyes to discover humor.